VioletRose
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I'm well aware of the issues surrounding 'older' motherhood, the risk of declining fertility and possible abnormalities with the pregnancy -I think most of us are. And that's a good thing. Those issues are not to be dismissed. We should be well informed in order to make the best choices. But there are so many other things to consider that we never seem to hear about. It's as if those behind the 'news' think we're leaving it for fun or through ignorance, but I doubt that's often the case.
Surely if everything came together and we were in a position to have babies earlier, then some of us might. But conditions can be tough in your twenties. Some of us don't finish our education until mid-way through our twenties, jobs aren't always easy to come by and hang on to, never mind careers. And it's harder than ever to get on the property ladder or find somewhere we can afford to live and would like to raise a child!
What about finding the right partner? If we haven't met someone or settled down yet, then surely that's an issue. And what if it's the MAN that wants to wait?! Just because more women are having babies later these days, doesn't mean it's ALL because THEY are the ones choosing to wait!
Every woman who waits has her own (and possibly her partner's own) set of circumstances and reasons why she has first child when she does. I've heard at least three entirely separate 'news' items this week alone about the problems of 'leaving it too late' and just wondered how others feel about it?
Personally I'm not sure it's even news anymore. We know already! Now knock it off with the pressure!
Surely if everything came together and we were in a position to have babies earlier, then some of us might. But conditions can be tough in your twenties. Some of us don't finish our education until mid-way through our twenties, jobs aren't always easy to come by and hang on to, never mind careers. And it's harder than ever to get on the property ladder or find somewhere we can afford to live and would like to raise a child!
What about finding the right partner? If we haven't met someone or settled down yet, then surely that's an issue. And what if it's the MAN that wants to wait?! Just because more women are having babies later these days, doesn't mean it's ALL because THEY are the ones choosing to wait!
Every woman who waits has her own (and possibly her partner's own) set of circumstances and reasons why she has first child when she does. I've heard at least three entirely separate 'news' items this week alone about the problems of 'leaving it too late' and just wondered how others feel about it?
Personally I'm not sure it's even news anymore. We know already! Now knock it off with the pressure!