Anyone else a 'stay at home wife' but not mum yet?

[Dawnlouise30]

yeah i think part time work will be a happy medium, besides i get bored cleaning after a while LOL , all that will earn me and (i love the smilies LOL)

Way to go Dawn!!! You are a brave and wise chickie!!

PT work sounds great. I would like to do that too. It gets a bit lonely around the house sometimes, although I always have plenty to do

 

[Miaowzen]

Hehehe!!

 

[Miaowzen]

I just came back to this thread, and some of us lovely SAHW are on the way to becoming SAHMs!!!



Congratulations Wannabeam, SocietyCourty, FeelingLucky, CelticStar & Bunnylicious!!!

 

[bullymom]

Hi, what a nice thread to have found I SAH and i do it out of choice When i was younger and people used to talk about what they wanted to be when they grow up, i used to feel like there was something wrong with me because i didn't know, i didn't really want to work, and it wasn't till i got older that i realised i wanted to be a SAHM.

When i first met my OH, we were travelling at the time and he asked, when we went back to reality what did i want to do, my answer was to be a SAHM He knew the deal right from the start, and is totally on board with it

I don't feel guilty that we don't have children yet, i do other stuff during the day around the house, and i also make a lot of things for us, i'm really into knitting, i'm making everyone something knitted for christmas this year to keep costs down, so thats a big project This is a quote from my OH "Just because you don't get paid for what you do, people look down on you, but you achieve much more for us everyday than i do, i just get paid for what i do"

The only people that seem to have a problem with me not working are friends and family members, always asking "but what do you do all day?" If they can't imagine what they would do all day if they didn't work, that's sad, i have a lot to do everyday, i don't need to give them a list detailing it!!

Totally agree!! Love the quote from your OH.

I moved country after I got married, and have been SAH since.

Sometimes I feel guilty when people ask "what do you do?" I worry they might look down on me. I do EVERYTHING around the house, inside and out. I'm busy everyday, sometimes exhausted at the end of the day. Some people just can't understand it really take a lot of work and time to keep a house. And I have doggie babies to take care of, too.

I don't like the guilty feeling, but can't help it, try my best to ignore it. I"m hoping to get BFP soon so the guilt will go away.

 

[Miaowzen]

Last night DH was telling me how he went to boarding school. Awww... That's sad, didn't you miss your family? I asked.

He said no, once he was old enough to go to school both his parents worked until 10pm at night.

I never did anything with my parents either because my mum was a single mum looking after me and a severely disabled brother.

I really want to make a difference for our children... I want to be there for them. By looking after the home I feel like I'm in training

 

[nevernormal]

Miaowzen, your chart looks so different this month than it has in previous cycles! When are you planning to test? I hope you're the next SAHW-to-SAHM on this thread!

 

[AC1987]

I'm a stay at home wife at the moment, as I recently moved to the states and not legal to work just yet(slow long process of paperwork). I'm hoping so soon to be a stay at home mom!!

 

[Bunnylicious]

I just came back to this thread, and some of us lovely SAHW are on the way to becoming SAHMs!!!



Congratulations Wannabeam, SocietyCourty, FeelingLucky, CelticStar & Bunnylicious!!!

I just saw your chart. Congrats to you too !!

 

[littleprinces]

Im a stay at home (soon to be wife!) I'm a full time student but at the moment I am only in uni 1 and a half days a week, though I will admit that I find BnB more interesting than some of my studies.... my hubby works full time. Will admit I get a bit lonely though sometimes, I live quite a way from town, so I don't get to see my friends as much and my family are back in my hometown, looking forward to moving back there year after next, hopefully with baby in tow!

 

[jox2]

I am so glad to have seen this thread! I’ve been a Stay @ Home Wifey since we married four months ago. Before that I was a busy worker bee intent on self-sufficiency (he he, that rhymes) At one point I decided to spend a few years studying biochem, and working, and running a research project. Whew! But I have to say…I like not working right now. I like being home, taking care of house and hubby. For some reason it makes me guilty. I’m thankful my hubby doesn’t resent anything and we aren’t hurting too bad for extra income. But we are talking about replacing a car in the upcoming months and he’s mention a few times that my working PT would easily cover the new payment so we wouldn’t have to feel squeezed. And I am looking/sending out resumes, but my heart just isn’t in it. However, we are trying for #1 (In the tww—8dpo, fingers crossed!) and we have both agreed that I will be a S@HM. I guess I’ll just feel more justified when we have a little one in the mix, too. Thanks, ladies! It is nice to know I’m not alone

 

[Miaowzen]

Hi new SAHWs!!

I like this thread too, nice and positive

Bunnylicious, I might have been a little presumptive with my chart yesterday.... I saw the faintest line well out of the two minute testing allowance time when I looked at it much later in the day. Pink dye test though, but not seeing anything on this morning's test and temp is exactly the same as yesterday. Yesterday I did a self-imposed bed rest due to my temp not rising yet, today I think I'll do the same (except to go to the shop to buy more tests). Having loads of symptoms though, I hope she settles in for a little longer!