Any of your husbands are back to work already?

[missjess]

My husband has started working again about a month ago... I'm finding it a bit hard especially at night if Josh wakes up more than once. I feel so tired during the day. I try to get everything done around the house and make dinner etc because I feel bad for him if the house isn't clean or dinner not ready (he's been working all day)

He was such a good help when he was around !!!

So the ladies that are in the same boat, do you find it hard? Do you feel guilty if you don't get everything done?

 

[Deise]

My OH was back to work three days after delivery, but he works where we live (on a horse farm), so he pops in all the time during the morning and most of the time he's done after 12PM. So in essence, he doesnt need to be off all the time..

 

[Always&4ever]

My husband spends more time being sent away then we'd like, he goes away for 3months on the 16th June which is going to be a nightmare.

 

[missjess]

My husband spends more time being sent away then we'd like, he goes away for 3months on the 16th June which is going to be a nightmare.

I really feel for you!!! My husband will spend most of the summer away as well. I'm dreading it!

 

[AquaDementia]

My husband never took any days off, maybe that's why I am in a such a shitty situation a month and a half later.

 

[xCherylx]

My OH had 3 weeks off after Jack was born which so great to have a helping hand but now he has gone back to work I feel totally lost and lonely. But I think it doesn't help with the lack of sleep and not being able to catch up in the day as I'm at college. Luckily I finish next week so I can sleep for a week

 

[Linzi]

My OH is going back a week on monday and Im dreading it. i really feel for you Jazzy - Matt has been so great I don't think I could do without him now.

xxx

 

[leeanne]

Owns his own businesses so he never stops work.

Well, guess what, this time he's going to have to slow down. He will have two kids to take care of while I am in the hospital for 4 days. LOL Should be interesting!

 

[coz]

my partner went back to work 2 weeks ago he had 2 weeks off and was so nice to have the extra help it was so weird when he went back to work and it was just me a baby charlie on our own but ive got used to it now allthough its so tiering when i dont get much sleep but i just try and have a little sleep in the day when he sleeps to catch up xxx

 

[luckyme225]

Since Tyler has went back to work I've found the nights are harder and less gets done during the day for sure. I do feel bad sometimes when he comes home and nothing is done but I know he understands.

 

[~KACI~]

Don't feel guilty he works all day so do you- looking after a baby isn't sittin on your backside all day!! By the sounds of it you do quite alot!! Just do as much as you can and don't feel guilty for a sleep in the day-you're getting up in the night, my OH totally understands he's never got up wit either of our two in the night so when he gets back from work i'm usually havin my sleep, so he'll get my older one up, make a cuppa for us then wake me. Don't stress about cleaning enjoy time with Josh caz they grow up so quick!! x x

 

[taughtandlost]

my oh had 3 weeks off which was brilliant. It was hard when he went back to work and he's just started a new job with longer hours so I don't get much time off! It's definately harder I think being at home with a kid than going out to work. When you go out to a 'real' job, you leave the work behind when you come home and I think it's loads more tiring having to listen to a baby cry all day than to do any other job!

 

[mickey]

I delivered on a Sunday and OH went straight back to work on Monday as he is on contract and therefore gets paid by hours!

it was really difficult in the beginning, especially as he comes usually home late as well, around 9pm!

as well, we don't have any relatives in UK, beside of his twin brother, who didn't really know how to help!

I really had a tough time!!!

 

[Ratty]

Don't feel bad at all. I do the night duty on my own so that hubby can get a good nights rest. By the time he gets home from work I'm buggered so if baby is awake he takes over those duties and when done makes me supper while I have a nice relaxing soak in the bath or go lie down for a bit.

Its a lot harder being up a couple of times during the night and then still having to look after the little one all day and somewhere in between remember to look after yourself, do washing etc than getting a good nights sleep and going to the office for 8 hours.

 

[Margerle]

DH took a day off for delivery and then two days off post partum. He was back to work yesterday.

I'm actually working today Though baby is in the other office sleeping



I have my 12 yo at home too who has been an ANGEL at helping out and she loves her little sister.

I'm breast feeding this one too, and in the beginning these babies are pretty booby dependent so mama ends up being the sole caregiver a lot of the time.

I guess I'm very lucky.

New mamas- you're going to have great days and then some bad days. Make sure you're looking at the overall picture of caregiving to your family, and not the daily stuff right now. I know the supper dishes need taking care of, but before you know it baby will be toddling around and will be a little more self sufficient.

Hang in there

 

[AquaDementia]

What do you do Margerle?

 

[smartie]

My husband had to go back to work a week after Hannah was born. He has taken this week off though which was lucky as I was diagnosed with mastitis yesterday and have been feeling terrible but the antibiotics should soon sort it out.

 

[missjess]

Sorry smartie, hope you feel better !!! xx

 

[Always&4ever]

I really feel for you!!! My husband will spend most of the summer away as well. I'm dreading it!

Me to, thats one of the only things I hate about being an army wife

 

[missjess]

Me to, thats one of the only things I hate about being an army wife