Any one have to wait until after AF is late for a BFP?

Even with this heavy rain we are having I am feeling wonderful. No stress of ttc , why did I wait so long to do this. I see my doctor tomorrow in regards to my ovaries hope all goes well.

Take care ladies.
 
So glad to hear you are doing well, Piece!!! Please keep us posted about your dr appt. I will have my FXd that all goes smoothly! :-D sending you lots of hugs!!

MrsD - go on your trip and live your life! :-) life is too short to have regrets and you don't want to miss out on something wonderful because for something that hasn't happened yet. And besides- Greece sounds like a lovely place to have some fun BDing!

AFM- waiting game... Proud of myself for not dwelling or symptom spotting just going about my business. Not going to test until AF is late (at least that's my goal?! Hoping I can last!)
 
Kla, thanks I just don't know, I am feeling so good about myself now that I am not symptom checking or tempting. I am really surprise at myself at how fast I was able to quit when I thought I could not. My test is to ensure that the shot I was getting to prevent cancer has actually work. This is the first time I am looking forward to my appointment because I know I don't have cancer and the treatment has indeed work only need the confirmation and then I can move on with my life. I want to get my body ready for the upcoming summer vacation that is officially next month and be a darling for my birthday.
The bank where I work close and relocate to the Cayman's so I am now on the field looking for another job and let me tell you the market is tough over here. I know have a lot of free time to do a lot of things such as spin class, more exercise and coming in terms with myself. I was able for the first time in years to really enjoy two beers without feeling guilty and my favourite Coke Cola, so all in all this thing is not so bad.
I will be here cheering you ladies on in your journey because I know that it will happen for each and everyone of you. My fingers cross

Sorry about the post being all about me but I am just so excited.
 
Well ladies how are you doing, it is amazing how dull this board has become after all that hype and excitement of a few days ago/

Today I had my visit with my doctor and have to go back on Monday. The news today was a grim one in that they suspect that I may be going through early menopause.. I did not even get the chance to go through perimenopause just period to menopause and the only thing I am told is that there is two others like myself. My mom cannot understand it nor can I. I mean I started having my periods at 12/13 all my family members including mom and sister stop in their fifties so how came I am different?
I don't even know what to feel at the moment because AF and I had developed this love hate relationship and to know that by next year she will be gone for good is not very comforting. I cant believe I wasted my life saving and building for a better life for me and my kids only to end up with none. So true never plan just let it happen because if I did just that I know I would have about five children by now.

Anyway I am going to try and not stress about it and will just sit back for awhile and ponder what I am going to do with my life and what I worked for. The funny thing is I am not up set just numb.

Bye everyone.
 
Hi Piece,
Sorry for the delay. I was in Toronto for a concert- even though it's only an hour and a half away it's a different country so the cost to use my phone would have been nuts :)

I am so sorry to hear that they think it may be menopause... Can I ask, how old are you? Like you, I have never really heard of it hitting women much before their mid fifties. Have you had any more discussion about IUI or IVF? Is that something that could still be possible before menopause complete sets in? If not, have you ever thought of adoption? I know it isn't the "same" as carrying your own child, but myy husband is adopted and I can tell you that as far as he is concerned his adoptive parents are his only parents. His only interest in his birth parents is because he wonders about siblings.
You have so much going for your and so much to be proud of (just from what I know of you from our conversations here). I'd hate to see this be the end of the journey for you. Please stay positive, keep hope...Drs are wrong all the time. Hopefully this will be one of those cases!

Prayers and love your way!!!
 
Kla is absolutely right!! Doctors are wrong ALL the TIME!! Don't give up Hun, I believe in my heart that this is going to happen for you! I also agree with kla on adoption my best friend was adopted and she feels the same way! She was an unwanted gender from Asia and was adopted by a lovely family here in Canada. You will be a mom one way or another I just feel it in my bones!!

Love hugs and prayers sent your way Hun. Don't be discouraged Hun you just keep going. One day this will all have just been a silly dream that made no sense at all.
 
Kla is absolutely right!! Doctors are wrong ALL the TIME!! Don't give up Hun, I believe in my heart that this is going to happen for you! I also agree with kla on adoption my best friend was adopted and she feels the same way! She was an unwanted gender from Asia and was adopted by a lovely family here in Canada. You will be a mom one way or another I just feel it in my bones!!

Love hugs and prayers sent your way Hun. Don't be discouraged Hun you just keep going. One day this will all have just been a silly dream that made no sense at all.
 
Oh wow! AF finally just showed up!!! Yay!! I hope I never have another 93 cycle!! Insane!! Day 5 of taking Vitex (angus castus) and 2 weeks on maca root capsules!! I am so happy it worked!!
 
Piece.. So sorry to hear your news from the doctor. When will you find out for definite? Don't give up hope yet. I am sure you will be a mum soon..one way or another. Thinking of you and hope you're ok.
Amanda - pleased your AF finally showed. What a relief! Such a long cycle though! I thought my 40 day cycle was bad enough! You can now move on to next month and hopefully a much more steady cycle!
Hope all you ladies are well.
 
Kla, Amanda and MrsD, Thank you ladies for the comment and encouraging words but I am still pissed about it. I am in my late thirties but a few years before forty, I was an accidental birth of my mom so my siblings are much older than I am. I thought that with menopause one would sometimes have missing periods. In my early thirties my period was missing for a year and then it become regular prior to that it was irregular and now I have a period between 29/38 days. 38 days being very rare, I am more on the 30 days cycle, I have been charting, checking cervix and bbt and all indicates ovulation.

However for the past month or so I have been having hot flashes which starts from my back down not my face. My face would be the last place and this month, constipation, hot flashes, mood swing, sadness, depression, sharp breast pains to the nipples, enlarge breast and bloated all clinical signs of menopause.. I have 21 symptoms out of a possible 36 signs for menopause so in essence the signs are all there in black and white.
When I was in my twenties and decided that I wanted a child later I worked towards it. I pay currently into an education fund from I was pregnant with my child and never stopped, I saved every month into an account called it pregnancy account for the past twelve years. I have set aside other assets just in case there ever was a baby because I did not want to have a child and unforeseen circumstance comes up and the kid would be without. Guess the joke is on me.
 
Amanda- you must be letting out a sigh of relief! Glad to hear you can move forward after all that hassle!

Piece- please don't be so down! There is no joke on you as all the things you've done just show what a phenomenal parent you WILL be. Please don't give up- there are other options that will still end with the same outcome: you being an incredible mom!
 
Hi ladies how are you all.

Sorry ladies = wanted to share a story about a good friend of mine who is going nowhere fast enough = let me know if you think life is unfair in this instance.

I know life is not fair, yesterday when I went to pay my electricity bill in the Mall, I saw a friend of mine by the name of Louise. She was pregnant the same time I had my M/C two years ago ( her baby was born in December and mine was due for January). The thing is Louise is a careless good for nothing, no ambition or have any idea where in life she wants to be. Her dad left her a home close to where my mom lives but a better quality neighbourhood than my mom this woman don't want the house and would rather it fall apart. At the time she was pregnant for a thug/bum who had her sleeping on floors in old leaking building in ghettos, she could not afford medical treatment, food, clothing and in the end a place to live. She was living in shelters two weeks at a time when not with the boyfriend. I took her under my wing and ensure that she sees a doctor (government of course) insist that she remove a tooth because of the pain, took and stayed with her whenever asthma attack because we both are asthma patient. Got her clothing, something to eat basically everything, that I was being told that I was taking too much on my shoulders in regards to this lady. I just see it as me still being pregnant so it was nice to do these things for her and I had told her that I would take the baby if she had problems with it. Trust me dealing with Louise was like dealing with a five year old who has tantrum when they don't get what they want and oh she gambles. She had the baby and pick up her life got a job as a security officer in the mall and live in an area above a ghetto somewhat. I am proud of her because both she and the baby daddy seems to be trying to make something of themselves. Last month she contacted me because she wanted $250 to help make up for her rent because the baby daddy had moved out and went to live with his sister and the land lord was telling her to move if she could not pay him. Two weeks after sorting herself out she is back with the baby daddy and been the thug and pot head bum he is he finds it hard to get a job so she is supporting him on a 3.00 per hour job. I have been receiving text messages from her for about a week or so which I did not answers because I have my issue and did not need whatever the load is she wanted to unburden on me. So imagine my shock yesterday when she told me she is again six weeks pregnant and this time its not for the bum boyfriend but another thug who she met three weeks before having sex with him and after she told him she is pregnant has disappeared. Here is the kicker she and thug/Bum boyfriend is and were still together and living two corners away from my mom house when she allegedly had this sexual fling with thug #2 and currently have not told him about the pregnancy as yet. Now she wants to know if my mom would allow her, thug boyfriend and her daughter to come and live with her until she can do better. I mean is this woman for feel? she does not listen, she is nasty, they boyfriend is a thug who smokes etc..now she is somewhat angry because I don't want her in my mom house. Heck my mom don't want her in her house because she does not like her. I was so angry with her yesterday that I could not stop cussing her out into the Mall for being so damn stupid, now I have to go and purchase all medications for her again because she has none, she has nothing so its the same thing all over again dejae vu also I must say that I was upset with myself as well because I could not understand how in heck she could get pregnant with nothing and now three children to suffer and I cannot even have one. Oh she was married before and have a teenage daughter that has been living with her ex-husband mother from the age of three, the girl is now 17. Louise is a thirty seven / eight year old woman making stupid mistakes like this one, and to be honest I don't think I can or want to help her out with this kid because I know each time I look at her I would be disgusted and jealous of what she can accomplished and I cant. Knowing that I have to spend and do for her and maybe just maybe she will go back and do the same things. As I sit here in bed typing this note I am questioning myself if it is right to feel this way. I know Dwayne will insist that I don't help her and let her fend for herself because he is cold like that.

Here we are as woman going through all this crop to get pregnant some of us can and some cant and she is dropping babies like rabbit. I told her I will take her after the birth of this one to get birth control she looked at me like I was crazy. smt.
 
I know a few people like this... People who seriously have no business procreating. There was a girl I grew up with who had 4 kids for 4 different men by the time she was 20yrs old... But insisted she wasn't a slut... Pardon my language but it really does strike a nerve when I meet wonderful people who DESERVE to be parents and have the proper means to care for those little blessings.

I have gotten rid of my Facebook soo many times because I can't stand to watch (unfortunately most) of the folks on my friends list make a total mess of their lives all the while knowing better.

My own sister is pregnant and has no job but her baby daddy works on the oil rigs here in Alberta (Canada) so she will never have to lift a finger. People like that kind of piss me off too but much less than those who know life isn't quite going so well but decide to be negligent and bring kids into a shitty situation(like the one you described) it is truly the children that suffer.

Bottom line is you can't help everyone and you aren't responsible for her and her stupid actions. However if you know her children are abused or neglected or whatever you can do your part protecting them by reporting the living situation.


As for you piece, please try not to stress yourself out, you have a great life ahead of you. Everyday the road is paved a little more from what we learn and experience. Being a mom is extremely possible no matter what the doctors say. We already know you can get pregnant and that is a huge plus I my books!!

Chin up Hun your rainbow is coming :) *hugs*
 
Amanda you understand what I am talking about. How in hell could she go and get pregnant when she does not even have a home. The really nice house she has she let it go to ruins and around the place begging for cash because she cannot afford this one. She was at my home this morning for me to take her to the clinic this evening so that she can get some prenatal. The sad story is she does not even know the baby daddy full name and only his street name.....who in their right mind sleep with a thug for one and sleep with someone who you don't even know the name? without using protection.

Louise act like she is a baby but as I told she is dumb as fuck and I am sorry that I know her because she is an asshole without the hole. (please excuse my language ) She and thug #1 got put out of their apartment last night in the rain so now she will be staying in a shelter with the baby girl and he will go back home until something could be sorted out. I asked her if thug #2 got in contact with her since yesterday morning or does she know where to find him I would take her and she said no. Her suggestion to me is that she wants to abort this baby without letting thug#1 know she is pregnant and want to know if I could lend her 500 to get it done. See this woman wants me to join her in her wrong doings. I am pro abortion but not in this sense, what the use of getting an abortion only to end up back pregnant in another few months or so.

It is getting tiring here in the Bahamas everywhere you look all you see is teenagers with babies some as young as 9 pregnant and they have no shame sometimes the tourist are taking pictures of them and they think it is so cute. I told them it does not look good on the country as a whole. The funny thing is once the children pass the age of 6 they are left on their own to suffer, they are dirty, underfed and Kiwanis international has to help out every year in regards to getting back to school. Children are begging on the road, working as packing boys in the foodstores, car washers, selling paper...child labours to the max all because they see this as one big doll house. Makes no sense to me Amanda, makes no sense at all.

Anyway I am glad you must be breathing a sigh of relief eh. Anything special going forward because I would love for you gals to get preggo real soon at least let me have some enjoyment and happiness on this thread please.

Kla big up to you and I glad you enjoy the concert.

MrsD fingers cross on the next go around.

I bought a kindle fire and having the hardest time using it? I just cant get the stupid thing anyone can walk me through it because this is the first gadget I have gotten and don't know how to work it.
 
I completely agree with you Piece. It's just not fair that some people can get pregnant 'just like that' whereas others who are in loving relationships with a stable life struggle! It's a similar story here in England, although children aren't getting pregnant! I can't believe the situation over there in the Bahamas! We have a lot of teenage mums who often end up as single parents.
I feel quite annoyed at the moment too. My step sister has recently announced she is pregnant. I don't really get on with her or that side of the family. She is only 21 years old and has just got into a relationship with a guy in his 30's after recently splitting up with her boyfriend of a few years. This guy who got her pregnant has already got kids with another woman! She's only 21, still lives with her mum and manages to get pregnant straight away. And here I am..happily married for 3 years, with my own home, good career...and it's not proving easy! Really annoying and it does make me angry! So I can completely empathise with you Piece.
Sorry Piece, can't help with the kindle. Never had one!
I have now finished work for the summer. Got a lovely 6 weeks off so hopefully I can relax a bit. Just hoping that if I don't have work to think about, I don't start over thinking the baby stuff!
Hope you're all well ladies and have a great weekend!
 
Hi ladies,

Piece- you are TOO kind! Though I am sure it is hard (impossible?) for you to turn a blind eye to the situation, she sounds like the kind of woman who will just keep coming back to you for more instead of ever taking responsibility and learning her lesson. I can totally understand you feeling as though you need to help her, but are you even sure she is using the money you give her for what she's supposed to be? Ugh- I am so sorry you are in this situation at all.

My turn to empathize and gripe about the unfairness of life, and MrsD I am sure you can probably relate as you are a teacher...There are families within my school district with multiple children (I'm talking 3+) and these kids come to school dirty, smelling of cigarette smoke, without the necessary supplies, assignments etc...One little boy came with a snack that actually had ants in it telling me stories about how his step dad punished him by making him eat rotten strawberries. We make calls to authorities and nothing ever happens. He has two younger brothers. That's just one example. At the risk of sounding... well...harsh? I have said before that I almost feel as though people should be required to get a license to have children. You have to prove your ability to drive a car, they have background checks and applications to adopt a dog at a rescue shelter, why on earth shouldn't people have to PROVE their ability to care for a human being??
That's my rant on that topic!

I am finding myself symptom spotting ladies and really trying not to...I estimate about 6-8 DPO and 2 days ago I had AF like cramping and three little spots of blood when I wiped once after a simple #1 (just pee...sorry if TMI). Woke up in the middle of the night last night with severe muscle cramping in my side, followed shortly after by throbbing breast pain in one spot of one breast- I've never had anything like that before. Probably NOTHING I keep telling myself but I am still fighting this internal battle to test or not to test. I want to wait until after AF is due (the 28th) but just don't know if I'll be able to... Oh the games we play with ourselves!!

MrsD- Happy summer vacation :) I am in the same boat- I think if I had work to distract me it might be a little easier to ignore my so called "symptoms" or keep my mind more wrapped up!

Amanda- How are you doing? Has AF been a total witch to you or is she fairly normal? Hope she isn't beating you up too badly!
 
Wishing you all the best for this month KLa. Try your best not to test! Stay strong!! Symptoms sound interesting! Keep us informed!
I have no idea when I ovulated. I wasn't tracking it this month. Because my cycles have been all over the place, it has meant my timing is always off! So this month we have been DTD every other day and not paying much attention or doing OPK's. So I don't know if I am DPO or not! However, yesterday I felt really queasy on and off all day. I also felt exhausted. I had slight pain in ovary too. So not sure if I ovulated then? Also today I feel completely shattered and have felt a little queasy too. Is it possible to feel sick when ovulating?! I don't know if my tiredness is something to do with what's going on with my body, or if I'm just tired from the end of the school year now I've finished work for the summer!
Trying really hard not to symptom spot and just continue with the same attitude I have had so far this month.
How are you doing Piece? Hope AF hasn't been too bad for you Amanda!
 
How much weight do we put on our dreams, ladies? Going to bed last night I said a little prayer for a clue or some insight... And I dreamt that I took a pregnancy test and it said "no." Think I got my answer! I don't remember anything else from the dream unfortunately. Time to take my own advice and relax and take it one day at a time!

MrsD- I've never heard of queasiness during ovulation.. When did you last get AF? What you're describing sounds pretty interesting...hope you feel better soon!

Hope you are doing well, Piece and Amanda!
 
Hi ladies!!

Had a very eventful weekend moving into our new place, so excited to be setting up the house the way we want. Feeling sad tonight reading about young children being left in cars and dying. Just posted in baby club a few minutes ago at a lady trying to defend forgetful moms... Umm how the f*** do you forget your baby that you love and is with you everyday in an inferno of a car while you shop and dilly dally...

2 recent deaths in Canada that have made headlines. I am sick to my stomach I am that upset! Sorry ladies this is an add on rant from the other day. But I just need to get this out. I have talked my hubby's ear off tonight but he is on bed sleeping yet I lay here awake stewing over it still. I just want to slap sense into people... Why would you defend someone for being so irresponsible and careless... My son is my everything he goes everywhere I go... I never "forget" about him ever!!!

Shit like this makes me so scared to put my lil man in daycare since I am returning to work soon. If some caregiver ever left my baby in a car heads would roll!!

Anyways rant over... Sorry ladies this AF visit has done a number on my hormones having been so long between cycles... :'( I just want to cry for unfortunate children and eat my own weight in ice cream...
 

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