Thistledown
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I've been married to my OH for almost 5 years. In the last couple years I've had a few broody moments, but bringing it up with the OH has always gotten a "we'll talk about it later". But later never seems to come! I know OH does want kids, it's just "eventually" and "when the timing's right". I was really starting to think the only way it was ever going to happen was accidentally.
Well, we had our happy accident a couple weeks ago... unfortunately quickly followed by a MC. OH said we'd talk "soon" about starting a family. Soon sounded good to me, I was fine with waiting a little while to let our emotions settle down before talking about it.
In the meantime, OH got a call from a head hunter the other day. Right now, OH's job usually has him away from home for 4 days, and home for 3. This new possible job is 2 weeks away and 2 weeks at home. I casually mentioned if he did take the job, it would make starting a family pretty difficult. He said "Well, even if I did take it, it wouldn't be a forever kind of thing, only a few years". A few years? Is the kind of time frame he's thinking?? I suspect he wouldn't even want to try on that kind of schedule - I know he doesn't want to be working away that much with a small child at home.
I was completely surprised by my positive test, but I was also excited. I'm really disappointed it didn't pan out, and I want to try again now. I finally broke down and had a little cry last night about the MC (everything was such a whirlwind, it's taking me a while to sort out my feelings), and OH said we'll talk more today.
I think I'm actually scared to have this discussion! Right now I can at least pretend maybe we'll start TTC soon, but once we actually talk about it... it'll be set. And I suspect it'll be set a loooong way off.
Does anyone else feel this way? Like maybe it's better just not having "the talk"?
Well, we had our happy accident a couple weeks ago... unfortunately quickly followed by a MC. OH said we'd talk "soon" about starting a family. Soon sounded good to me, I was fine with waiting a little while to let our emotions settle down before talking about it.
In the meantime, OH got a call from a head hunter the other day. Right now, OH's job usually has him away from home for 4 days, and home for 3. This new possible job is 2 weeks away and 2 weeks at home. I casually mentioned if he did take the job, it would make starting a family pretty difficult. He said "Well, even if I did take it, it wouldn't be a forever kind of thing, only a few years". A few years? Is the kind of time frame he's thinking?? I suspect he wouldn't even want to try on that kind of schedule - I know he doesn't want to be working away that much with a small child at home.
I was completely surprised by my positive test, but I was also excited. I'm really disappointed it didn't pan out, and I want to try again now. I finally broke down and had a little cry last night about the MC (everything was such a whirlwind, it's taking me a while to sort out my feelings), and OH said we'll talk more today.
I think I'm actually scared to have this discussion! Right now I can at least pretend maybe we'll start TTC soon, but once we actually talk about it... it'll be set. And I suspect it'll be set a loooong way off.
Does anyone else feel this way? Like maybe it's better just not having "the talk"?