Anyone else a secret TTCer?

[SunUp]

Hey! I am new to this forum, and I am TTC#1. This is something that ONLY my DH knows. No one else.

Of course, we have some friends saying (all the time) how we need to have a kid, and a few saying wait a few years! (Dh and I have good jobs, house, steady income and are in our 20s). I love how everyone wants to tell us what to do, ah, but anyway.

I was wondering, is there anyone thats keeping everything a secret too??

 

[karleyflower]

I tried to but I think dh is rather excited and has told a few people, which I'm not overjoyed about, there's enough pressure as it is ha ha.

Oh well think he meant well
Good luck tho x

 

[KmTigg114]

We are pretty much keeping it a secret, one of my close co workers is the only one who knows we are actively ttc. So you are def not alone!! I just feel like it's not anyone else's business, and like you said, they always seem to have an opinion!

 

[BH040]

We aren't really telling anyone either... don't want to hear the few people that would be say things like what are you doing that for, and I don't belive in doing that. (were aren't getting married until next year)

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

we are keeping it a complete secret from everyone! i like it that way and hopefully it will be a nice surprise

no-one has said we should be having kids, but i bet they are thinking it - married 2 years, own house, good jobs etc etc

i agree keeping it secret keeps off the pressure!

 

[quinn]

We're keeping it a secret. I don't think it's anyones business. One of my coworkers asked me a while back and I said no - even though we were. It's just one of those things I don't feel comfortable sharing with everyone.

 

[Aleigha66]

Friends know but family don't...yet!

 

[FuzzyCaz]

Another secret ttc-er here....told no-one: no family, no friends...just me, OH, our GP and bnb

Don't want friend and family to keep furtively asking if there's "any news"...would drive me batty!

 

[SunUp]

Glad to see I am not alone! I definitely think having people ask about the status of everything would be too much pressure! Plus I think the surprise would be nice, I would love to figure out something creative as way to tell people, whenever the BFP happens...

Good luck to everyone! FX.

 

[Tanzibar83]

Me and DH kept the fact we were learning to drive a secret from absolutely everyone and it was very shocking to both our families when we both passed. We prefer to have the pressure kept off us so we've not told anyone, and I think when I do get a BFP I'll be very cautious about how many people to tell. Past the 3 month mark and then the whole world can know, but for now it's just DH, myself and the Dr.

Like someone said above I couldn't be doing with people asking "any luck"?

 

[Stinas]

We are somewhat keeping it a secret. My preg BFF knows, I kept her secret so she is keeping mine, her husband(who is also my DH BFF), and one of my DH coworker.
Im pretty sure my mom knows, but it has not been discussed, but moms always know.
I hate when everyone asks. Its basically asking..."are you having unprotected sex with your husband?" lol
Like what does anyone care? I just feel its private. Dont get me wrong, its nice to have someone close to tell because its a frustrating process, but to tell everyone is not a good idea. Not everyone is happy for people. I feel like it could be a jinx.

 

[dragonfly1982]

Well we're just newly married and we've started ttc seriously since we got married a little over 5 weeks ago. We haven't told anyone except my GP and also I mentioned to my only sister that we were ttc (as its coming up to my birthday and she always organises a party for me so I wanted to make sure she knew the score before spending any money on it!) she was excited for us and I know she won't tell anyone (except maybe her OH, which I don't mind either as he wouldn't repeat it back to me or DH) Plus I'm glad to have someone on my side who can help me avoid nights out (drinking etc) with friends without appearing rude - or like we ARE ttc cause obviously we want it to be a surprise to everyone!

 

[jadenblu]

Only one person knows, and that was DH telling a friend. I wouldn't tell people anyway (not even my mum knows!) but after being married so long, no one really asks now - just assumes we don't want them, I guess!

 

[karenlyn]

Yep, DH and I are keeping it secret, too. I don't really want people asking about our sex life, which is basically what it amounts to. I do have one friend I sort of half told, but she's not even in the country so I don't have to worry about it getting out.

 

[mrsltd]

Hi! I'm new to the site also, and we are in top secret TTC mode! We were ttc in 2006 and 2007 and it just didn't work out for us. Everyone knew we were trying and it felt like I had to update everyone every month, and it made the whole process so much more stressful. I got so sick of everyone saying "relax, and it will happen! Take a vacation and you'll be pregnant!" LOL, I wish it was that easy!!! Now we have been back in the game since April, not that we have never not been trying, but with my issues I have to use clomid to ovulate, and it is so much nicer just dealing with everything quietly between the two of us.

Good luck to you, and I hope your TTC journey is a short one!

Becky

 

[lu-is]

We haven't told anyone that we're TTC. Don't plan to tell anyone until we're pregnant
I've sort of hinted at it to my mom, planted the idea that we might try in the near future.

just got asked today when are we going to have children?

 

[Baby2012]

We're keeping it a secret too we think that there's enough presssure in TCC without others adding to it. Every time I say I'm tired or I don't feel well we keep getting the "ohh you could get pregs" comments which we just politely smile at. It's our cute little secret and we won't tell anyone until we've had our 12 week scan & the all clear xxxx

 

[Conina]

No-one but me and DH know. And I'm so glad, I never thought it would take this long, and if everyone was pressuring us too, it would be totally unbearable!!

 

[Bump2B]

Also a secret TTCer. Its fast approaching our 1 year wedding anniversary so are at the stage where people ask 'so when are you gonna have kids'. I cant believe people ask that question as if it's their right to know. My husband just replies "Tuesday" and people know to steer clear.

 

[ferens06]

I'm a secret one too me and OH know, that is it. I couldn't deal with the judgement at all, because we're 22/23 we would face a lot of negative comments. I've figured if I get pregnant then they will just have to deal with it! It is hard not having anyone to talk to though.x