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Any other single moms by choice?

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ah got ya. i did icsi cause supposedly it is better with frozen sperm. plus i liked the idea of having the best chance of fertilization. no i had enough savings. didnt have to take a loan
 
i have heard that icsi is better with frozen sperm also.. But RE told me it also has to do with egg quality and since I am only 23, my eggs should be good to fertilize on there own.

I have no savings.. or anything to pull money out of because all of it has gone to previous surgeries. I really thought I would have the option of IUI first. Hearing the words "IVF" really shocked me at first, given my age.

But RE has helped out as much as possible which I am very grateful for! I just found out they have managed to get most of my medication donated from pharmacies :)
 
Hi there, have plucked up the courage to join this thread... my first time on the site but you are all so inspiring.

Am 39, single (not for the want of trying and an awful lot of internet dating ;-) and have always wanted to be a mum. Time is of the essence as ovarian reserve turned out to be waining, so I got decisive and after an emotional roller coaster of a year, am on my first cycle of IVF.

[*]First scan 8+3 follicles, thought that was ok...
[*]Second scan was yesterday and they could only see 4 that had responded to the drugs and grown, so they put me on Menopur as well as Gonal F to try and target the little ones into growing. I went on my own to the appointment and was a bit upset and disappointed as didn't know what to expect...

Next scan is tomorrow, so we will see if anything has improved. Am a bit scared. Hopefully got my sister coming for Friday's scan in case I have to make any difficult decisions....

Luck to you all and wish me luck!
 
Hi! I am 36 and single, trying to become a mom. Found out a year ago I have Diminished Ovarian Reserve and since then I've done 4 iuis and 2 ivf cycles. I find out Wednesday if this last one worked, but when I tested this morning it was a BFN. I've started looking into donor eggs (to go along with the donor sperm) to see if maybe I can have a better chance that way. I hope it's ok if I stalk this thread even though I'm not pg yet.
 
bomo- duh =) i just felt like none of the other threads applied to people trying (success or no ... so far) by themselves. So of course you are welcome. and i have fingers crossed for weds

pipa-welcome and good luck. i tried internet dating but my heart wasnt in it. im too seinfeld.. i just cant tell chemistry over the internet and even little stuff makes me lose interest.. sad i know. i realized i wanted the kid and if a guy didnt come with it.. so be it. fingers crossed for tomorrow
 
Thanks Drs! I agree, it's a different situation when doing this on your own. You are 20 weeks now aren't you? So exciting!!

Pipa, good luck this week at your scans!
 
Thanks both of you.
Scan was a bit rubbish today, follicles not growing enough so they had racked up the medication and have pushed my next scan to thursday to giv:shrug:e more time for development. I guess its not looking great, but this is my first go at it and I don't really know what to expect.
It's all very traumatic.
:shrug::cry:
 
:hi: girls!!

so glad the thread is growing!

pipalot so sorry about your scan. I hope you get better news on thursday!

babyonmso so sorry about the failed ivf. what is the process of choosing an egg donor? I am considering egg sharing to help pay for the costs of my IVF cycle.

drsquid how are you!?

so I started bcp pills on Saturday.. And I haven't had a period since July.. Today I woke up to spotting :shrug: Just my luck, my body always does the opposite of what the doctors want it too.. feeling nervous now :( What will happen if I continually bleed like I have before? Is there medication that can stop it?
 
So egg collection was this morning, bit achey... 2 follies produced total of 2 eggs, need ICSI as frozen donor sperm...now waiting to hear from embryologist tomorrow as to whether either have fertilised and if there is anything to put back in.
Fingers and toes crossed for the next step.

Holdontohope, am hoping for you, babyonmyown...it feels good to share keep going and all luck x
 
pip- fingers crossed!!! icsi is a better plan anyway, why leave it to chance.
 
hi ladies:flower:

i wasn't a single mum by choice with my 1st, i was left on my own as soon as i told fob i was pregnant.
i haven't met anyone since and as i have a family history of premature menopause i knew if i wanted another i couldn't leave it.
so a couple of years ago i started the process of having a baby on my own. i found a local sperm donor and now have a beautiful baby boy:cloud9:
my family have been very understanding and supportive, i couldn't ask for more. i had people say to me the whole way through 'you've still got loads of time, you're young'. it was really frustrating that they seemed to ignore my pending menopause, but i haven't had any negative comments about my choice (not to my face anyway:winkwink:).

i know what you mean about choosing to get pregnant and raise a child alone vs the being left alone. i've experienced both and they are very different so it's nice to find others in the same boat.

lots of babydust to those who are trying:dust:
 
One egg fertilised so going in tomorrow for transfer... its down to mother nature and luck now x

Thanks for your wishes DrSquid!
 
I did it this way just put in add up on a dating site basically saying i was wanting to be a younger mum etc i got alot of dodge replies but manged to find about 6 nice guys picked one that passed all checks and was a all round nice guy and our agreement is friends and if anything happens it happens worst case we end up being real good friends 1st month trying and now 6 wks preg its a weird situation very backwards in the order but it works for us and he is very much involved at this point im very lucky to have a supportive family and a bet friend who also lives with me

Dont know if i posted in right place but was similar
 
Hey ladies, thanks for your thoughts.

The transfer was traumatic as not used to 4 people peering at my bits,:blush: but one grade 2 fertilised one went in!

I am on my 2 week wait but feels like AF coming, (maybe it's the progesterone?)... I have Sore boobs and an achey tummy.

Am hopeful but feel I need to also be realistic at the moment. Am assuming if I get AF then I don't take the HPT next week?

Advice please....:wacko:

Luck to you all x :thumbup:
 
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