tinybutterfly
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this is embarassing actually....
especially considering the type of forum this is, but i hope somebody
can relate, has been through this...
i've always wanted kids, no doubt about it...
it was alot stronger a few years ago and last summer,
but after TTC for half a year and having no luck, i kinda lost all the
romantic feeling i ever had about getting pregnant, the pink clouds and
whatnot... i seriously see them drifting away from me.
i'm almost 24, by no means "old" to have a kid, yet i feel like my time has
passed, i always wanted to be a young mom, before i'm 25...
so i kinda need to hurry if i want to make that happen
but lately i'm feeling.... sooo uninterested (but still interested enough to make a topic about it).
yet if a friend gets pregnant i cry (bc i'm still not)...
and also...and this is going to sound sooooooo rediculous...
i'm really afraid i'm going to think my baby is ugly and not want it,
i'm seriously afraid i will not love it...
that i won't have any motherly feelings towards it...
and worst of all...this is based on the fact that....
i raised our pet cat since he was a few weeks old, with a bottle,
making bottles, washing up a bit, potty training....
for me...honestly, he is my first kid and he behaves accordingly
but really, i love this kitty soooooo much... i'm afraid i've given him all
my motherly feelings, and now i can't for the live of me imagine that
i could still feel the same for a child, i really can't...
i used to be able to do that, imagine a child and love it...
now i can't,
seriously... what if i love our cat more than our child?
how fucked up would that be?!!!!!!!!
it bothers me..alot
it makes me think i shouldn't even be a mom to begin with
please tell me i'm not a nutcase
especially considering the type of forum this is, but i hope somebody
can relate, has been through this...
i've always wanted kids, no doubt about it...
it was alot stronger a few years ago and last summer,
but after TTC for half a year and having no luck, i kinda lost all the
romantic feeling i ever had about getting pregnant, the pink clouds and
whatnot... i seriously see them drifting away from me.
i'm almost 24, by no means "old" to have a kid, yet i feel like my time has
passed, i always wanted to be a young mom, before i'm 25...
so i kinda need to hurry if i want to make that happen
but lately i'm feeling.... sooo uninterested (but still interested enough to make a topic about it).
yet if a friend gets pregnant i cry (bc i'm still not)...
and also...and this is going to sound sooooooo rediculous...
i'm really afraid i'm going to think my baby is ugly and not want it,
i'm seriously afraid i will not love it...
that i won't have any motherly feelings towards it...
and worst of all...this is based on the fact that....
i raised our pet cat since he was a few weeks old, with a bottle,
making bottles, washing up a bit, potty training....
for me...honestly, he is my first kid and he behaves accordingly
but really, i love this kitty soooooo much... i'm afraid i've given him all
my motherly feelings, and now i can't for the live of me imagine that
i could still feel the same for a child, i really can't...
i used to be able to do that, imagine a child and love it...
now i can't,
seriously... what if i love our cat more than our child?
how fucked up would that be?!!!!!!!!
it bothers me..alot
it makes me think i shouldn't even be a mom to begin with
please tell me i'm not a nutcase