Any one have to wait until after AF is late for a BFP?

[pieceofpie]

MrsD, My prayers are with you and I hope that everything works out for the best. I would be the one to suggest that you stay off your feet until tomorrow but you know your body best. Truly keep us posted on what the doctor says.

Kla, I am not offended about the fund, it was just a suggestion. Its actually located in Canada, as stated before I will find some way of getting rid of the funds. I truly have no need for it like that so its just sitting there doing nothing...maybe when I am much older I will reinvest it or cash it in and travel.

I would like to go to Cayman Islands or back to Amsterdam or Germany I was living there in 1998 and 2001 and just love it. I also have family in England but not much of a fan, I love to visit but that is about it. No Dwayne wont be coming with me I would like to start my life afresh basically to relax and enjoy myself. I work in the Financial industry so getting a job should not be a problem for me and I also teach adults how to budgets and understand the economy.

I am comfortable in every area of my life except the child part and it must be a reason for that. Enough about me and my feelings etc.

How are you and the baby? and once again I am praying for you and the baby MrsD. FX and hopeful.

 

[MrsD140810]

Hi ladies. It's not good news I'm afraid.
They couldn't pick up anything on the ultrasound, other than what she thinks is an empty sac.
So I have 'Pregnancy of unknown location', which means one of 3 things:
- My dates could have been wrong and I could be too early into my pregnancy for anything to show up on the ultrasound (which I really doubt)
- It could be an ectopic pregnancy (which she said there doesn't seem to be any signs of)
- Miscarriage (which is looking like the most likely)

I've had a blood test and will get the results in the morning. I then have to go for another one 48 hours later. This is to see the level of hcg hormone to determine if it's rising or falling to see if I'm pregnant or not.

I am absolutely devastated. I can't stop crying. I know this is normal and happens to lots of people but I can't help but feel so upset. On the plus side, the sonographer said that everything looked healthy and it is a positive sign that I got pregnant so early after coming off the pill.

I just hate that I still don't have any definite answers, although I have convinced myself it's a miscarriage. My husband still doesn't want to completely rule out that I'm not pregnant.

Feel so miserable and don't know what to do with myself anymore. I only got my BFP 3 weeks ago but I feel like my whole world has been tipped upside down. Times like this I really want my mum but unfortunately she passed away from cancer when I was 18.

Thank you for all your support ladies. I'm not going to leave this forum.. hopefully we can stick together while you carry on with your pregnancies and I can hopefully start trying again soon.

Will let you know the results of the blood test.

 

[KLa826]

Oh MrsD- I am so incredibly sorry- though I hope you know, lots of love and prayers are coming to you and for a different outcome! Please don't lose hope yet!!! If this isn't your time, I've read that some insanely hight percentage of women who miscarry their first pregnancy go on to have perfectly healthy, happy pregnancies shortly after. Try and think of this in a somewhat positive way- you know you can get pregnant and for many women that is half the battle!!!
I am so sorry your mom can't be with you during this tough time but please know that we are and it sounds like your DH is incredibly supportive and loving, too! It may be time to tell a close friend or relative as well- to have someone else there to help you through.
Lots of love and prayers to you... Please keep us posted!!!

 

[pieceofpie]

MrsD, I am so sorry to hear this kind of news and I know how you feel somewhat. I am with your husband on this one, I just refuse to rule out loss until all test confirms it.

The beta test is an excellent one and would indeed inform if there was a miscarriage if any.

I agree that at this moment you need one very close to you and so sorry that your mum could not be here to comfort you. Again I must say that I hate the system of waiting for so long to see a doctor. It is like closing the gate when the horse already escape..

This is not the time to be alone and you need persons to communicate with either as a group or on a one and one basis. I needed it two years ago.

Sometime if it is indeed a miscarriage, it could be the body's way of dealing with a problem pregnancy and it is known for the mother to go on and have another healthy pregnancy. You will hurt, mourn and cry because each pregnancy is different and its a life but take hope into knowing that another one is on the way.

I will keep you in my prayers that you pull through this heart-wrenching moment and if you need to grieve take all the time in the world. The ladies on this board are wonderful and would be there for you.

Please keep us posted........HUG!!!!((((((((())))))

 

[amanda111308]

MrsD I want you to know that I am with you right now in spirit. I just want to give you the biggest bear hug imaginable and I want to share something with you if infact this is a miscarriage occurring. I lost a twin pregnancy 2 years ago between 14-16 weeks gestation and it was incredibly difficult to endure. Pieceofpie has made a very true statement above this post. Almost everyone I know that has ever suffered a miscarriage has gone on to have healthy and happy pregnancies and babies and most of those women it was within months of the loss to learn of the new pregnancy.

I am one of those women I spoke of I lost my twins and a year later than my original due date I had my son. Nothing is 100% confirmed so please do not lose hope. I am praying hard for you darling so please keep your chin up! We will never fully understand why things like this happen in life but I believe deeply that there is a reason.

Please keep us informed on any updates, we are here to support you and help carry you through these uncertain times. I agree with pieceofpie also with surrounding yourself with people/a trusted person who will understand and provide a source of positivity for you and your husband.

From my family to yours giant hugs!! Lots of love hunnie.

 

[moni77]

Mrs D - I am also pulling for you and if it is indeed a loss, very sorry. I know a couple of people personally who had a miscarriage and shortly thereafter went full term. It will be tough, but it is not a sign of any problems with you or your body.

Good luck and my fingers are crossed for a positive finding with the blood work!

 

[MrsD140810]

Thank you so much all of you for your support and kind words. It really means a lot and I'm so lucky to have such a great, supportive group of you here.

I'm feeling a little better now. I just want to know for definite. Annoying it may be several days yet until I find out. Having period type cramps and the bleeding is getting heavier (although still very light in comparison to a period and still only brown)

We've decided to wait until we have a definite answer and then tell very close family and friends. Not too many people though. I am seeing my brother tomorrow and although we aren't amazingly close when it comes to emotional issues, he has always been there for me in the past and I have been through a lot with him. So I may talk to him. Also, a close friend knew I was pregnant so I will definitely confide in her. I'm hoping talking to a few close people will help me come to terms with it.

Just praying it's not ectopic. Although the sonographer said it was unlikely that it was. I am holding on to the fact that she said I looked really healthy on the ultrasound and it's good we got pregnant so quickly. Your positive stories help too.

I am relieved I am off work at the moment so I don't need to worry about that, but also it would be good to have something like work to distract me!

On a lighter note, the blood test today was a piece of piss after the internal ultrasound! Jeez, I was NOT expecting it to be that uncomfortable!! The sonographer said it would be 'slightly uncomfortable for a few seconds'. Liar!! Not the most pleasant of experiences! Ouch!

Thanks again for your lovely thoughts and prayers. I may unburden on here quite regularly, but don't feel the pressure to reply to all of my ranting! Hope you're all well ladies.

 

[pieceofpie]

MrsD, I came back on just to check on you and get an update of your condition. First and foremost boards like this was created for us to talk about what we are feeling and currently happening in our lives when it comes to pregnancies. Therefore, if you feel the need to rant and rave by all means please do because it will make you feel so much better and allow us to understand fully exactly what you are going through.

I can give you this piece of advice please lay down in the bed or setee with your feet slightly elevated above the pelvic area. This will stop the contractions and ease the pain, try to move around as little as possible. I had a MC almost two years ago, I did not develop the bond you have because I discover the pregnancy the same day it happen but I knew my doctors made a whole bunch of fuss over me and me losing the baby. They even had me laying in hospital as I stated above to prevent but alas it was too late. They say a sac but no baby, I was hurt and disappointed, at that time I wish I knew about these board so that I could have shared what I was going through at that time.

My point is please use us to the best of our ability, that is why we form a group to be there for each other no matter what or where we are located. We all share two things in common. We are women and we are ttc. That said I am sure we understand each other and what you are going through again.

I am praying that the result comes back very much positive and we can continue with a happy board as before.

 

[paigies mumma]

Mrs D, I cannot imagine what you may be going through, I'm hoping you realise how much support you have you are very loved here, I've heard that ectopic pregnancies are quite painful on one side, so if there is little to no pain on either side, I think you're looking good (although I am not a dr and I really don't want to come across that way ) it is wonderful you have some lovely support networks out there. Please please take care xxx thinking of you

 

[moni77]

So I don't mean to change the subject but I have a question and you ladies are a wealth of knowledge. I started using the clear blue fertility monitor last month. Last month I had about 2 days of high fertility followed by two days of peak fertility around day 12-13 of my cycle - I didnt actually write it down. This month - yesterday (day 8) was low and this morning (day 9) was peak - no high occurred and pretty early in the cycle right? Plus my temp had spiked - I thought that was just because I was awake in bed for awhile before I remembered to take it - but now I am thinking that I already ovulated this month. My doctor appointment is not until Sept 16th to start the fertility testing. Just curious if you all have any ideas of what this means - especially since I was 4 days late last month.

MrsD you are still in my thoughts and prayers and my fingers are crossed for you...

 

[MrsD140810]

Bad news. I'm currently in hospital. They think its ectopic. They rang me this morning with the results of the blood test and said the level of hcg hormone was really high. Told me to come in. After lots of tests I am now on a ward and awaiting the results of the tests to see if they need to operate. Still not bleeding too much and still not in too much pain.
So upset but got my family with me. Thank you for your prayers and support. Keep them coming! Xx

 

[pieceofpie]

MrsD, I am so sorry about what you are currently going through, I know it hurts when you think that the happiness you were having got snatch from you. I want you to know that you are in everyone's prayer and I am happy that you have your family around you when you needed it most. I thought if anything the hcg would be low and not high if there was a m/c?

I will communicate with my best friend who is a doctor I did not get that far up. Did you ask as to what could have been the possible cause if they do know or would this now put you in a high risk category when the next pregnancy takes effect?

How much longer would you have to wait in order to conceive again? 3mths or 6mmths. I truly wish we could all view each other at once and have a prayer session for you. Also when is the operation schedule or will they let stay in bed for a while to see what is happening exactly? Are you giving you magnesium to help control any pressure buildup and slow contraction, Baralgin to stop any contraction or pain or oxyecotin to bring on contraction?

If they don't operate then its not an ectopic but a complete. Once again you are in my prayers and I truly wish you all the best.

I am not a doctor or ever will but I do have some knowledge of medicine just not enough.

I have never used clear blue so could not give any suggestion on this, I would indeed leave it to the ladies here. I am however keeping my fingers cross for you.

 

[KLa826]

MrsD- sending you all the love and prayers I can across this big wide world!
If it is ectopic- thank goodness they caught it quickly! I am still hoping beyond hopes that maybe you just O'd later than you thought and everything is ok. Glad you aren't in too much pain and glad you have family there to support you!!! Wish we could all be there holding your hands, too!!! Please keep us posted!

Moni- I used the same OPK and never got a "high fertility" blinking a smiley, either. When I called the hotline they said I may have started testing too late for the test to pick up the increase in estrogogen, but it still caught the LH spike. Hope that helps!

 

[pieceofpie]

Frigging depress today and unhappy as shit. Going to down several bottles of rum and pop some pills hopefully I wont wake till morning.

 

[pieceofpie]

Please no pity comments or comments period. Just needed to vent and left to myself.

 

[KLa826]

(((((hugs))))) piece!

 

[KLa826]

Not a comment - an action

 

[MrsD140810]

Hi ladies.
Piece I hope you're feeling better.
I'm still in hospital but can go home today as long as I can stand up and walk without falling, pee on my own without a catheter and not be sick.
They operated yesterday and there was no sign of an ectopic. They think its just a miscarriage. They found 'something' which could have been the egg and they removed that and cleaned me out.
They are now just monitoring my hcg levels as a result of the blood tests. The doctor said they should now be going down. I really pray they do. Yesterday was a very frightening day and I don't want to go through it again!
On the bright side (if there is a bright side) as it wasn't ectopic, I still have my tubes and my chances of conceiving should still be exactly the same.
I just want to get better now, so we can grieve for our loss and move on. I'm going to have a month or two break from ttc.
Thank you for all your kind words and support as always.
Hope you're doing well KLa

 

[moni77]

MrsD - again sorry to hear the news. It seems that I know more people who have suffered a miscarriage then those who have not - and I learn about more everyday as I talk to friends about ttc. Everyone I know has also gone on to have regular pregnancies and have beautiful children. Take the time and when you are ready (medically and mentally) get back on here!

Hope everyone else is well.

 

[KLa826]

MrsD- I am so sorry to hear your news, and even more sorry it's taken me so long to post- it was a crazy weekend. Have your blood tests been coming back as expected? I hope you can get a little bit of closure and peace to move on. We are all here for you whenever you need us!

Piece- how are you doing? Any more big plans for your move? I visited Amsterdam and a few places in Germany last year and loved both countries!!

Moni- how are things with you? In the TWW?