Any teens live alone?

[Laura--x]

No, according to him, hes doing his part, now i need to stop being so lazy and get a job myself !!

I told you hes a prat sometimes doesnt give a shit about anything. He doesnt want to move out so i guess he wont help !! No way will he get a job aswell, however much i nag and ask.

I sometimes think id be better off on my own!

 

[mrscookie]

honey I cant believe what a cock he is being. How can he expect you to get a job at almost 20 weeks pregnant, and he is allowed to run around college earning nothing, putting jack shit into a baby fund. He needs to grow some balls and own up to his new job- FATHER.
I hope you can see that although it would have been ideal for you to be working at the time you got pregnant, you werent, therefore you shouldnt have to start start half way through your pregnancy I know some that have done, but its less than ideal since you wont be getting smp. If you want to try then go ahead just dont let him pressure you into doing it, he should be doing what he can to help you
xxx

 

[Laura--x]

The thing is hun, ive been trying since i was 10 weeks, and he knows it!! I proberly done wrong because i've been honest and from the start said that i was pregnant, only because though i would of felt like a liar when i came out however many weeks later than im pregnant so will be leaving soon, u know? Im on JSA, go to the jobcenter and my local connexions every week still looking, so it's not as if im sitting on my arse living off everyone else without no thought, i am trying!

Hes just a knob. I dont want to mention it anymore cus everytime i do he brings it back onto me, calling me lazy, and that gets me down so i don't bother!! All eh keeps saying is i dont need to worry, we will manage, we have everyones help and so on, but i dont want to have to rely on everyones help!!
xx

 

[Younglutonmum]

I live on my own, on benefits & it isn't as hard as you would think. With careful budgeting you get by!

To be honest finding a property & getting all the money together was the tough part. I rent privately. Have a look on Gumtree & send off an email to all the landlords of properties you like explaining your situation & perhaps offer a guarantor if possible? I had lots of replies when I said my dad could be my guarantor!

If I was you I would stay put at your parents until your baby has arrived. I couldn't have managed a house while I was pregnant. Also when your under 25 you only get housing benefit to cover a room in a shared house. Once you have a baby the allowance changes. I see some people on here have said you can't get enough for a 2 bedroom place as a baby doesnt quakify but with my council you do. My rent is 600pcm & the council give me 625pcm. The rules have changed recently & its now Local Housing Allowance you get which helps more.

The council can also help pay your deposit. They paid mine & I pay back 30 a month which as I get excess housing benefit, it just comes out of that. To furnish my property I applied for a budgeting loan & got 924. This also covered the first months rent which landlords require. I pay this back at 16 a week which is alot but clears my debt quick

I have gas & electric on meter & my child benefit covers that

 

[princess_x0]

Your OH needs to get off his fucking arse and get a bloody job! I'm sorry if I sound rude but he is just plain lazy! And he seems to be living in noddy land! He thinks college is hard? 3 1/2 days a week!?! I'm in college 12-9 monday, 9-2 wed and 10-4 thursday. I work between 12 and 20 hrs a week, depending on the week. It isn't all that much really. But atleast it gets the money in! All he needs is a bloody weekend job! He needs to get in the real world hun. What's he gunna do when this baby gets here and he can't provide for it? Ema don't stretch far at all! Couple of cans of formula, few packs of nappies. It isn't much really! I'd give him a good slap and tell him to wake up!
And you shouldn't have to get a job. For one you are pregnant so they might not take you on, although a xmas temp job might be a nice idea, just to get the ball rolling, if he won't help provide for his baby, then you will have to get some money in hun.
What about when he finishes his course? Whats he gunna do then? It will hit him one way or another hun.
Idk about housing, I say get down to your council and ask them what your entitled to etc.
Good luck hun xxx

 

[Laura--x]

Sorry, could i just have some of you answer these questions for me then.

Should i start to look for a place now? Or when babys born?
Would i have a choice in where i was put?
Should i just be honest and tell them my situation, or play on it?
Would i really be able to cope with just living on benefits?

Thanks x

 

[Younglutonmum]

Should i start to look for a place now? Or when babys born? If your parents are happy to have you at home i'd stay put until bubs is here. Get all you need for your LO & save all you can! I moved out when Maya was 3 months old & it was better that way

Would i have a choice in where i was put? If your on the council list you could be waiting for sometime. Having a baby does not make you a priority. Having a baby & being homeless does though. If you go on the list as homeless then you have to take the first place offered be it a hostel, BnB etc. If however you go on it living at your parents you can turn down places but as I said you could be on the list for a few years. You're better off going private.

Should i just be honest and tell them my situation, or play on it? I wouldn't tell any lies. There's people who genuinely are homeless & need help so don't take advantage. Its not nice & unfair

Would i really be able to cope with just living on benefits? Of course. I do & manage fine. I have a nice, warm house. My daughter is always nicely dressed & fed. Just budget

 

[Laura--x]

I was talking to my cousion about it earlier, and said i would go private if did move out. She said she thinks its best to go with hte council, because with private, when the lease runs out, they might not renew it then id loose my house? x

 

[Younglutonmum]

I was talking to my cousion about it earlier, and said i would go private if did move out. She said she thinks its best to go with hte council, because with private, when the lease runs out, they might not renew it then id loose my house? x

That is a possibility but they give you 2 months notice if they wont be renewing your tenancy which gives you time to look for somewhere new

As i've already said, you are not homeless so will not get housed so quick. I was told they would place me in a BnB or hostel for3-5 years before being given a house. Hardly ideal.

Don't rely on the council

 

[Laura--x]

Yeah thats what i worry about!! If i move out i want somewhere decent in a nice area !!
I think for now i'll just make sure i have everything i need for bubz, start saving and then when the baby is born start looking into it and hope its a good outcome

xx

 

[Younglutonmum]

Yeah thats what i worry about!! If i move out i want somewhere decent in a nice area !!
I think for now i'll just make sure i have everything i need for bubz, start saving and then when the baby is born start looking into it and hope its a good outcome

xx

Thats why its best to go private. You have total choice then. Not all council places are bad of course but as I said you won't get a house/flat straight away.

I'd defo start looking after baby is here. It will be easier money wise as you'll be entitled to more.

I live on benefits & rent privately. My house is lovely

xx

 

[mrscookie]

My oppinion-

Should i start to look for a place now? Or when babys born?

I would look when the baby is born, it makes saving money easier for the little one

Would i have a choice in where i was put?

My local council apparently offer you 3 properties, and if you decline all 3 then you wont get offered anything again for a while. You can put down for prefered areas on your app, but being too fussy limits what they offer you.
Should i just be honest and tell them my situation, or play on it?
... not lying as such..but maybe emitting certain truths help- ''I have nowhere to live'' (dont mention mom and dad would always help you, exagerate the problem and possibly see if your parents would write a letter to say you are not welcome there)
Would i really be able to cope with just living on benefits?
matter of oppinion really, i'd say just about.... but it wont be easy. This is why its so important for the father of your baby to be able to financially help you.. you can still claim and have the bonus of his wage coming in to help out.
I personally couldnt survive on benefits, but we have 2 cars to run, a 3 bed house to pay for etc( private rent) it makes me feel appreciative I have a hubby who works full time
xxx

 

[polo_princess]

I wouldnt bother lying about anything ... if they catch you i can gaurantee they will have you up by your ears and make you pay back every single unjustified penny. Then you'll be worse off that you are now. Just go to the council and tell the truth and see what they say.

 

[Younglutonmum]

To be honest I don't think you should bend the truth

As I already said, there are pregnant girls out there in desperate need of accomodation suitable for them n bubs. It doesnt help the matter when people who have good homes to stay in, lie & therefore help contribute to the fact theres not so much accomoadtion available for those in need

 

[Laura--x]

Yeah
i couldnt lie anyway
My mate got chucked out of her house, was living with her bf but went to the council, told them she was single and homeless and they gave her a flat above a shop. Its a nice little flat, 2 bedroom, but in a shit area, and above a shop which is the worst!! But she says she has to be careful, because her bf stays with her 5 nights a week, if the social catch them she'll be out, and i couldn't go around like that.

 

[Younglutonmum]

Yeah
i couldnt lie anyway
My mate got chucked out of her house, was living with her bf but went to the council, told them she was single and homeless and they gave her a flat above a shop. Its a nice little flat, 2 bedroom, but in a shit area, and above a shop which is the worst!! But she says she has to be careful, because her bf stays with her 5 nights a week, if the social catch them she'll be out, and i couldn't go around like that.

Agreed

Its just wrong. Its pretty much the same as benefit fraud

 

[mrscookie]

dishonest bunch we are where I come from lool! Just kidding!
Nah, in all honesty I know a few that have had letters written by the parents to say there was no room for them anymore and they cannot live there for whatever reason. Technically its not a lie, and your parents are there to back you up if they look into it. I just know people are treated as more of a priority when they dont have anywhere to live, especially due to over crowding.
you have a few months left now to save for your baby, it wont hurt to be on the list from now, and then when baby is here you can start writing to them to see if there is anything more they can do. I know that there is some kind of bidding system now apparently.
xx

 

[Laura--x]

Yeah my cousion was saying something about that, not to sure what it is.

But people are saying best option is to not go on the council and rent privately which i will proberly do x

 

[Lil_Gem_1989]

Me and my OH are moving into our first house next weekend on 29th! We're renting privately because he has a full time job and we would be waiting forever for a council house/flat. If you can afford to rent privately, do it. The house we're moving into is lovely! x

 

[LongRoadAhead]

You could find a private rented flat.All you have to do is look on the internet or in estate agents for one,but make sure it accepts housing benefits. You could also get your council tax paid for by going on council tax benefits. For alot of flats housing benefit wont pay all of the rent, they just help you out depending on your situation and it doesnt include water charges