Any teens live alone?

[FallenAngel]

Umm Since I'm from the U.S. it's probably a way different story for us, but I live with my OH. He works so we can pay bills I'm in college atm so he says that I will have to pay the bills for him when I graduate. LoL. I personally love living alone. I can do whatever I want whenever I want wherever I want. The only bad part is you have to clean up everything on your own and if your OH is like mine you have to clean up after him too. LoL. As far as furniture goes, we got a lot of stuff given to us by people. When they find out you are moving, it just seems to get around, and you get a lot of people giving you stuff. As far as dishes and towels and things like that, I asked for that stuff for christmas and birthdays for a good year before we moved out on our own.

 

[saara24]

1. How do you find living alone?

I love it - I ran away to uni (most people wouldn't class it as running away, but I do - it was my only escape route at the time) at 17, moved into private student accomodation and paid my own rent etc from then - at 18 met OH and from then had a series of short term flats and sharing his flat (much, much, much longer and more difficult story than that, but chances are nobody else will be in our crazy situation, serious structural repairs required to flat etc, so no point going into it) until now, we've finally managed to get our own house and I'm never moving again. I could never go back to live with my dad and no matter how difficult it gets at times (mortgage alone is £1,000+ a month) I'm determined to make whatever sacrifices required (ie eating sometimes - you'd be surprised how far you can last on baked beans LOL) to stick to it!
2. How do you afford to live? Bills/Food/Baby items ect?
We run our own business. It's a huge struggle every month, and we're in a lot of debt, but we're keeping heads above water at the moment and it's getting better every month.
3. How did you get the place?
Searching, searching, searching. Took ages to find this place, and a lot of looking to find all the places before. There's loads of rental and sales websites for this which are really good.

4. How did you afford to furnish the place?
My dad had just moved house and had some stuff he didn't need. Everything else came from our old flat, relatives or freecycle.

 

[saara24]

Oh, I forgot to say - I'd get your OH told. He's got a baby to look after now - it's all very well faffing about on student support when the most important thing you have to pay for is your drinks down the pub on a Friday night - he's gonna be a daddy now and needs to have some way of supporting his kid.

If he's not willing, and thinks it's too much of an infringement on his student liberties, you really need to be considering whether you would be better off by yourself anyway.

S xx

 

[loz]

hun get yourself a social worker through connections and they will help you with all the forms and anything you need, there is loads out there you are entitled 2 and they will make sure you get it all x

 

[kellysays2u]

I am sorry this may sound rude. But I am over 20 weeks pregnant and I just got a job working full time. So there is absolutely no reason anyone else should be saying just because you are pregnant you can't work. Where loose clothing for job interviews so they can't tell and then don't tell them till after you are officially hired if finding a job is the problem. Living off benefits is not going to cover everything. You will have to get a job especially if your bf isn't going to. What do you think your going to do later on in life? You need a job and you need to finish your education. It's just stuff that we all need to do.

As for your boyfriend hes a lazy ass. Obviously not someone you will ever be able to trust to help you out. I have SPD so had to cut back my hours at work so my bf immediately picked his hours up at work so that we weren't out money.

Living alone is really nice but remember it means you will be all on your own when baby comes. My BF and I decided to move 2 hours away from everyone in my family and his. My mom will come to visit sometimes but that's it. The baby will be all your responsibility.

So if you want a place hunny your going to need to at least get a job working a few hours a week. Especially if he wont.

 

[LucyS]

Yeah and it annoys me how young girls get pregnant then know how to 'play the system'

fair enough if you got pregnant unexpectadly and cant afford a place etc but to exploit it I believe is wrong, and to be as fussy as to want a nice place in a nice area, in life I beliver beggers cant be choosers!

 

[sleepinbeauty]

I lived on my own in my senior year of high school, butmy parents paid the rent and I paid them back when I moved back in with them in the summer (they wanted me to finish int the district I had been going to up until then so I stayed behind while the family moved)

MY boyfriend and I are looking for a place to call our own now. He works full-time, I'll be a full-time student and a part-time worker. We're looking for cheap apartments that offer some/all paid utilities. We actually found a lot of them! We plan on moving this summer.

 

[Char&Bump-x]

Yeah and it annoys me how young girls get pregnant then know how to 'play the system'

fair enough if you got pregnant unexpectadly and cant afford a place etc but to exploit it I believe is wrong, and to be as fussy as to want a nice place in a nice area, in life I beliver beggers cant be choosers!

Would you want to live in a skanky flat in a skanky area? She's not exploiting anything, shes just wanting the best for her baby. If you got nothing nice to say, dont say it at all.

Laura, i hope you find somewhere suitable. I'm in the same boat as you, and i know how hard it is to find somewhere!

xx

 

[Poppeteer]

Yeah and it annoys me how young girls get pregnant then know how to 'play the system'

fair enough if you got pregnant unexpectadly and cant afford a place etc but to exploit it I believe is wrong, and to be as fussy as to want a nice place in a nice area, in life I beliver beggers cant be choosers!

Would you want to live in a skanky flat in a skanky area? She's not exploiting anything, shes just wanting the best for her baby. If you got nothing nice to say, dont say it at all.

Laura, i hope you find somewhere suitable. I'm in the same boat as you, and i know how hard it is to find somewhere!

xx

Well I have a problem with her considering to lie about her circumstances, as that is benefit fraud. Glad to see she's changed her mind eventually.

 

[LucyS]

This is a forum if you dont want all types of opinions dont post!

I wouldn't WANT to, no, you're right but there is a difference between wanting and reality of what you can afford/are lucky to be given which certain people seem to lack understanding of.

 

[Laura--x]

I havn't even looked at this post in ages.

Im sorry but i have never said i would lie to get a better place, i actually said that was wrong if you had read it right. I don't know why this is carrying on for anyway, i stated i wasn't moving or looking for a place as i was to stay at home. There was no need to say harsh things.

 

[Younglutonmum]

to you Laura hun

Also theres nothing wrong with saying you want to live soemwhere nice. Everyones entitled to somewhere decent to bring there LO up in

Just because i'm on beneefits doesnt mean i'll settle for second best