April Mummies 2011

[gertrude]

anyone else experiencing touch of baby blues? not like me at all and finding it rather hard, dh bless him doesnt know how to handle my crying :S

yep - everything is hard I've now cried at everyone

 

[caro103]

thanks ladies, its quite scary what hormones can do to you. was told today to just let it out but I feel silly so try and swallow tears back and smile on through :S.

Missfox, hehe its amazing what they can do as newborns! Alex is so squirmy we can't leave him anyway without sides other than the floor!

 

[CottlestonPie]

I guess it's hormones but I seem to be getting upset about me & OH...
What if I can't lose the mummy tummy? What if the stretch marks don't go? What if he sees me more of a mummy and not a lover? What if the sex isn't what it used to be? Im so scared that im not good enough for him anymore and it's even getting into my dreams (when I manage to sleep)... I'm terrified that he can do better. I know he loves me, I trust him completely and hes never done anything to make me think this way but in my head I'm not sexy or what he wants anymore.

 

[caro103]

I guess it's hormones but I seem to be getting upset about me & OH...
What if I can't lose the mummy tummy? What if the stretch marks don't go? What if he sees me more of a mummy and not a lover? What if the sex isn't what it used to be? Im so scared that im not good enough for him anymore and it's even getting into my dreams (when I manage to sleep)... I'm terrified that he can do better. I know he loves me and hes never sone anything to make me think this way but in my head I'm not sexy or what he wants anymore.

totally feel the same hun, not really helped as my DH hasn't said anything reassuring that I'm looking ok or anything , got really cross with him this morning too over something silly :S, fx'ed we all settle down soon!

 

[MissFox]

I guess it's hormones but I seem to be getting upset about me & OH...
What if I can't lose the mummy tummy? What if the stretch marks don't go? What if he sees me more of a mummy and not a lover? What if the sex isn't what it used to be? Im so scared that im not good enough for him anymore and it's even getting into my dreams (when I manage to sleep)... I'm terrified that he can do better. I know he loves me and hes never sone anything to make me think this way but in my head I'm not sexy or what he wants anymore.

totally feel the same hun, not really helped as my DH hasn't said anything reassuring that I'm looking ok or anything , got really cross with him this morning too over something silly :S, fx'ed we all settle down soon!

Same here. After my first shower at home I cried and cried!!! How will he find me attractive anymore and how will I feel sexy anymore. It doesnt help when I tell him this he says that I dont need to be sexy and I dont need to care what people think. And with my incision bleeding and bleeding I just feel bad about myself and feel bad for feeling bad.

 

[SazzleR]

My baby blues started last night. Have had quite a few cries since. My mum told me to just let it out! I feel overwhelmed & like I can't do it. DH is trying to reassure me but he's not too good with the crying!

My last 2 feeds were much better. Phew! Expressing some off to reduce the engorgement seems to work.

Gertrude - maybe I'll have to try snoozing with him on me. I need some sleep! Think I worked out I've had less than 10 hours since he was born. x

 

[DanaBump]

i'm sorry all of you are having mommy blues. that was the exact reason i got myself on something to help at 36 weeks. being as i'm at high risk for depression anyway, i didn't want to miss a single minute with her and think considering what the depression could do, the pills are totally worth it. maybe worth a chat to your dr's about?

my head is pounding! stupid epi/spinal headaches..

 

[Emmy'sMommy]

Im right there with ya ladies. I cry on a daily basis about the way i look just waiting for DH to make a sweet compliment and i get nothing..lol So to others with the baby blues and i agree its best to get it all out and not try and keep it bottled up inside!

Dana- The headaches are horrible! I'm taking my pain medication for the headaches and not for the pain of the surgery..lol I was also told that low iron levels can cause headaches as well and after my c-section i was put on iron tablets so i don't know if that could be part of it too

 

[bernina]

to all those struggling with hormones and baby blues. It hit me hard the first week. Kept crying for no reason even though I was so happy to have my little girl. Also found it really hard when DH returned to work and I had to do everything myself. Quite overwhelming.

It has slowly gotten better but there are days where it's really tough and I count the minutes until DH gets home.

I'm also breastfeeding and at times feel like I've bitten off more than I can chew. I love BF'ing her the bonding is priceless and she really is an easy eater but I stress about her getting enough and gaining enough. And it's awkward to always have to excuse myself to feed her when people are over or we're out visiting.

DH has gotten her to take a bottle but it's still a bit of a struggle as she fusses quite a bit sometimes. Hoping it gets easier with more practice. The plan is to get more in her tummy at night so she sleeps longer. But since I have to pump whenever she takes a bottle it hasn't really resulted in more sleep for me.

I'm pretty sure she has blocked tear ducts. Whenever she cries her eyes get gunked up with yellow crusties. I read up and that's the most likely cause. Hoping it clears up with gentle massaging of the ducts but may have to get antibiotics at ped appt on tuesday.

She also grunts and strains terribly whenever trying to poop or let out gas. She's not constipated but she looks so uncomfy and miserable when she does it. I read it can be normal for newborns but still I hate to see her struggling so much.

Gem how is Ollie doing with his feedings?

Happy Easter

 

[gertrude]

Bernina I think you're me

 

[loopy82]

Emotional wreck over here too, oh well, at least we're all in the same boat!

Am waiting for the midwife to turn up to weigh Tilly, really don't think that she's put anything on though.

 

[gertrude]

positive thinking loopy even if she hasn't you have lots of options x

 

[bernina]

Hope the appt goes well loopy. I'm worried about our weigh in tuesday.

Last night around 4 am I was first pooped on then thrown up on. Went through 2 outfits for momma and baby in less than 10 minutes! Ahh the joys of motherhood

 

[CottlestonPie]

Lol bernina! Motherhood is so glamorous eh?

 

[lilgemsy]

I dont have time to catch up properly atm... last time I was on here was around page 6!
You ladies sure can post alot lol.

I need to go get my stuff together to spend the night with Ollie in the parent and baby room in special care!
This means he will be coming home sometime this week!
Sooo happy right now lol.

 

[gertrude]

Fantastic news gem!

In news here I've had a tough feeding day, she's been on the boon fir ages without looking even remotely satisfied even with the bottle if formula

Im not sure I can cope with this

 

[JakesMummy]

Bernina is ur lo around 2 week old?! There's a major growth spurt then I remember with Jake. He was on the boob literally for 3 days solid. It felt like we weren't t getting anywhere but it was soon over!
We are breastfeeding again. Amelia is 3 days old and it is going ok. She tends to average 2-3 hours between feeds but more at night. She clusters at night which makes me insane but know it won't last! Still get the odd latch pain but usually takes a few tries before we get it right. Still ouch!! Lansinoh has been my friend from day one!
Getting her weighed on Wednesday which even though I know she's getting milk. As it drips out if her mouth etc. I still hope she will at least be at birth weight if not, above!

 

[CottlestonPie]

gem thats wonderful news!

I'm feeling terrible today. I was brave enough to have a feel around "downstairs" for the first time properly since Toby was born. My stitches no longer hurt but I've been having a weird achy pain down there so I thought I'd have a poke around. It feels like one of the glands at my vajayjay opening is inflamed. I'm hoping this will heal itself because its what's been making me sore after walking and things.
If it doesn't work itself out soon I'll be seeing a doctor because it's in the way and will probably make sex painful... and I like sex and want to get back to painlessly jumping my OH as soon as possible!

Speaking of my OH... I keep trying to tell him about my insecurities and my issues that I have right now with how I look/feel but every time I try, I cry and change the subject.

I was a big girly to start with, and since giving birth I have a mummy apron... that flabby fat that hangs down from my tummy. It's hideous and when I told him I'm scared of not being able to get rid of it, he just kept saying "well exercise then, it'll be fine".... but really what I wanted to hear was "I still fancy you/love you just the way you are"...... y'know, something more affectionate than "yeah you'll get rid of it eventually"

 

[MissFox]

I've been thining that it's a growth spurt is why Rosie is on my boob nonstop since day before yesterday. I know she's not starving right now so she's in her swing even though she's sucking on her binki. She was sucking on her arm but she also detached herself and I gave her to papa for burping. She fed most of the night and then we've taken 2 naps today. I love the baby swing lol.

So far I don't think my mommy blues are too bad- I love my little girl and love spending time with her my issue is just feeling so bad not being able to do everything for her right now. My incision is infected but finally doing a little better than the last couple days. DH is starting work tomorrow but my mom will be here for Rosie and I if I need any help.

Gem- YAY FOR OLLIE COMING HOOOMEEE!!!

Cottles- i knowwhat you mean!!!! Stupid mommy apron! Also one boob is HUGE compared to the other but I don't even favor one side anymore! I'm anal about getting both sides evenly. (ok- they're both huge but for it to be this different bugs me!) I just think I'll never be able to look more like myself again. I told DH I wanted to be sexy again and he said it doesn't matter- he still loves me but I WANT ENCOURAGEMENT! lol.

Happy Easter girls. Dinner is almost done and apple pie for dessert yumm. I haven't had much of an appetite since having Rosie.

Dana- hope those headaches go away! I haven't had any (phew! I seriously thought it was gonna have it bad with all the drugs I was given!) but had a spinal tap in my late teens so feel bad that you're having to deal with them

 

[CrazyBird]

Can I join the emotional wreck club please?

George was born on 19th April 2011 weighing 8lb 3.5oz at 3.21am.

I'm so glad there is somewhere to come and chat about our babies etc. I've only had my boy 6 days and I'm very tearful. Its horrible as I can easily burst in tears, I'm quite an emotional person anyway but this is horrible. Luckily my OH just cuddles me when I get upset. I love my little man so much so it must be a mixture of hormones and sleep deprivation. I couldn't ask for a better daddy for my baby as OH loves him so much and does so much for him already. The only thing he can't do is feed him but I have ordered a pump so he will soon be able to feed to which will be so much better.

Sorry for baffling. Well its 1.21am and I've fed George but he is just niggly is his basket so have brought him downstairs and we are watching mary poppins lol. Well he's in his swing hopefully falling asleep.