Any SMEPers!!!! 43 Testers! 22 BFP!!!!

[Bride2b]

Sunny sorry about the negative test, but at least af is on the way now, which is better than not knowing. I completely understand why you were freaked out, especially as its almost a year since your ectopic - its a very scary prospect getting pregnant again. May be this cycle was playing with your head and next month will be the month for you, I do hope so. I am glad OH is more on board with TTC, they need to be fully on board for this.

I'm on CD4, my OH is a bit vague at the moment, he wants us to go on a snowboarding trip in April with his mates and girlfriends, but I dont want to stop trying - we need to discuss it really, we have been trying over 2 years now, next week is 1 year since we lost Bertie so its the wrong time for all this to happen, I just want to be pregnant! We've not really had chance to discuss it, but I need him to be on board with this ttc stuff, last month when I was Oing he was like I think we should wait to ttc (why?! wtf?!) so we didnt really dtd much around O at all! So my plan is I dont really have one....just gotta convince him we need to carry on ttc!

Good luck in the TWW ladies - wouldnt it be nice for a flurry of Christmas BFPs!

 

[AerisandAlex]

We are committing to the SMEP!! AF arrived this morning so we're marking today as day 1 and praying for a Christmas baby

We lost our little angel in October, so this will be our first full cycle since our lost so we're hoping we get preggo right away, we're anxious to meet our #3!!

Fingers crossed for us all and also to those of you still waiting to test, I hope you get nothing but good news this holiday season!

Our Day 8 would be December 2nd
So our ovulation should be around December 8th or so we hope
Ultimately we should be testing around the 23rd so it'd be the perfect gift to get a BFP close to Christmas!!

Even better, if we do get pregnant this cycle, our baby will be due August 31st! My birthday falls on the 21st of August so I'll get the perfect Christmas and Birthday gift of all, I'm praying so hard for this little one

 

[Sunny skies]

Gemma, sometimes our OH's deal with this TTC by trying not to focus on it, maybe he's trying to protect you from all the hurt you've been through but doesn't realize that to keep trying is really what you need. I know my OH wants a baby too but he doesn't want anything to happen to me and he gets freaked out. I hope you both can make a decision you can both be happy with. Good luck.
Thanks for understanding.

May and Tasha, how great would it be for you both to get that BFP on the same day.

Welcome Aerisandalex, good luck with SMEP.

AFM, finally AF is here, I am so tired and just want to get back to positivity this cycle. My plan is to get some answers and kick things up a notch, no holding back this cycle.

 

[Tasha S.]

Tasha - I usually tell myself not to test till I am late with AF but every cycle I am tempted to POAS! I am supposed to get AF on Dec 3rd and I know I won't be able to hold out that long but I am going to try. I wont test unless I get lots of unusal symptoms or if I am late. It's going to be a long TWW! I say you shouldn't test till after 10 DPO!

Thanks May! I've decided that the earliest I'm going to let myself test is December 2nd! Can you rely on your symptoms??? Mine are crazy and inconsistent, so I can never rely on them. I always get intense nausea, sore breasts, etc. at the end of my cycle so I can't bank on any of that! I try so hard not to read into things that are normal for me! I agree that this is going to be a long TTW!!! Know that I'm more than willing to hear of all of your crazy symtom-spotting theories if ever you want to vent about them!

Welcome AerisandAlex!! I hope SMEP works for you!

Gemma: My heart goes out to you!! I really hope that you're able to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with your DH and that you are both at peace with a mutual decision. For all it's worth, your story is really inspiring--I think you're incredibly strong! I'm praying for you!

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Tasha - I usually tell myself not to test till I am late with AF but every cycle I am tempted to POAS! I am supposed to get AF on Dec 3rd and I know I won't be able to hold out that long but I am going to try. I wont test unless I get lots of unusal symptoms or if I am late. It's going to be a long TWW! I say you shouldn't test till after 10 DPO!

Thanks May! I've decided that the earliest I'm going to let myself test is December 2nd! Can you rely on your symptoms??? Mine are crazy and inconsistent, so I can never rely on them. I always get intense nausea, sore breasts, etc. at the end of my cycle so I can't bank on any of that! I try so hard not to read into things that are normal for me! I agree that this is going to be a long TTW!!! Know that I'm more than willing to hear of all of your crazy symtom-spotting theories if ever you want to vent about them!

Welcome AerisandAlex!! I hope SMEP works for you!

Gemma: My heart goes out to you!! I really hope that you're able to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with your DH and that you are both at peace with a mutual decision. For all it's worth, your story is really inspiring--I think you're incredibly strong! I'm praying for you!

Haha! Well, I never really get crazy symptoms. My symptoms are pretty much AF related - Cramps, spotting, sore boobs a few days before, etc. I always try to monitor my cervical fluids but really don't know what to watch out for. So if anything out of the ordinary occurs then I should be able to pinpoint it. Like today I had lots of tugging on my lower right side but I could also be constipated. Lol. Trying not to keep my hopes up but that's the hardest part! Good luck, girl!

 

[Tasha S.]

Tasha - I usually tell myself not to test till I am late with AF but every cycle I am tempted to POAS! I am supposed to get AF on Dec 3rd and I know I won't be able to hold out that long but I am going to try. I wont test unless I get lots of unusal symptoms or if I am late. It's going to be a long TWW! I say you shouldn't test till after 10 DPO!

Thanks May! I've decided that the earliest I'm going to let myself test is December 2nd! Can you rely on your symptoms??? Mine are crazy and inconsistent, so I can never rely on them. I always get intense nausea, sore breasts, etc. at the end of my cycle so I can't bank on any of that! I try so hard not to read into things that are normal for me! I agree that this is going to be a long TTW!!! Know that I'm more than willing to hear of all of your crazy symtom-spotting theories if ever you want to vent about them!

Welcome AerisandAlex!! I hope SMEP works for you!

Gemma: My heart goes out to you!! I really hope that you're able to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with your DH and that you are both at peace with a mutual decision. For all it's worth, your story is really inspiring--I think you're incredibly strong! I'm praying for you!

Haha! Well, I never really get crazy symptoms. My symptoms are pretty much AF related - Cramps, spotting, sore boobs a few days before, etc. I always try to monitor my cervical fluids but really don't know what to watch out for. So if anything out of the ordinary occurs then I should be able to pinpoint it. Like today I had lots of tugging on my lower right side but I could also be constipated. Lol. Trying not to keep my hopes up but that's the hardest part! Good luck, girl!

Sounds like you got your cycle figured out!! Good for you!! I've considered trying to keep track of post-ovulatory stuff like what's happening with my cervix, but I can't bring myself to that! I admire the women who can, but it's not for me! Awww!! Well I certainly hope that the tugging you're experiencing is a sign of good things to come!! I totally agree that hoping is the hardest part! My DH tells me to just "not think about it"...as if! I tell him that when he has experience being a woman and TTC, then I'll consider taking his advice! Good luck to you too!!!

 

[Bride2b]

Gemma, sometimes our OH's deal with this TTC by trying not to focus on it, maybe he's trying to protect you from all the hurt you've been through but doesn't realize that to keep trying is really what you need. I know my OH wants a baby too but he doesn't want anything to happen to me and he gets freaked out. I hope you both can make a decision you can both be happy with. Good luck.
Thanks for understanding.

May and Tasha, how great would it be for you both to get that BFP on the same day.

Welcome Aerisandalex, good luck with SMEP.

AFM, finally AF is here, I am so tired and just want to get back to positivity this cycle. My plan is to get some answers and kick things up a notch, no holding back this cycle.

I think you could be right you know x

What is your plan of action to kick things up a notch? I was going to try acupuncture BUT its sooooo damn expensive. £45 for the first session, £30 a week after that. She needs to see me for 6 consecutive weeks to start with...thats lots of money. Have you thought about alternative therapies? I am kicking up the pace with reflexology twice a month from this week. It really worked for me last time so keeping my fingers crossed. I'm back to drinking RRLT too!x

Welcome Aerisandalex (feels funny saying that as I havent been around much but hey I was like a bad smell around these parts for a good few months) Its funny I will be O'ing around the 8th too - I'd love a BFP for Christmas. The 23rd of Dec is my dads birthday and also sadly the day we had the funeral for our angel last year - so getting a BFP would be awesome. AND my birthday is near yours - 2nd Sept so again a great birthday present xx Good luck xx

 

[Bride2b]

Gemma: My heart goes out to you!! I really hope that you're able to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with your DH and that you are both at peace with a mutual decision. For all it's worth, your story is really inspiring--I think you're incredibly strong! I'm praying for you!

Thank you Tasha, I dont feel strong at all some days - having a hard time at the moment as its my Berties first birthday on Weds and am feeling it a bit. BUT I hope to get back on track as I was doing much better than I am at the moment. Its almost like 'my story' didnt happen if that makes sense - you never expect these things to happen to you IYKWIM? But sadly the emotional and physical scars are a bitter reminder that they did. I still believe in 3rd time lucky....so thats what I am hoping for xxx

 

[Tasha S.]

Gemma: My heart goes out to you!! I really hope that you're able to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with your DH and that you are both at peace with a mutual decision. For all it's worth, your story is really inspiring--I think you're incredibly strong! I'm praying for you!

Thank you Tasha, I dont feel strong at all some days - having a hard time at the moment as its my Berties first birthday on Weds and am feeling it a bit. BUT I hope to get back on track as I was doing much better than I am at the moment. Its almost like 'my story' didnt happen if that makes sense - you never expect these things to happen to you IYKWIM? But sadly the emotional and physical scars are a bitter reminder that they did. I still believe in 3rd time lucky....so thats what I am hoping for xxx

Oh Gemma!! I can't imagine what it must feel like to have your Bertie's first birthday! A week ago it was the 4th-month-anniversary of my very young baby (I lost him/her at 7.5 weeks), and I felt so sad that day! I do know what you mean about your story feeling surreal--I find myself reliving my m/c over and over again in my mind. We're never prepared for these kind of things, they're just thrust upon us. We don't really get to choose to be strong, we have to be just be able to move on. I can't express how much I wish you a strong, healthy and beautiful baby!! God bless you!

 

[Sunny skies]

Gemma, you definately are an inspiration as Tasha said, you've been missed around here. I can't say I know how you feel, I can't even imagine but I know Bertie is smiling down on you. You deserve that happy ending and you will get it.

I have pretty good benefits so I should look into acupuncture, I think it's covered if its prescribed by my doctor. I'm definately getting my tube checked for any blockages and started looking into fertility clinics in the area. I also want to start tempting and charting.

 

[dove830]

Gemma: My heart goes out to you!! I really hope that you're able to have a good heart-to-heart conversation with your DH and that you are both at peace with a mutual decision. For all it's worth, your story is really inspiring--I think you're incredibly strong! I'm praying for you!

Thank you Tasha, I dont feel strong at all some days - having a hard time at the moment as its my Berties first birthday on Weds and am feeling it a bit. BUT I hope to get back on track as I was doing much better than I am at the moment. Its almost like 'my story' didnt happen if that makes sense - you never expect these things to happen to you IYKWIM? But sadly the emotional and physical scars are a bitter reminder that they did. I still believe in 3rd time lucky....so thats what I am hoping for xxx

I know it's not the same thing, but Monday is the date was to be our c-section date for the baby boy we lost at 18 weeks...I think I'll be calling in sick that day, this whole week has been hard just thinking about it....

 

[jrowenj]

Gemma - I'm thinking lots about you especially at this sensitive time as Bertie's bday nears. I hope u can do something special for his bday to honor him xoxoxox

 

[Tasha S.]

Gemma, you definately are an inspiration as Tasha said, you've been missed around here. I can't say I know how you feel, I can't even imagine but I know Bertie is smiling down on you. You deserve that happy ending and you will get it.

I have pretty good benefits so I should look into acupuncture, I think it's covered if its prescribed by my doctor. I'm definately getting my tube checked for any blockages and started looking into fertility clinics in the area. I also want to start tempting and charting.

Sunny! I hope things turn out well for you and you find something that will help! I know it's uber nasty, but for all it's worth I've read that apple-cider-vinegar helps de-block tubes. Just throwing it out there if you're willing to give it a shot! If you need inspiration, google searches are pretty good for that.

 

[snowflakes120]

Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving! xoxo

 

[BeverleyLN]

Hi Girls sorry i've been so MIA been so busy with the house, the plasterwork is almost finished then onto tiling and decorating. Not going to be in before Xmas which is very disapointing but spending it with my family.... and mums mass is a fybroid thankgod but is the size of a melon! she's having a hysterectomy in Febuary.

Welcome Newbies!! i've added a couple of names to the first thread but feel like i've missed someone?!? Hope your SMEP journey is succesful!

Preggie ladies hope you're looking after yourselves

New mummies hope you're looking afer yourselves too and having fun

to the 2ww and waiting to OV ladies

 

[Jessica28]

My OH has the stomach bug. I really hope I don't get it. He hasn't been able to get up off the couch all day. Nasty, nasty.
ON the other hands, everything is going great here. I did the glucose challenge but it came back borderline for diabetes so I have to have the 3 hour one done. My doc. said not to worry about it but because my dad is a diabetic, i need to take precaution.
My grandmother also just had open heart surgery on Thursday. They did 5 bypasses on her and she was in surgery for 7.5 hours. Her heartrate is high and they cant seem to get it regulated so she hasn't been up walking yet. Been a stressful few days but thankfully baby is kicking alot so that offers some encouragement.

 

[mammaspath]

hello there ladies!!!!

SUNNY - just an fyi i had a long cycle the month before my bfp.......hope that is encouraging.......not gonna lie it was frustrating but now im 8 months preggo....yeehaw

may - saw your pics on fb......how the heck are ya?

krystina - um where are you? and where are your new tests????

 

[BamBamsMaMa]

Gemma and Dove - thinking of you both!

Amy - Hi! I have been good! I spent some time with my cousin (who came to visit from FL) and her 9 month old baby boy. He is adorable! My cousin kept asking me when I plan to start having children. I just brushed it off and say if it happens it happens. holding her baby and seeing dh with him really makes me want to be preggo pronto! How are you and the little bean? Cherish every moment!

Bev - Glad to hear mum is ok. We miss you!

Jessica - hope the stomach bug stays away!

AFM - 4 DPO, no symptoms besides some usual cramping. So I decided to have some wine tonight. What the heck! Not like I am going to be preggers anyway! Any of you still taking apple cider vinegar? What's it supposed to do?

 

[Bride2b]

Thank you May, Dove, Jaime and Sunny. Dove every milestone is a challenge so dont be hard on yourself, we have to do what feels right for us as we reach these milestones.

Sunny that would be great if you could get acupuncture, I've read loads about it and really want to do it. I just have very little money this side of Christmas and am gutted. When they did your surgery did they not check your other tube? Maybe ask your doctor? I know they checked my other tube - I have a scar there and they also told me they checked it and it seemed ok. I also think getting yourself checked out will alleviate any worries you may have, and like Amy says she had a long cycle the one before her BFP - so you never know!

May good luck hun, heck why not treat yourself to wine, you cant put your life on hold and anyhow one glass of wine wont hurt even if you did catch it this month. Its very hard being around babies - luckily I dont really get the questions of when we are starting a family, most people know about our situation and that would be insensitive but I think I would want to punch them if they asked me that!!

I spoke to OH about this silly snowboard trip etc. He is just worried about TTC as he doesnt want it to end badly again. He said he is sick of taking me to the hospital and getting bad news. I told him we have to keep trying and that we MUST be in for some good news soon! I think he is back on board although he seems deflated that we keep having month after month of disappointment!

 

[armymama2012]

I'm back!

Nothing new here except round ligament pains every other night and blue veins popping up near my underarms now.

I want to see bump pics from Amy and Jess!