Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[ashknowsbest]

pink - i'm so sorry for your loss.

I hope everyone is doing good. I've been extremely MIA since nothing has been happening but I'm going to be starting Lupron next Friday so things are going to start picking up a little bit.

 

[pinkfee]

Thank you ladies. x

 

[ESwemba84]

Pink - sorry about your loss.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Hey Ash! Welcome back! So it looks like I am doing IVF in March....the process will be a little different though....no lupron....just start my cycle and then start stimming with gonal F.....this is what my Dr recommended.

 

[ashknowsbest]

TTC - so sorry you're joining many of us on the IVF train but at least you have us and we'll all be here to support you! When do you start?

 

[sugarpi24]

I go in Thursday for an u/s to check my follicles...hope we get good news again! Then doing an IUI...

Does anyone ever lose friends over TTC? I feel like an angry person... this one friend at work is preggo and she still smokes and drinks Mt dew like crazy!!! And then she asks someone to get something heavy and says " you don't to hurt the baby do you?!" Its like really your already doing that! She lamost had a miscarriage with this one and yet shes still smoking and drinking Mt dew!! :/ it makes me so made! Some women that get pregnant just don't appreciate it!! then another friend from college I stopped being her friend due to her not being really nice about the way she told me she was preggo...and just rubbing it in my face after knowing how we were ttc...anyone else have issues with this kind of stuff? I want a kid so bad!! I'm sure we all do I got a whole bunch of ideas and stuff to do when I do end up preggo...I feel like I'm going crazy! okay done venting...

 

[Tarotempres]

Sugarpi - I haven't lost any friends because all of my friends have had their kids already but I do know how you are feeling. This woman I bowl with her son was having a kid and his baby mama I just wanted to punch her. All she did the entire pregnancy was complain how she couldn't get high and couldn't drink but she smoked the entire pregnancy and ate crap. It just made me want to hit people and scream and I couldn't be around them at all. Then there is this other girl that bowls on my league that I don't know whay God was thinking allowing her to reproduce with the idoit that is the baby daddy. I walked into bolwing and they both were smoking outside the bowling alley. I truly just wanted to say something but this guy is such a jerk I was truly afraid he may take a swing at me. You are completely not alone and it just gets me so angry. It seems like the people that have the hardest times in the world getting pregnant will be the best mom's ever.

 

[sugarpi24]

I mean if a friend of mine ended up pregnant I'm happy for them ya know...but the girl at work doesn't appreciate her baby...and the one friendship I ended because she asked me how my testing was and I'm like well I'm not preggo so I guess not good...and shes like oh that sucks and I'm like so what's new and she said oh a lot actually I'm getting married in a few months because I just found out I am pregnant! Its like really?!?! You cheated on him...haven't told him...told me you don't want kids and you don't want to get married for a ling time...and you have the nerve to ask me how my testing is going and then tell me your pregnant!!!!!! I might have over reacted by not being her friend anymore but it was really grr!

Bigger- I agree some ppl shouldn't have babies! My child is already spoiled and its not even inside me!! My mom and MIL are both really excited so I know they will be spoiled by them too. I'm looking forward to being a mother and being able to try and give my child the best life I can!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Ash - we are shooting for march, hopefully you will be pregnant by then and then you can Cher me on

Sugar - wow behavior like that just baffles me. You are right ppl are insensitive and yes some ppl shouldn't be able to reproduce because they don't appreciate what a wonderful gift it is.

 

[thurl30]

Hi ya ladies,

I'm Thurl, and desperately TTC number 1, I have PCOS, a tilted womb, and I have been ttc since July 2011. Can I join you? x

 

[ashknowsbest]

ttc - Come on march! I hope I'm pregnant by March but if I'm not, then we can go through everything together!

sugar - I haven't lost friends but I would say that friendships become more difficult. With me, I'm kind of scared in a way to be close with my friends now for a couple of reasons. 1. They don't understand what I'm going through and they're too insensitive to it (I am 24 and most of my friends aren't trying yet so I don't blame them) 2. I'm actually afraid that they're going to get pregnant before me and then I'm going to be so resentful and angry that it's going to ruin the friendship so I try to keep my distance. It's not a good way to be and I fight it every day, I have to force myself to answer the phone when my friend calls but that's just the way it is for me. I hope it gets better and once you get pregnant you will do the right thing (not smoke or drink) and be a GREAT mom!

thurl - welcome to the group! This is a very supportive bunch of ladies!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Welcome Thurl!!!!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Ash I really hope you are! I think the ICSI will do the trick this time around!

 

[thurl30]

Thanks ladies,

I just had my worst nightmare come true when my SIL announced she was pg on NYE, we haven't spoken since, not because I went off on one, but I got so upset and just said it was because of memories, and left her party, which is was because of memories (I have a very early loss this time last year), but it was also because I was resentful, needed some time, but she doens't understand and neither does her husband, so things have gotten worse as the week has gone by. TTC for a long time is so difficult, thanks for welcoming me

 

[ttcbaby117]

so sorry to hear that....it is difficult to hear about other people getting pg when you are so desperately trying. Sometimes you can only do so much and getting away from it is the only way to cope. Maybe try to explain this to them....that it wasnt a personal attack on them but more of a coping mechanisim because of what you are going through.

 

[thurl30]

I'm sure we will have a heart to heart at some point and I can try to explain a little Hope everyone is having a nice weekend x

 

[lucylou7]

Sugar - I totally understand where your coming from I have a friend who has only been with her oh for 7 months they started ttc from day 1 had a miscarriage announced it to the world on face book ( personally I wouldn't have done that as I think it's very personal) and it was very early days then they continued to try straight after when they were told not do then she fell pg she doesn't know my situation as we have only told family and she called me up and said she was pg I said congratulations she was like you could sound happy I was holding back the tears whilst saying it as I wished that was me and all she does is moan smoke and drink !!! Life is just not fair at times I've distanced myself from her now

It will be our time soon I just know it will and we will enjoy every moment xxx

Thirl - welcome to the group Hun every one is very friendly! It's always hard when any one announces that there pg hope your stay is short Hun x

Ttc - march will soon be here but you will have your BFP before then

Taro - how you doing Hun?

Afm - back at clinic for bloods on Tuesday x

Hope every one else is ok

 

[Tarotempres]

Thurl - Welcome to the group

Lucy - I am ok taking one day at a time right now. Go back to the doctor on the 14th of January for more blood work and start a plan for my IUI.

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

 

[ESwemba84]

Thurl,

I can completely relate. My brother in law and his wife announced on Christmas Eve that they were 3 months pregnant, which is how far along I was when I lost the pregnancy. They just got married in July, and now they are going to be having the first grandchild, when that was supposed to be me. I remember I was fixing a cup of coffee, and as they announced it, I didn't even look up or say congrats. It's not fair. This happened a few days after I got a baby shower invite from my good friend, which I already decided I'm not going to, so needless to say I had to excuse myself and went into the guest room and cried my eyes out. Everyone keeps saying "it'll happen for you one day" but it is so hard not to scream back at them that I'm not sure it will. This process is so difficult and no one truly understands how frustrating being let down month after month after month not being able to get pregnant really is while wanting it soooooo bad, unless they have experienced it themselves. It seems so far out of reach, while others seem to get their babies so easily.

Ok, done ranting.

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Oh everyone's having such a rough time

I'm waiting for my brother-in-law and his wife to make an announcement.. I've avoided seeing her and I know they've been TTC for 5 months now so the countdown begins... like you, ESwemba84, I want to be the one to have the first grandchild... I really hope I have a chance still For all I know she could announce her pg any second