Everyone is encouraged to provide their own opinions on this topic, but please dont let it turn into a fight. I've noticed a lot of heartbreak on here (myself included) that has been caused by social networking and the internet is general. Facebook, Twitter, MySpace...you name it, these sites are a breeding ground for emotional affairs to spring up. It's easier to cheat on your loved ones when you new "whore" is just a click away. Before these sites, I think having an emotional or physical affair was more difficult to a certain extent. Your significant other would notice if your schedule was off, leaving the home for extended periods of time, and etc. It seems like most of these sites have just enabled these "losers" even more in the quest to find their next fling. I believe cellphones, social networking and things of that nature have only fueled the already skyrocketing divorce rate and number of kids who come from broken homes. Now, I'm not saying everyone who uses these sites is just looking for their "next piece of ass", I'm simply stating that its making it easier to do the wrong thing. After all dont each of us know at least one person who has been hurt by these so called advances in communication technology?
I wouldn't blame the internet or social networking sites for the problem of cheating itself, however I totally agree that it's basically adding fuel to the flame. The internet won't make someone cheat who would never have cheated, but it can be used as a tool by those who may have been wanting to but were perhaps timid or not sure of where to start. I'd compare it to someone who really really loves chocolate cake and is trying to stop eating it. They haven't had chocolate cake in a month and are doing great. Well, say another person placed a big piece of chocolate cake in front of the dieter, waved it around, and then left the two alone together. There's a good chance that when they reenter the room they'll find the cake is gone. Would the dieter have gone out and bought themself that cake had it not been handed to them? Perhaps, or perhaps without that little event they'd have never been pushed over the edge.
Sounds kinda silly, but the internet is the same thing to someone entertaining thoughts of cheating. It really puts everything--good or bad--right at your fingertips. It takes any effort that might have once been necessary out of the equation. There are probably more passive, lazy, timid men (and women!) with poor self esteem cheating these days. These dating and cheating sites are only a click away from any semi computer literate person who's been thinking about cheating. It only takes a few moments... they can look, check it out, take plenty of time to build up the courage to chat to someone. Heck, I bet the sleaziest of men chat with their online skanks while their wife is sitting in the same room. It's that easy, and it wasn't always that way. I totally get your point. But would it turn someone who is totally committed to their partner into a cheater? Definitely not (I don't care if Brad Pitt himself started flirting with me over the internet, I wouldn't be having any of that). The source of this problem lies within what appear to me to be degrading family and relationship values in large segments of our society.
I've also noticed that after his ex's try adding him, he'll go onto their page to check out their public profile and pics. Harmless? Yes but for some other men it might make it more tempting or easier especially with someone they were once sexually attracted to.. well that's my opinion anyway.
