Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[ESwemba84]

Ella, that's great! Congrats!

Feisty, I'm 29. I always wanted to be a young mom, but now if I ever have a baby I'm going to be 30 or older. I've been trying for 5.5 years (not preventing for 3 years, trying for 2.5) and I watch everyone else around me get pregnant, sometimes multiple times, and I just feel my chances of ever becoming a mom dwindling away.

And, the thing I'm most tired of people saying to me is "Oh. You're so young! You have plenty of time! Just relax and it'll happen someday!"

Really? Do you know? Do you really know it'll happen someday? Because I sure don't!

Plus, it doesn't make my infertility hurt any less. If things were functioning correctly down there, maybe I could "relax" a bit and not focus on the fact that I maybe MAYBE have 10 years to make this baby thing happen. For most people, that's ample time, but since unprotected sex hasn't resulted in a live baby in the past 5.5 years, I'm counting every day as precious, and I'm not going to relax, because relaxing might result in me living childless for the rest of my life.

Lol, sorry, I'm bitter about the age thing. Like people know when the best time for me to conceive would be.

 

[cntrygrl]

Ladies I'll be 32 in September and I don't consider myself too old, yet. I definitely hate the "relax and it will happen" comment.

 

[J_Lynn]

I'm 30 in November - I am definitely looking forward to it. I never wanted kids before 30. I wanted to have a chance to live life how I wanted, travel, and crazy and completely irresponsible. At 30 - you should stop that phase in your life because no one thinks it's cute to see an irresponsible, crazy 30 year old. I will still have my moments I'm sure .... but whatever. I'm looking forward to my 30s. Especially since my husband is 37 this year and he is just as cool as the other late-20ers I know so just because we hit the 30s doesn't mean we're boring and too old hahah

 

[Tarotempres]

Ladies - I am 40 and pregnant with my first and praying we can do a second right away. I had always wanted to be a Mom early but life had other plans for me. The relax it will happen are just people trying to be nice and truly not knowing what to say. It sucks when they do say it because it hurts more than it helps. Just keep the positive thoughts going. I know it is hard. My husband and I tried for 6 years and I had tried for years in a previous relationship with no success.

Keeping you ladies in my prayers that your miracle will come soon.

 

[pbl_ge]

Ella, that's great news!

I don't think it's weird any more to be an "older" mom. Depending on where you are late twenties might actually be the average now. In the US it's very regional. I'm 36 soon, and didn't start trying for a baby until I was 34. I didn't "wait"--as Taro said, this is just how life worked out. I get a little offended by some of the news reports about "older mothers."

 

[Tarotempres]

I keep telling myself older and wiser......

 

[wannabeprego]

Congratulations on your BFP's Ella & J_lynn!!!! I wish the both of you girls a H&H 9 months!!!

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[gilmore85]

Well I was doing ok ladies hadn't had down days in a while until last night when a colleague posted her 1st scan on facebook and announced her pregnancy, thats now 3 women i work with that are pregnant and I think its cos it took my by surprise but I just burst into tears

 

[Pnutsprincess]

JLynn wanna be bump buddies?

I gave in and tested (14dpo) - on an internet cheapie and a digital!

Please stick little bean!

It's been nearly 2 years of TTC... hope this is it...

Congrats Ella! Have a h&h 9 months

 

[kcarey77]

Hi ladies,

Just wanted to say hello and update you on my first IVF cycle as being unsuccessful.
We are transferring our last blastocyst end of July and then we will take a break if it doesn't work out. I have never had a BFP.
I have been TTC for 5 years now and I'm almost 36 yrs old. No one told me how difficult trying to start a family would be. Otherwise, I would have been trying a long time ago.
I wish you all great success and a happy Independence day!

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Well I was doing ok ladies hadn't had down days in a while until last night when a colleague posted her 1st scan on facebook and announced her pregnancy, thats now 3 women i work with that are pregnant and I think its cos it took my by surprise but I just burst into tears

Great big Amy - I'm so sorry lovely xxx

 

[cali_kt]

Hi all,
Hoping I can join in. This is my first post with LTTTC. I have been posting previously on the Assisted Conception board for IVF. We are currently on a break.

Quick story. We have been TTC for over a year and a half now. Had a lap done for suspected endo in August 2012. They found fibroids and a closed left tube. Was referred to RE to see if one of the larger fibroids was impeding with pregnancy and a possible expert surgical approach. After saline sono, RE said that fibroid is good to stay put. We then went through bloodwork. I had AMH of 0.01, DH had low morphology and motility. They recommended IVF right away. After they stimmed me aggressively, I had 41 eggs. I went into OHSS and ended up spending time in the hospital and then having fluid drained off. Cycle cancelled, then FET in March with 2 good embies, but BFN. We only have 3 embies left, of lesser quality. We are saving money for the next FET and taking a break.

I came here to find support. Everyone in my life is either pregnant or just had a baby. With every announcement, I am having a hard time. I finally felt like I was in a good place the last couple of weeks and now with 3 preggo announcements I am having a hard time. Hoping to find some buddies here that can understand! I am CD1 today. My cycles have been wonky since IVF/FET. Hoping to give this cycle a good go. I am praying for a miracle. Otherwise FET in November-ish.

Sorry so long! Thanks for letting me join in and looking forward to getting to know you all!

 

[sugarpi24]

I know what you mean...I'm having a hard time being around kids here lately hubby and I went putt putting with a couple friends and their kid and the kid almost fell and the way hubby caught him almost made me cry hes so gentle!! I hope I can give him a child one of these days

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Welcome Cali, I'm sure you will find a lot of support here

 

[ESwemba84]

Welcome Cali! Sorry you've had such a struggle. I completely understand, it seems like everyone around me is announcing pregnancies or having babies. It's tough, and especially because my brother in law and his wife are about to have a baby. I like this group because I can come vent about things on here that only women with no kids would understand.

 

[Kat S]

Oh thank god for this thread! It feels like all the other TTC threads I'm on turn into chat between the ladies who successfully got pregnant who want to continue to share their pregnancy journey on TTC threads, or ladies who already have other children and want to talk about them while TTC another. I'm happy for them...really. But it hurts to hear about their pregnancy journey and stories about all their other kids while I struggle month after month to get my first. I know I sound bitter and I hate that, but there it is. What I'm looking for is support from ladies who are in the same boat as I.

to you all!!

Currently CD 8 doing a combo of Femara and injections. Follie check tomorrow!

 

[ESwemba84]

Hi Kat! Lol, love the other thread too, but I joined that thread a year ago, and its disheartening sometimes. I feel left behind. Everyone that was there originally has either had their baby they were pregnant with at the time, or gotten pregnant. I'm the only one still waiting.....

Glad you found this one.

 

[Myshelsong]

Is anyone else sick and tired of having sex during their fertile week.
Holy hell what I would give to have normal sex without the constant thought of conception!
And the day I stop taking notes of my cervical mucus will be a happy day I tell you. Who in there right mind posts that much attention out side of trying to conceive. Seriously!
So ready for this journey to be over already!

Sorry really annoyed today.

 

[pbl_ge]

Myshel, amen to all that! I remember the blissful days when I didn't know what CM was.

Eswemba, did you miss O? I've done that before. Our first month back after the looooooooooooooooooooooooooong m/c hiatus I O'ed a full week earlier than usual. It was so frustrating!!!

And I'm with all you ladies about children. I avoid them. We have new neighbors with whom we probably have tons in common, except that they have a brand new baby. They're very friendly. I am not. I feel bad about that, but every time I pass them on the sidewalk (me with the dog, them with the stroller) tears threaten.

Hi, Kat! Good luck at your scan!

and to all....

 

[Kat S]

Scan was a success! Three mature follies at 18mm! That's the best result I've ever had! I guess my body likes the Femara and Gonal-F combination. Or maybe it was the DHEA and CoQ10 kicking in? Either way, it worked.

IUI tomorrow morning!! Maybe the 6th time is the charm?