Anyone miscarry first two pregnancies and went on to have a rainbow?

[confuzion]

I am trying to conceive #1. I got pregnant in May but miscarried in July at 7w4d. Midwives assured me it was just a fluke and not to worry. Pregnant again in September. I was informed about a week ago that my baby's heart stopped at 9 weeks. So waiting to miscarry but still no spotting or cramping. I'd be about 11w1day if all had gone well.

Anyway, I'm feeling ok about the miscarriage. Nothing I can do. I've accepted it. I'm grateful to have known beforehand so I can come to terms with it before the pain begins.

But when I think of TTC I am afraid of getting another BFP. I seem to get pregnant easily enough but have a hard time staying that way.

So getting to my point. Any of you ladies had 2 losses in a row but gone on to have a successful pregnancy?

I have no living children and just really need some hope that it will happen one day.

 

[celine]

Heres hoping! I had mc 12 weeks ago and 10 weeks before that. My first scan is in a week and if i see a hb ill be futher than both of those!

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi Confuzion, I too had 2 miscarriages..first oneat 5 weeks and the second one at 9 weeks. Over here in the UK they normally make you wait until you have suffered 3 losses before they routinely offer tests but I luckily got blood tests done, sure enough tests revealed that I have borderline high blood clotting and need medication to have a successful pregnancy...low dose aspirin and clexane.
It sticks in my mind what a consultant told me.. that for a heartbeat to stop at 9 weeks ish is not normal and normally indicates a blood clotting problem, If I were you I would request testing. In my case I would have went on to have a 3rd miscarriage but luckily I got the treatment I needed and had my baby girl and Im now pregnant again and on the exact same treatment.
Your losses may well be a fluke and just bad luck as this can happen but for your own sake and to avoid anymore potential losses I'd go down the testing route as its too heartbreaking each time.
Best of luck to you x

 

[ItsAWonder]

Hi Confuzion - I am sorry for your losses.

I had one in March at about 5 weeks and one in June, MMC found at 8 weeks.

After the second one I took two months off to get back to a healthy physical and emotional state and am glad I made that choice - even though it was difficult.

I got pregnant for a third time my second month ttc and so far all looks good. All of my tests came back normal so I am not taking aspirin or any other meds. I did stop drinking all caffeine this time and I changed prenatal vitamins b/c my other had a small dose of biotin and there is controversy about biotin.

I am 12 weeks today and will have my genetic scan on Friday. Hopefully in June I will be able to say I had my third time lucky rainbow baby but, hopefully you will be pregnant with yours then too.

 

[confuzion]

Thank you justkeeptryin. They actually are testing my blood for a clotting disorder. They drew the blood the day they told me that I was miscarrying. It made me feel better that they are being more proactive this time and if I get an answer I'll feel much better about the next pregnancy I think.

 

[confuzion]

Thank you itsawonder. I'm thinking and hoping this is your rainbow.

 

[Ushindi]

I am trying to conceive #1. I got pregnant in May but miscarried in July at 7w4d. Midwives assured me it was just a fluke and not to worry. Pregnant again in September. I was informed about a week ago that my baby's heart stopped at 9 weeks. So waiting to miscarry but still no spotting or cramping. I'd be about 11w1day if all had gone well.

Anyway, I'm feeling ok about the miscarriage. Nothing I can do. I've accepted it. I'm grateful to have known beforehand so I can come to terms with it before the pain begins.

But when I think of TTC I am afraid of getting another BFP. I seem to get pregnant easily enough but have a hard time staying that way.

So getting to my point. Any of you ladies had 2 losses in a row but gone on to have a successful pregnancy?

I have no living children and just really need some hope that it will happen one day.

Dear Confuzion
I am sorry about the loss. I am not exactly a story of hope, but I hope all that will change with this pregnancy. I have however heard of so many stories of hope. That is why we should not give up. I also have no living children, , four miscarriages and my last was in Feb 2013. Am now expecting and with a 12 week 3 day scan tomorrow. Like you, I have had no problem with TTC. This is the farthest I have come and apart from lots of prayers which keep me strong, I am on aspirin to thin my blood and cyclogest to boost my progesterone

I have a friend who could not even count to me how many miscarriages she has had but is now a proud parent to 4 children. She encouraged me not to give up. and wishing you peace and courage to as you seek your rainbow.

 

[confuzion]

Thank you ushindi. I'm sure this one will be yours to keep

 

[shirlls]

I am so sorry for both your losses . It hard enough to even have one mc but then to go on and have another is horrible. You have the worry on top of the grieving.

I had 2 mcs at 6 weeks before having my little boy who is now 15 months so there is hope. Even though this sounds crazy as nobody should have to go through any losses, apparently it is very common to have 1 or 2 miscarriages before going on to have a successful pregnancy and it's for this reason that in the UK they don't offer tests until you have 3 consecutive miscarriages.

Good luck!

x

 

[confuzion]

Shirlls - thank you. You ladies have me feel much better. I still haven't begun the miscarriage process and I think all the waiting is driving me mad.

 

[shirlls]

Shirlls - thank you. You ladies have me feel much better. I still haven't begun the miscarriage process and I think all the waiting is driving me mad.

it must be awful. I hope it starts soon and you are on the mend soon (though I know the emotional scars take much longer to heal).

Take care, and I hope you get your rainbow baby soon xx

 

[Aleeah]

Hi Confuzion,

Aleeah here, I didn't know how to start this message, as it broke my heart to see you'd suffered another loss. I can't explain the happiness I felt when I saw you were pregnant again and how we were due almost the same date, and now all I want to do is give you a hug. I've been stalking the June Rainbow thread for a while now, too scared to join in case it's yet another jinx to me but so far all looks ok.

As you know, I had 2 losses some years back, when we weren't really trying very much. Life then took over and we got married, we started trying properly and I fell pregnant the first month of trying in March this year. I unfortunately had a natural miscarriage at 8 weeks, with no obvious reason for it. I then went on and fell pregnant again, without AF inbetween with identical twins. Unfortunately my 8 week ultrasound showed both without heartbeats. I opted to wait but at 10 weeks couldn't wait any longer and had a D&C end of August.

I had all the tests for clotting etc done and the twins were shown to be boys and had no chromsome abnormalities, they just stopped growing at 7 weeks, no idea why, exactly the same as the last miscarriage. I went for my recurrent miscarriage appointment with a specialist and the only other possible solution was something wasn't right in my uterus, so they did an ultrasound and there was the beginning of a new pregnancy, again no AF inbetween. We weren't trying but actively preventing, still no real clear idea how it came about. I cried a lot when I was told there was a new pregnancy, I was upset and didn't want to be pregnant. I wanted this baby to be in someone healthy, in someone that could give it life, not me. But here I am, having had weekly scans from then on I've seen this baby grow and get further than any other. I've got my NT scan this week but I've renewed hope that sometimes, just sometimes things happen that no-one can explain.

Don't give up hope, let them do the tests and if there's something not quite right, they can help you. And if there's nothing wrong don't be alarmed, things can still go your way. My doctor is still baffled, as she's never seen babies just go silently like mine did and I can't explain it either but I'm here and this baby so far is living proof sometimes the power above intervenes and makes it all possible.

We'll have our 2014 babies, they may be in our arms, or kicking away in our stomach's but either way we'll have them. Sending you so much love and hugs xxx

P.S: Please let me know if you've any questions or reservations or anything you need xxxxx

 

[MrsGax]

Hello! I had 2 MMC's where baby stopped growing at 6 weeks but I carried to 9 weeks and 7 weeks some days. I am pregnant again and everything is going great I am very nervous about everything though. I had the blood work done and there is no reason for my other losses. They said it was most likely a bad egg or sperm and baby would not be healthy, etc. It was still hard though! For this pregnancy, I put myself on baby aspirin from week 5 to week 13 without telling my dr. I have no idea if the baby aspirin helped or not, but I think it was a coincidence and this baby is just healthy. I never thought that this would happen for me, so there is hope! This baby was not planned either, so I did not do anything differently. I actually drank and ate sushi at 4-6 weeks pregnant cause I was in denial about baby being healthy. Not a lot, just a glass, etc. Good luck though! There is hope after all the sadness. Hugs.

 

[confuzion]

Thank you ladies for your words of hope and encouragement.

Yesterday was a very difficult day. I finally miscarried naturally and it was pretty horrific. I won't bother you with the details as they are graphic and a little disturbing. But I still wouldn't have done it any other way.

Your stories encourage me to try again. And I will after taking a cycle or two off for the sake of my mental health. I hope I get some answers before we begin trying as I am very afraid of suffering another loss.

 

[shirlls]

Thank you ladies for your words of hope and encouragement.

Yesterday was a very difficult day. I finally miscarried naturally and it was pretty horrific. I won't bother you with the details as they are graphic and a little disturbing. But I still wouldn't have done it any other way.

Your stories encourage me to try again. And I will after taking a cycle or two off for the sake of my mental health. I hope I get some answers before we begin trying as I am very afraid of suffering another loss.

Massive , Sorry for your loss, it must have been awful. You are in my thoughts and I really hope you get your rainbow baby. It is more than possible so never give up hope xxx

 

[chathamlady]

I wanted to offer some hope as well I had a miscarriage Nov 2012 @6 weeks and another one feb 2013 dr agreed to send for testing and oops found out May 2013 i was 6 weeks 6 days pregnant(never had the testing) I am now 7 weeks from having my baby girl so it can happen. Im sorry for your loses and Im sure will get your rainbow

 

[confuzion]

Thank you chathamlady. I actually just got results for the only test they gave me--the blood clotting test. It was negative for a blood clotting disorder. It should have been happy news but I was pretty upset about it because now I don't know anything. But your story also gives me hope Thank you.

 

[kanga]

Yes me . My rainbow is 25 now and I'm pregnant with number 2, after another mc earlier this year. You will get your turn. I'm a firm believer in that we all get our turn, it's just the journey that is different. Two mc in a row before you have any children is very hard to deal with but don't give up hope x

 

[celine]

I saw a 9 weeks baby on a scan today after a mc & mmc that never got as far so fingers crossed there is hope! And mine were consecutive, my lmp was april!

 

[confuzion]

Thank you kanga! The responses I've gotten from you ladies has done my emotional well-being so much good. I'm looking forward to the future.

Congrats on the good scan Celine. Hope it's all smooth sailing for you from here.