Ok i want honest opinions about my situation.
Been together 7 years and have 2 kids and another on the way. When we moved intogether over 6 years ago i use to make the effort every few weeks to go and visit oh parents roll on after our first still did the same till first was about 18months. Then i thought hold on here. Why the hell am i being the pushover and why cant they be arsed to come visit us more instead of us all the time. Bear in mind both fully drive. Dont work are both in excellent health and nothing wrong with them and live a cushy life and we only a 30 min drive away, nothing at all. She has no involvement with her grankids what so ever only time she pops down is maybe twice a year and one of them times its to collect her and family's xmas cards for money. Last time she came was last December and was a day kids were in school and obviously she would know that. I put my foot down and refused to go anymore as why should i? And it has caused many probs to start with with partner sayin im slaggin his mum off when why should I keep goin. Obviously he knows i wont go now and havent dun for a few years so we dont argue about it now and when we did always use to defend them and made it i was the bad one! Thing is he dont even visit her but only because i think thats it cos me and kids wont go. Kids dont know here as grandma and have referred to her and called her the lady which i thought was funny. Well now im pregnant again and i said well when r u telling ur parents. Mine already know as needed them at bad time i had with this pregnancy. And he turned round and just said casually dunno prob after next scan we'll pop up and tell them. Well i was so shocked at that i didnt reply as we was just watchin tv at the time so didn't say nothing. Now im fuming inside he expects me to go visit and tell em! An i wrong to saying no and duno how i would tell him aint goin without starting a argument. Bearing in mind she has only seen her grankids a handful of times in nearly 6 years. Never asks or calls to c how they r or anything. Good job they have there other grandma who works full time but sees them all the time and they really love her to bits. Sorry for long post. Theres alot more to it than this but isnt relavent to kids so doesn't matter about that wouldn't say shes a nasty women but she just has no intrest in her grankids what so ever and these will be her only ones.
Been together 7 years and have 2 kids and another on the way. When we moved intogether over 6 years ago i use to make the effort every few weeks to go and visit oh parents roll on after our first still did the same till first was about 18months. Then i thought hold on here. Why the hell am i being the pushover and why cant they be arsed to come visit us more instead of us all the time. Bear in mind both fully drive. Dont work are both in excellent health and nothing wrong with them and live a cushy life and we only a 30 min drive away, nothing at all. She has no involvement with her grankids what so ever only time she pops down is maybe twice a year and one of them times its to collect her and family's xmas cards for money. Last time she came was last December and was a day kids were in school and obviously she would know that. I put my foot down and refused to go anymore as why should i? And it has caused many probs to start with with partner sayin im slaggin his mum off when why should I keep goin. Obviously he knows i wont go now and havent dun for a few years so we dont argue about it now and when we did always use to defend them and made it i was the bad one! Thing is he dont even visit her but only because i think thats it cos me and kids wont go. Kids dont know here as grandma and have referred to her and called her the lady which i thought was funny. Well now im pregnant again and i said well when r u telling ur parents. Mine already know as needed them at bad time i had with this pregnancy. And he turned round and just said casually dunno prob after next scan we'll pop up and tell them. Well i was so shocked at that i didnt reply as we was just watchin tv at the time so didn't say nothing. Now im fuming inside he expects me to go visit and tell em! An i wrong to saying no and duno how i would tell him aint goin without starting a argument. Bearing in mind she has only seen her grankids a handful of times in nearly 6 years. Never asks or calls to c how they r or anything. Good job they have there other grandma who works full time but sees them all the time and they really love her to bits. Sorry for long post. Theres alot more to it than this but isnt relavent to kids so doesn't matter about that wouldn't say shes a nasty women but she just has no intrest in her grankids what so ever and these will be her only ones.