Any teens live alone?

[Laura--x]

Without being nosey can i ask how/what your OH contributes towards your financial situation? Can he not get a job to support you and the baby?

He is at college atm.. getting £30 a week ema, it hasnt started coming through yet but will do within the next few weeks.

I wanted him to get a job ontop of that, but he won't. He pisses me off.

 

[Laura--x]

Is there a place i could go too where i could go and talk to someone? Tell them my situation and see what they say?

 

[v2007]

Is there a place i could go too where i could go and talk to someone? Tell them my situation and see what they say?

Go to the local Jobcentre Plus and your local Council office, they will help loads.


V x x x

 

[mrsholmes]

citzens advice is good, sometimes known as CAB, also housing options if you have one

 

[Laura--x]

If i was to get my own place.. could i tell them oh would be living with me ( well, he would stay proberly 4/5 times a week) or is it better and easier to get a place if i say im on my own?

x

 

[polo_princess]

The harsh reality is he needs to get himself a job, even if its part time for a few hours a week, as only you will be entitled to benefiets that means you have 3 mouths to feed and care for which lets face it in todays climate isnt going to stretch.

Things are never easy even if you and your partner were both working full time, but if you both want to move out and get a place of your own somethings gotta give.

Hope you manage to sort yourself something out

 

[v2007]

If i was to get my own place.. could i tell them oh would be living with me ( well, he would stay proberly 4/5 times a week) or is it better and easier to get a place if i say im on my own?

x

If he is just gonna be staying over then your ok, but if definalty going to be living with you then tell the truth.

V x x

 

[PixieKitty]

Doubtful they'd stick you in a flat, they have to keep 2% of housing for special needs cases, such as pregnant women/people with children, disabled, elderly etc.
So they wouldn't stick you in a flat.
My mum's on council housing and she's in a fantastic area (and when I say fantastic I mean... well the houses go for no less than £100,000 and as for rough, it's the country )
So i'd apply if I were you

 

[Laura--x]

The harsh reality is he needs to get himself a job, even if its part time for a few hours a week, as only you will be entitled to benefiets that means you have 3 mouths to feed and care for which lets face it in todays climate isnt going to stretch.

Things are never easy even if you and your partner were both working full time, but if you both want to move out and get a place of your own somethings gotta give.

Hope you manage to sort yourself something out

I know, i've told him so many times, but he won't. I've told him everything under the sun, but he still all he says is 'he needs a life, y cant i get a job' and all that shit. he pisses me off and i hate him for it, he can be a real knob !!

He wouldn't actually live with me, well, i don't know. He says he isn't moving out anytime soon, and if i do i do on my own. He will obviopusly stay a few nights though. I'd make sure every last penny of his ema goes towards the bills, but i just hope by the time the baby comes he can get off his arse and get a job !

He thinks college life is tough, he does 3 and ahalf days a week, not even full days. Starts at 9 and finishes about 1-2, 3 latest, and he moans how hard it is.

 

[Laura--x]

If i was to get my own place.. could i tell them oh would be living with me ( well, he would stay proberly 4/5 times a week) or is it better and easier to get a place if i say im on my own?

x

If he is just gonna be staying over then your ok, but if definalty going to be living with you then tell the truth.

V x x

So should i tell them that i have a boyfriend but he will not be living with me? just staying over 2/3 times a week?
he only really stays at mine when his brothers girlfriend stays at his because they share a room so she has his bed x

 

[nightkd]

I'd be kicking him up his backside. If my OH refused to work after his spermies got me up the duff I'd make sure he suffered as much as possible until he could get off of his lazy arse and make some money!!! Grrrrr! What a bum!

 

[Laura--x]

I'd be kicking him up his backside. If my OH refused to work after his spermies got me up the duff I'd make sure he suffered as much as possible until he could get off of his lazy arse and make some money!!! Grrrrr! What a bum!

I know !!!

he keeps telling me 'him going to college is enough, he needs a life outside that, y cant i get a job? y do i hav 2 be lazy?'

Knobhead

 

[Laura--x]

I'm just worried that if i go to the CAB or wherever, tell them my situation and stuff, they will just stick me in anywhere and i really dont want that. I want a decent place in a nice area, i want to feel safe if ill be there on my own mst time x

 

[Leanne&Bump..x]

I went to the council, and they said until you are over 18 they would stick you in supported accomidation. where your meals are made, washing is done, you only have a room for your baby and yourself basically...so i was like no thanks.

might be different where you are, but i am on the list so have a waiting time building up, then when i turn 18 they will contact me with properties i can bid on xx

 

[Lunaty]

I'd be kicking him up his backside. If my OH refused to work after his spermies got me up the duff I'd make sure he suffered as much as possible until he could get off of his lazy arse and make some money!!! Grrrrr! What a bum!

I know !!!

he keeps telling me 'him going to college is enough, he needs a life outside that, y cant i get a job? y do i hav 2 be lazy?'

Knobhead

Well you can always make him pay up if you'd go to court.. i know it sounds harsh but if he is already moaning about college he will probably never get his act together and provide.. in which case you need to think if you really want him to be around never paying or if you say enough is enough i need a contribution to help his little one grow up!

Has he got an idea what diapers cost and how many you will need to go through?! Maybe take him around and show him you need him...

 

[missjacey44]

housing benefit you get the full entitlement should cover service charges/maintance x

When i was getting housing benefit when i was on income support they paid the 'full' rent but i still had to pay £12 a week for service charges! I know £12 isnt much but it does alll add up!

I didnt have to pay any council tax though, they paid that in full.

 

[jillypoop]

Or with a partner?

I so desperately want to move out, so bad, but i just couldn't afford it. People have told me the council pay, but that means that they would just shove me in a poxy flat in a rough area which i would hate.

Just thought id ask a few questions if people didnt mind answering!

How do you find living alone?
How do you afford to live? Bills/Food/Baby items ect?
How did you get the place?
How did you afford to furnish the place?

Thanks

Hi Me and my OH don't have a baby yet but we are living by ourselves. It really really tests a relationship, moving in with someone and you change quite a bit, your OH changes, but if you're lucky like me, then you both change in a good way. Money has always been tight for us, even when we were both working full time, and now that I'm not working atm, its even harder, but we always manage somehow. We got our apartment through northwood lettings. We spent almost a year trying to find somewhere but because we were 19, most people didnt take us seriously. We went to northwood, looked at the apartment on a friday afternoon, and by the next friday we had the keys!!! That was brill Me and my OH both decided to get credit cards because we thought we needed a safety net, as we spent our savings on the safety deposit. We went to ikea, got most of the furniture for about £250, but my OH's grandparents paid whilst we were packing the stuff in bags. That was really nice of them, made me feel awful for throwing things into the trolley though!!

I think that if you are on benefits, a lot of private places won't take you, so to be honest, I think the best bet would be to go to the council. I used to be a bit snobby about them, but the rent is much cheaper, you won't get kicked out suddenly, you can decorate and change the place a bit and to be honest I think it makes more sense.


wow I've written loads, hope it helps good luck

 

[mrscookie]

Without being nosey can i ask how/what your OH contributes towards your financial situation? Can he not get a job to support you and the baby?

He is at college atm.. getting £30 a week ema, it hasnt started coming through yet but will do within the next few weeks.

I wanted him to get a job ontop of that, but he won't. He pisses me off.

He has responsibilities now... he should get at least a part time job while he is at college. Men like that annoy me, she needs to live up to his responsibilities and help pay for his child. I'm probably paying more towards your child than he is, through the tax that I pay at my full time job.

 

[LilFlower08]

1. How do you find living alone?
2. How do you afford to live? Bills/Food/Baby items ect?
3. How did you get the place?
4. How did you afford to furnish the place?

1. I love living with my OH/alone. It's lovely being able to do what i like when i like and not have to answer to anyone when i make decisions. It's so nice to be in control of my life for once!
2. Me and my OH both work full time, he's the manager of GAME store, nd i work for a council in their communications team. We get NO benefits NO rebates and NO help so we're very proud of everything we get.
3. We went through adverts in the local papers as these are private erntals and we didnt have to pay a referencing fee and it makes the process and the relationship with our landlady much more personal and relaxed so there is leeway for things like pets and babies!
4. To furnish the place we went on websites like gumtree and freecycle where people swap sell and give furniture for ridiculously cheap prices because for one reason or another they dont need it anymore and they know its too good to be dumped or burnt! So really shop around and keep looking, also dont be fussy for a while although we got some lovely furniture brand new on those sites so its not skanky!! We got alot of furniture donated by my parents and family, and this was all nice stuff too. Then the rest we scrimped and saved to decorate and modify one room at a time... and we are getting there slowly. But thats all in the fun....

Yu move into a empty barely furnished unhomely house/flat then you start to make it you own with time and its so rewarding and personalised to final get it looking how you wanted it to.

 

[nikky0907]

Your bf needs a good kick to get himself a job as he has a family to support now.
A baby is very costly plus adding your living expenses.

I live on my own (in my own home).
-Mortgage.
-Phone bill
-Electricity/water/gas
-Groceries
-Car/Home insurance
And THEN stuff for Lola,formula,diapers,clothes...etc,the list is endless!

Does your boyfriend know about this? Please make a list and show him just exactly how much it costs to raise a child,especially living on your own.
He really needs to get his head straight and grow up.And I'm sure your plan isn't to be on benefits forever.

I don't know how the system in UK works,just wanted to give you advice on this...