Anyone else expecting a November sparkler? *Updated with due dates!*

[LoraLoo]

Dazed thats great! Mine often hides right next to my heartbeat, its definitely easier to find now though!

I cant wait to add blue or pink next to my name now

 

[brinib]

BubsMom17- They are similar to when I had Braxton Hicks last time but it's way sooner and maybe they are stronger?

Gemie-- I'm not on the first page either. Due 11/10

 

[Gemie]

BubsMom17- They are similar to when I had Braxton Hicks last time but it's way sooner and maybe they are stronger?

Gemie-- I'm not on the first page either. Due 11/10

Oops!! My bad.... So sorry for missing you ladies out don't take it personally my brain is mush lol x

 

[MandaAnda]

I've been getting BH for the last week. They be noticeable earlier on in subsequent pregnancies. I never noticed them in my son's or angel's pregnancies though. It just feels like pressure and bump (or where you know your uterus is, even if a bump isn't showing) goes hard. Mine haven't been painful.

 

[Gemie]

Omgosh I had to tell you, I just found baby's heartbeat on the Doppler! This is a first for me so it's a huge deal
I found it then I ran downstairs and found it again to show dh 164 bpm

One happy momma

 

[gardenofedens]

I hate how that works in the US. Our sick leave and maternity leave is separate here. So, being off sick only affects our maternity leave if we're off for a pregnancy related problem from 36 weeks onward, and that just means it makes our maternity leave start early (if we weren't already off anyway). I'm American, and I have horrible memories if the paid time off bank, sick leave and vacation days coming out of the same, and it's not even a lot to begin with.

Yep, it's absurd. My company made me use all my sick and vacation time before I could apply for maternity leave. I thought this meant I would have my three weeks of saved up sick and vacation time and then my six weeks maternity leave giving me 9 weeks home with my baby (i worked until the day I went into labor). Nope! Six weeks total. They used my own vacation time to cover part of the state mandated maternity leave which is apparently completely legal in CA. I was pissed. That's just not right in my opinion! And had they been up front about that from the beginning I wouldn't have skipped out on taking days off earlier on since I was only going to get the six weeks anyway!

Gardens - You are in Cali. Did you not use the Ca state bonding time as well as your Short Term Disability? I got 16 weeks off, since FMLA guarantees you 12 (if you have been employed for a full year), plus the additional 6 weeks of bonding time. They run concurrently and can overlap, so it does get confusing... I know that not all companies have to pay you for FMLA, but they legally have to give you the time off... but I know they state will pay you for 12 weeks, short term disability and 6 weeks bonding time. And yes, my company makes me use my paid time too, but only for the first week of maternity leave.

BUT mat leave only starts effective your due date! So if you want to take time off earlier, you have to use your sick time for that as well...

I think the U.S. is awful about maternity leave. They push 6 months of exclusive breast feeding, but then only give mothers a MAX four months off of work... If you work for the state of California, you get even less time! I know that makes no sense, but that's how it works...

I don't remember exactly how it worked out but I ended up with 5.5 months off total. I was paid for 12 weeks of it and the rest was unpaid. I know my boss pulled some strings for me to get some extra time off and then I ended up quitting anyway. I felt bad after everything she did but I decided it was best to be home with Abigail.

 

[brinib]

I hate how that works in the US. Our sick leave and maternity leave is separate here. So, being off sick only affects our maternity leave if we're off for a pregnancy related problem from 36 weeks onward, and that just means it makes our maternity leave start early (if we weren't already off anyway). I'm American, and I have horrible memories if the paid time off bank, sick leave and vacation days coming out of the same, and it's not even a lot to begin with.

Yep, it's absurd. My company made me use all my sick and vacation time before I could apply for maternity leave. I thought this meant I would have my three weeks of saved up sick and vacation time and then my six weeks maternity leave giving me 9 weeks home with my baby (i worked until the day I went into labor). Nope! Six weeks total. They used my own vacation time to cover part of the state mandated maternity leave which is apparently completely legal in CA. I was pissed. That's just not right in my opinion! And had they been up front about that from the beginning I wouldn't have skipped out on taking days off earlier on since I was only going to get the six weeks anyway!

Gardens - You are in Cali. Did you not use the Ca state bonding time as well as your Short Term Disability? I got 16 weeks off, since FMLA guarantees you 12 (if you have been employed for a full year), plus the additional 6 weeks of bonding time. They run concurrently and can overlap, so it does get confusing... I know that not all companies have to pay you for FMLA, but they legally have to give you the time off... but I know they state will pay you for 12 weeks, short term disability and 6 weeks bonding time. And yes, my company makes me use my paid time too, but only for the first week of maternity leave.

BUT mat leave only starts effective your due date! So if you want to take time off earlier, you have to use your sick time for that as well...

I think the U.S. is awful about maternity leave. They push 6 months of exclusive breast feeding, but then only give mothers a MAX four months off of work... If you work for the state of California, you get even less time! I know that makes no sense, but that's how it works...

I don't remember exactly how it worked out but I ended up with 5.5 months off total. I was paid for 12 weeks of it and the rest was unpaid. I know my boss pulled some strings for me to get some extra time off and then I ended up quitting anyway. I felt bad after everything she did but I decided it was best to be home with Abigail.

Wow! That's amazing! I got 6 weeks of disability last time, after I used 2 weeks paid, and then I took another 6 weeks unpaid. This time I don't qualify for disability because I won't be full-time anymore by the time baby is born, but I do have a fair amount of vacation saved up. California has really good social programs compared to other states-- I went to college there and paid almost nothing for tuition once I became a resident. Now I'm back in Washington where everything is much less subsidized.

 

[miss_kseniya]

Gemie I love the idea of pink, blue and yellow on the front page

 

[grich2011]

gemie I'm going to be yellow

 

[teacup22]

I am SO angry!!! Some people out of my old birth group have just been moaning about 'someone' moaning about their pregnancy and how someone else would love to be in their position.
I don't agree that having a little moan about morning sickness or anything means you deserve your baby any less! I'm so angry I may just delete them all off my Facebook

 

[LoraLoo]

I am SO angry!!! Some people out of my old birth group have just been moaning about 'someone' moaning about their pregnancy and how someone else would love to be in their position.
I don't agree that having a little moan about morning sickness or anything means you deserve your baby any less! I'm so angry I may just delete them all off my Facebook

Thats just ridiculous, for god sake ive lost 2 babies and i still moan! It doesnt mean im any less grateful for being pregnant, i realise im truly blessed to have another chance, but pregnancy can be really hard too and we are all entitled to the odd moan and whinge about it! x

 

[lovehearts]

Tower - sorry I'm a little late but so pleased to hear all is well with baby. And congrats on a baby girl

Gemie, glad you found the hb

Teacup, I agree with lora, we all know how precious pregnancy is and none of us take it for granted but it can still be bloody tough. Doesn't mean we don't appreciate how lucky we are.

Xx

 

[Dazed125]

I am SO angry!!! Some people out of my old birth group have just been moaning about 'someone' moaning about their pregnancy and how someone else would love to be in their position.
I don't agree that having a little moan about morning sickness or anything means you deserve your baby any less! I'm so angry I may just delete them all off my Facebook

I moan most days, it doesn't mean that I'm not grateful every second. And how dare anyone be judged for how worthy they are!

 

[Tower6]

Gemie I live that idea with the gender colors! Super cute!! I havent looked at the front page yet- ate you puttin the stork graphic next to the names or are you turning our name into the gender color? I think the idea is super cute!!

It's so exciting that everyone will know soon!! I can't wait to see the ratio!

Thanks for all your sweet comments ladies! You guys have been so amazing and helpful through this time for me. I love you all

Teacupp- isn't it crazy how mean and harsh people are when they say things about someone else as if they know their situation, and even more childish of the to use fb to post it and say what they don't have the balls to say to your face! Who are they to think they have the right?! Blows my mind! Plus Hunny you were sick for so long and so badly that I woul have expected waaaaaaay more moans from you than we even heard!

 

[Gemie]

Oh man I'm the worlds worst moaner! I'm so greatful to be blessed with this baby. Stupid idiots!!

I'll update the front page later when I get home

 

[teacup22]

I think I've got an umbilical hernia! It hurts.
My fault for not sorting out my really separated abdo muscles after DS!
Anyway... Tower have you any names yet?
I'm starting to make a list of things I need to buy as I can't bring myself to buy anything yet

 

[laura3103]

Someone best shot me now then cause I moan non stop lol

Here's me moaning lol
Well I brought some new pillows yesterday I normally only buy cheap asda ones but I thought being pregnant and wanting to be comfy at night I would splash out on silent night ones omg what a mistake I have woken up with a really bad stiff next and right shoulder I'm in so much pain with it so I went out and brought some cheapies the kids can't have the expensive ones lol

 

[grich2011]

I am telling my family tomorrow ahh!! This is a huge thing for me because I never told them about the other pregnancy's that I miscarried, im so nervous!

 

[gardenofedens]

I am telling my family tomorrow ahh!! This is a huge thing for me because I never told them about the other pregnancy's that I miscarried, im so nervous!

I am too grich! Super nervous about it! How are you going to tell them?

 

[grich2011]

I am telling my family tomorrow ahh!! This is a huge thing for me because I never told them about the other pregnancy's that I miscarried, im so nervous!

I am too grich! Super nervous about it! How are you going to tell them?

My dad passed away a year ago so my main person to tell is my mom and i bought her a Pandora charm that says grandma His family we dont really have a plan lol

how about you?