I'm just curious to see if there are any married women out there going thru this process alone...When really we shouldn't be alone, because our husband should be there for us. Me and my DH have been struggling to conceive for the last 15 months. At a little before a year, I decided to go get tested..(We're military and deployment is coming up soon) I tested just fine, my DH however, tested low sperm count, motility, and his morphology wasn't that great either. My gyno proceeded to tell me that there was nothing more he could do for us, and referred us to a fertility specialist. Unfortunately, we don't have the $ to pay for IVF at the moment but with the deployment $ we will. So we're still holding out for it to happen naturally, although my time is going to be limited. It's hard not to place the blame on him. But I'm getting better at it. I know if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't want him to hold it against me. When we found out this news, he was in denial and still is. I on the other hand, have slowly accepted that IVF is in our near future. The bad part is, I have been silently suffering thru this infertility alone. Every time I cry because someone else I know is pregnant, he doesn't always comfort me. He says when I cry, he's not quick to comfort me because it's all the time. When I searched on the internet ways to improve sperm count, it was a fight for him to stop taking hot baths, to take his vitamins regularly, quit chewing tobacco, and to cut back on the caffeine. I don't understand he should be more than willing to do anything and everything he can. We can't go without fighting when the baby subject is brought up. Often I let the subject go, and just secretly suffer. This infertility is causing my marriage to fall apart. I wish my husband could be there for me during this time. But all I feel is us growing more and more apart, as each month goes by and I'm empty handed.