Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[pinkfee]

Lucy sorry they couldn't give you a better idea of what is going on. I think whatever gives you peace of mind is a good thing, so if seeking a second opinion will do that then that is definitely what you should do. Ltttc and then assisted conception is such a difficult road, and so many difficult decisions need to be made... you can only do what feels right.

Have a look in the assisted conception area of bnb i'm sure the short protocol has as much success as the long protocol for IVF, as it really is all dependent on your body and how you react to things.

good luck x

 

[fisher640]

Lucy,
I think we all need breaks from time to time. Wannabe is right, you should send Urchin a message asking about her donor egg experience. I think getting a second opinion is always reasonable though you know everyone in this thread is always here for you tho!

I'm doing well, I still check in on you guys daily. I'm 32w4d today which is crazy and frightening and awesome all rolled into one. The bad news I have for you all which i didnt expect is all your infertility emotions don't just vanish and I still struggle with those quite a bit in different settings. And sometimes I think infertility makes dealing with routine pregnancy issues harder cause there's added guilt anytime you catch yourself whining about something. Lol. Like vomiting or hip pain, I find myself getting teary and feeling guilty for saying I'm uncomfortable and like I have to reassure my bump that I'm super grateful everyday. And it took a very very long time to accept this might actually end with a real live baby. And people still say dumb things all the time. "How many kids do you want? When will you have a second one? Did you want a boy or a girl". I've responded in various ways. To the gender question I've said "at a certain point you've waited so long it ceases to matter" and "this could be the only one" and "some people don't get to choose those things"

I love this and keep it bookmarked, you'll all probably like it too, it's very well said:
https://www.theburghbaby.com/burghbaby/far-too-many-people-have-been-hurt-by-good-intentions.html

Best wishes to all of you though, infertility is an awful awful thing. I wish babies were distributed equally and fairly in this world and it never existed. I'm still checking in on you all and rooting for you all

 

[Dazed]

Lucy - I'm sorry your appt was crap I hope they figure something out for you.

FF - I have already had those questions and I'm not even preggo. I have responded like you in the fact that at this point I don't care and that if we get their, it could be we only have one child. I have a feeling though that I probably won't really be asked those questions again, but people tend to be naive with our struggles so I will have to cross that bridge if/when I get there.

 

[ickle pand]

They are great answers to those questions Fisher. I'm going to store them away for when I get asked them. After we got married we had a few people asking if we would be having babies soon. I just said hopefully but you don't get to decide when these things happen. Nowadays if someone brought it up, I think I'd just tell them our situation.

Nothing major happening with me TTC wise. Waiting to ov, if I will this cycle. I'm having an arthritis flare up at the moment which is crappy timing because we need to get BDing. I don't know if the flare up has delayed ov or not. I'm lucky enough not to get regular flare ups so I don't know how they affect my cycle.

 

[Feisty Fidget]

If I'm feeling like a cow, I will purposely make people feel uncomfortable when they ask nosy questions

Urchin is an invaluable font of knowledge when it comes to egg donation - her daughter is adorable!

 

[Pnutsprincess]

Hello ladies,
How are you all doing?

 

[fisher640]

If I'm feeling like a cow, I will purposely make people feel uncomfortable when they ask nosy questions

Urchin is an invaluable font of knowledge when it comes to egg donation - her daughter is adorable!

Good! They should feel uncomfortable. I wish I was braver at making people feel uncomfortable! Mind your own uterus people.

 

[OperationBbyO]

Good! They should feel uncomfortable. I wish I was braver at making people feel uncomfortable! Mind your own uterus people.

Lol This is how I am. I refuse to complain. It took me weeks to ring my MW to ask for drugs to make me not completely miserable. I felt I should be thankful that I was pregnant at all. When people ask me about babies I"m blunt. I tell them we have been to specialist and had treatments and that not everyone has the luxury to just have children when they want. I don't expect my answer will change once I really start to show. I know I won't ever take any kids I have for granted since it was so much work just to get pregnant.

 

[Pnutsprincess]

So my family is not really understanding why I would do IUI instead of IVF. They don't understand because my chance is higher with IVF. Part of the reason besides the cost is my doctor told us we should try IUI first. I just feel horrible because we can't do it the natural way like our friends because my husband's morph. Which happened because of his tour in Afghanistan. He has his son Daniel from a previous marriage, we don't think Tyler is his.

 

[OperationBbyO]

Omg! We have the same thoughts. DH has a son from a previous marriage who looks nothing like him. The Mom "accidentally" got pregnant after DH found out she was having an affair. Yeah right. It took us 15 cycles, femara, mucinex, Preseed, abstaining, and perfect timing after months and months of charting. No way she just randomly got preggo with DH's 1% morphology.

 

[fisher640]

So my family is not really understanding why I would do IUI instead of IVF. They don't understand because my chance is higher with IVF. Part of the reason besides the cost is my doctor told us we should try IUI first. I just feel horrible because we can't do it the natural way like our friends because my husband's morph. Which happened because of his tour in Afghanistan. He has his son Daniel from a previous marriage, we don't think Tyler is his.

Didn't you say you get some insurance coverage for IUI too?
I mean, everyone kind of needs to go about it all their own way, your signature says your 24 and there aren't problems with you right? I think trying IUI first is reasonable then. Will your doctor medicate you for IUI? Like with clomid or something? I'm super glad we tried IUI for as long as we did even though its an emotional roller coaster and still with 5 cycles cost a couple thousand, it was still cheaper than IVF. Who knows, you could get lucky! Plus didn't you say his counts were super high even though morph is low? Maybe the good ones just need a little boost?

 

[Pnutsprincess]

So my family is not really understanding why I would do IUI instead of IVF. They don't understand because my chance is higher with IVF. Part of the reason besides the cost is my doctor told us we should try IUI first. I just feel horrible because we can't do it the natural way like our friends because my husband's morph. Which happened because of his tour in Afghanistan. He has his son Daniel from a previous marriage, we don't think Tyler is his.

Didn't you say you get some insurance coverage for IUI too?
I mean, everyone kind of needs to go about it all their own way, your signature says your 24 and there aren't problems with you right? I think trying IUI first is reasonable then. Will your doctor medicate you for IUI? Like with clomid or something? I'm super glad we tried IUI for as long as we did even though its an emotional roller coaster and still with 5 cycles cost a couple thousand, it was still cheaper than IVF. Who knows, you could get lucky! Plus didn't you say his counts were super high even though morph is low? Maybe the good ones just need a little boost?

Yes I am 100% fertile and have no problems. My doctor said with the IUI he will give me a medication that will make my brain think this is the last time I can get pregnant and the brain will tell my body to release eggs. My insurance. IUI is 950$ My insurance covers 550$ I have to pay 400$ and 75 for the meds. IVF is like 1500. Yeah it is cheaper and with me being young, my Dr thinks I have a chance of it working. He said try it at least 3 times. Yes my husbands sperm count is 78% he produces 356,000,000 and his morph is 2%

 

[ttcbaby117]

good luck in the IUI Pnut! It has great success with MFI

 

[fisher640]

That's what I was thinking! With a count that high even with 2% morph it brings your husband to around where mine was with 98% good stuff ;-)

Good luck!!!!!

 

[Tarotempres]

Lucy - I am sorry your appointment didn't go so well but don't give up. My old RE told me the only way I would get pregnant was with donor eggs and was pushing me toward donor eggs. I wasn't ready to give up on my body and saw another RE for a second opinion. He completely changed my protocol for the IUI cycle I am currently doing. For my IVF cycle I was on lupron, 450 of Follistim and 75 of menopur I only made two eggs. For this IUI cycle I made 4 eggs on no lupron, 150 of Follisitm and 75 of menopur so you never know. My new RE says also you can't rely on the AMH. He relies on the old reliable which is your estrogen and progesterone. Any other doctor would have given up on me if they only went by AMH because mine was .6 so it is less than 1 but my estrogen and progesterone are great. We are going to try a few cycles of IUI on the new protocol and then see what happens from there. We may do another IVF before we head to donor eggs but I am not comfortable yet giving up on myself or my eggs. Hang in there. If you need to talk I am here.

I hope everyone else is well.

 

[lucylou7]

Thanks all you really are supportive x

Fisher - not long now for you Hun bet your excited now x I really hate when we get asked the question are you not having children yet? Your leaving it a bit late (scream) !

I have been in touch with urchin and agree her daughter is adorable x

We are going to go for a second opinion we are just waiting for our notes which take 40 days to come but we will have these by 6 march and we are going to arrange to go to care in Manchester rather than st Mary's

Thanks again to you all x

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Pnut, I would say go with what feels right for you!

 

[Pnutsprincess]

Pnut, I would say go with what feels right for you!

That's what we are going to do. My husband is going to sick call tomorrow to get his referral for the fertility specialist. Sick call is what army personal goes to instead of making an appointment when they are not feeling well or hurt or need something. A plus having to pay for some things out of pocket is I can write it off for taxes. It is only right for us to be allowed to after spending so much money our of pocket. It all adds up.

 

[ESwemba84]

I also hate the questions about future kids. And with me being 28 everyone is always like " oh, you're so young, you have plenty of time, it'll happen someday" Like, what does my age have anything to do with MY schedule of wanting to start a family, and having trouble doing so? I've been married for over 5 years, and we are beyond ready. Besides, how do you know my egg count and how much time I have left? It really makes me feel like my concerns are not valid, and I should be as nonchalant as every other woman who gets pregnant easily seems.

Sorry for the rant, I guess I've been holding on to that for a while.

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Hi everyone? How's the weekend going?

Good news for me - my reapeat HSG came back fine - both tubes unblocked, so the doc was right, it must have been a muscle spasm that made my left tube look blocked last time!

The only I did find out is they think I have a retroverted uterus... does anyone know if that affects fertility at all?

Bit sad as I'm reaching the 18 month mark, and it's a year since we 'conceived' our chemical pregnancy, but glad there's nothing wrong so far...

Talking to the doc. on monday about what to do next month, meanwhile waiting to ovulate and praying very hard for a precious miracle bundle!!!