anyone else think crazy to test before missed period

[Niamh22]

might be a taboo subject but since i have joined the forum and i look at the pregnancy test section etc i find myself thinking why are people trying test when they are 9dpo or earlier? Surely this is setting up for a fall i am the only one who thinks testing that early is crazy? there could be lots of results from chemical pregancy in that. does everyone test that early? i always wait till day my period due or after. determined to wait a couple of weeks this time that way if i bleed in that time can put it down to al ate period rather than a MC.

sorry if this post offends anyone

 

[TTC Again]

I am guilty of testing early....it's like that TWW is so torturous and you start to scrutinize every feeling. I've gotten most of my BFPs (all but 1 time) before a missed period. All of my losses were after I would have missed a period, so it wouldn't have changed anything in knowing/not knowing about a chemical pregnancy. I know rationally it makes sense to wait until I'm late to test, but I can't help feeling the urge to test early and giving in to it!

 

[Niamh22]

i understand the rational behind it jsut think i would be so upset testing and seeing negative's or trying to see a line and then testing all the time till the line gets darker where as trying to wait till after and seeing a dark line straight away and saving alot of money lol. maybe it is just me and i will be joining the club soon lol

 

[blueeyedgirl1]

I was guilty of testing the month I got my BFP.

However...you say you want to wait until you're a couple of weeks late. I MMC at 5 weeks, only bled a tiny amount, which I would have taken for implantation bleeding or maybe a weird AF. I ended up in hospital and needed an operation...had I waited another week or more to test I could have damaged my body or not realised for a very long time that I was pregnant and had miscarried.

Now, mine was a rare case, but it doesn't always pay to wait TOO long. I've promised myself and OH that I won't test until the day after AF's due but I wouldn't wait any longer than that.

(PS: Whilst I know you were totally not trying to be offensive, using words such as "crazy" directed at others can quickly be construed as name calling on the internet)

 

[Niamh22]

Yer ur right wording was wrong. and i am sorry for ur loss. i gues i just couldnt take the heart ache again. my head a shed today only been a wk since my mc and really not good currently hiding in the toilet at work trying to pull myself together. i gues i just see early testing as heartache that some maybe able to avoid

 

[Rebaby]

With my first pregnancy i tested the day AF was due and MC'd a few days later, however despite it being a very early MC i definitely would have known that it was a MC (rather than just a "heavy AF") even if i hadn't known i was pregnant (if you see what i mean?) So i don't think i'd have saved myself any heartache on that occasion.

With my 2nd pregnancy (which resulted in our son) i tested the day AF was due.

With my most recent pregnancy (which again ended in MC) i tested the day before AF was due. I had been planning to wait until the day AF was due but woke up feeling really 'pregnant' and really like i HAD to know one way or the other.

With this most recent time i do feel i would have saved myself some degree of stress and worry if i had managed to put off testing until later as i basically worried non-stop from the minute i got the until they wheeled me down for the ERPC over 5 weeks later so perhaps if i'd waited a bit longer to test i'd have still had the worry that comes with a MMC but just for less time.

I don't think people are necessarily crazy for wanting to test asap but i myself, wouldn't like to be testing at say 9, 10, 11 DPO as i know what i'm like, i'm a HUGE worrier, so seeing a faint line, or a would be very difficult for me- not knowing if that faint line was then going to get darker or if that would be a if only i'd waited a few days longer etc.

We are NTNP now and AF due tomorrow, haven't tested yet but then again it's been easier for me to avoid testing this time as i don't feel in the least bit pregnant.

I think it's when your symptom spotting like crazy and really really want to be pregnant, and the tests are in the house and they're calling your name "pee on me! pee on me!" i think that's the situation when people end up testing much earlier than they'd planned to!

 

[diverdi]

I recently spoke to a specialist in high risk pregnancies and she advises not to test early. Apparently a couple with nor fertility problems can expect to achieve fertilisation in about 60% of cycles, but not all of these go on to implant successfully, and the results form the can lead to 'chemical pregnancies'. he suggests avoidng testing early to avoid the heartache of these.
At the end of the day it's down to personal choice.

 

[spellfairy]

HI

Well Iam guilty of testing I posted the pic but seriously i really dont think there is a line. I waited 2 days and done another. This was the predictor test which is apparently 99% for up to 5 days. But to be honest they say count from day of mc as first day. Well if that is the case tomorrow is the 30th day and on the 30th day last time i saw a faint line. Today again i THINK i see a line but to be honest i think BFN.

I had pinkish discharge on saturday night which was day 24 so how long did you take to get a BFP after implantion normally?

 

[Niamh22]

I think sometimes up to 10 days after implantation. as hcg doesnt start till implantation depends on sensitivty i gues. i didnt mean to cal anyone crazy was just really wondering if this was the norm and i was not for not doing this. god that doesnt make sense my head is all over the place. wouldnt say u were testing early tho spoomie.

 

[Niamh22]

Sorry spell fairy ahh just want this day over wish i hadnt started this thread came here to make friends with people and al i.ve done is insult people was just venting i guess sorry

 

[spellfairy]

you ve insulted noone.. !!!!!!!!! maybe your are pregnant lol being so sensitive LOL ... WE ARE ALL IN SAME BOAT MISSUS, we will get our babies so iam only 5 days past the IB soooo i dunno... feeling a bit calmer now thou.

 

[TTC Again]

I'm not insulted. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and I respect that. I think some people choose to wait to test while others don't. It's a personal choice.

 

[spellfairy]

fairy dust xxx

 

[glaciergirl]

I'm not insulted either. I get wrapped up in the whole frenzy of sympton spotting etc as I desperately want to be pregnant again. But I also recognise the downfall of testing too early - I just couldn't put myself through that heartache of getting a BFP and losing it soon after. In my last pregnancy which ended in a mmc, I tested 3 days after my missed period and I got a faint positive. I was shocked when I discovered I had already reached 4 and a half weeks! This time around I am trying to hold out till day after missed period....and so far so good!

 

[Niamh22]

Thank you i am an emotional wreck today oh going to love me when i get home later been crying at every little thing just having a bad day. days like this i wish i could have a glass of wine

 

[glaciergirl]

Thank you i am an emotional wreck today oh going to love me when i get home later been crying at every little thing just having a bad day. days like this i wish i could have a glass of wine

Hot chocolate with marshmallows is just as nice

Take care and be good to yourself xx

 

[Lucia]

I agree. I think it's a personal choice. I personally do not like testing early but I need to take progesterone and aspirin as soon as I get a BFP so I need to catch it as soon as possible next time around.

 

[tweedy]

Just wanted to add, that although i also think it is mad to test early and put yourself through the heartache of seeing a negative test, i do it too. although my first cycle after mc i was a bit crazy and am hoping to stick to the testing the day after af is due....if nothing else i can't afford the £££'s on pregnancy tests. with a previous ectopic i also need to get confirmation pretty quick from docs as they will need to rule out ectopic, so even getting a BFP is a very stressful time as i am waiting for tests and blood results to make sure it's in the right place and i am out of danger....

i sometimes ask why do i do it to myslef, then my daughter tells me she is lonely and wants an ollie to play with (ollie is my neices younger brother)....gives me the determination to carry on

Niamh, hope you are having a better day today, don't feel bad about starting threads like this, we all need this place to voice our opinions and learn from others x

 

[Niamh22]

well feeling better today got through yesterday and my LO is still sleeping so having a coffee before she wakes it's bliss lol

 

[tweedy]

What a start to the day,i'm jealous! my LO woke me at 6am, 20 mins earlier than my alarm goes off, but i was able to be calm and organised getting out to work, leaving her and my husband in bed watching fireman sam. i'm all set for a fab weekend, no talk of TTC or mc, i am going to welcome my wee bro home from afgan and maybe have a wee half glass of guiness.

glad you are feeling better, enjoy your day x