Are social networking sites ruining our relationships & society as a whole?

[Ilikecake]

I think it makes it a hell of a lot more possible and easier to cheat be it physically or emotionally. It can also be kept hidden with passwords, deleting Internet history etc. I've caught my OH looking at pictures of our friends...naked...that THEY have posted up. Without the Internet/mobiles he wouldn't of been able to do that so easy with me next to him.

I love the Internet, I love FB but I cannot stand when it's taken to the extreme. Sometimes it becomes an addiction. My OH rarely speaks to anyone IRL yet he has 500 people on his FB and as SOON as he gets home he has to go on FB and see what's been happening. I find it really odd.

Tbh a person is going to cheat regardless of technology but it does make it so much simpler

 

[going_crazy]

Yes, I feel that it can ruin relationships, and probably has the potential to have a huge effect on society......

My personal experience is this:

My 2 "best" friends (known for 10yrs and 28yrs) kept on and on (over facebook) about "going out drinking", "looking for guys", "falling over drunk" (you get the picture!). I had a LOT going on in my personal life at that time (VERY sick LO being one thing) so decided to delete them both from my profile so that I didn't have to read the same stuff over and over again.........

To cut a long story short, one friend asked me what was up and we had a chat and sorted things out, and my other friend (who I might add is <or was> my childrens Godmother and was my bridesmaid) has not spoken to me since. I have tried and tried to call/text her and even gone to her house several times but she refuses point blank to have anything to do with me!!! I have found out that the reason for this is because I deleted her off of Facebook (her own words to my other friend!)


Seriously....... none of this would've happened if there was no Facebook!

JMO

 

[Quackquack99]

To be honest I think cheating has been more accessible since phones have become mobile. To be honest I can not blame technology for one mans infidelity as people should be strong enough to say no. If someone is going to cheat, they will do it regardless of technology.

 

[Laura2919]

I do think it definitely plays its part. Its easier to get sucked in on Facebook, Twitter, Myspace and whatever other Social Networking sites there are. The same with apps you can get on your mobiles these days..

Its so easy to hide your true life away from others.

I can only speak from my own experience but FOB was caught numerous times 'talking' to other women, he never went further than that but he needed to feel like it wasnt just me that wanted him. It would almost always start out because someone had liked or commented on his status. its easy for you to think something could be there when you are talking to a computer screen. Its the same as anywhere like forums, social networking and dating sites.

I think its easy to blame the internet but I do believe it plays a huge part.

You can poke someone on FB and people can read too much into it. I am in a poking war right now and I know the bloke who is doing it likes me but the feeling is not mutual. He started to get my attention and when he got it he thought something else was in it but it wasnt for me. Its shocking how things can be misunderstood.

I'm on FB, I enjoy talking to people on there but I still have the same feelings towards relationships. Its between two people and I in the whole 6 years was faithful to FOB..

I agree that people should be able to say no but you only have to type pingchat (just changed to touch) into a Blackberry (friend has one) and it comes up with chat to hot babes. I have an IPhone and you can download app after app to chat to women/men single or not.. Its so easy these days.. I definitely agree people need the strength to say no

 

[summer rain]

I can only speak for my personal experience, but one of my sisters never calls us anymore after she has become so engrossed in facebook. Also I had a really good friend who just got totally obsessed with FB and became a right cow, she just totally changed and would be willing to travel to Birmingham etc to meet friends she had just met on facebook but her RL friends she wouldn't give them the time of day. Some of us confronted her and she absolutely lost it; saying we were going to regret it and how dare we speak to her like that and blah de blah. She then apologised and arranged to come over; and then didn't show up, I just never bothered with her again after that. I deleted my main facebook account as I was being stalked by some weirdo that I do know IRL but she doesn't know me that well-she even made fake accounts and tried to incite EDL members to send me hate mail and attack me on groups on there there is no way she would be able to do this if it wasn't for facebook. So now I just keep a fake name account to use when websites etc have no other way of doing something aside from their facebook page or logging in using a FB account xx

 

[Lightworker]

Yes, I feel that it can ruin relationships, and probably has the potential to have a huge effect on society......

My personal experience is this:

My 2 "best" friends (known for 10yrs and 28yrs) kept on and on (over facebook) about "going out drinking", "looking for guys", "falling over drunk" (you get the picture!). I had a LOT going on in my personal life at that time (VERY sick LO being one thing) so decided to delete them both from my profile so that I didn't have to read the same stuff over and over again.........

To cut a long story short, one friend asked me what was up and we had a chat and sorted things out, and my other friend (who I might add is <or was> my childrens Godmother and was my bridesmaid) has not spoken to me since. I have tried and tried to call/text her and even gone to her house several times but she refuses point blank to have anything to do with me!!! I have found out that the reason for this is because I deleted her off of Facebook (her own words to my other friend!)


Seriously....... none of this would've happened if there was no Facebook!

JMO

Hmm..I don't agree with the essence of this in that..FB didn't force you to delete them..you deleting them on FB was symbolic of you not being interested in their issues at the time, you could simply have ignored their posts.

I hope not to sound like I am picking on you its just that I am suprised that you are surprised that your second friend reacted like that (more so as she is a godmother etc) but also that you blame FB?

 

[Lightworker]

In my experience, and in my opinion..FB has not ruined or bettered society as such, it has merely revealed it.

I find it way easier to keep in touch with people because it is free, and I can chat to people all in one place. Family who live in remote areas with whom I would be forced to use snail mail, I can now chat to relatively easily on FB. Personally, I gotta say, I have gotten closer to lots of people at a much faster rate than I would had it not been there.

Perhaps what it does is that it facilitiates things, at a faster easier rate and these can be both good (socializing, networking etc) and also the bad (porn, infidelity etc). Thats not to say it CAUSES these things..its merely helps to accelerate (for want of a better word).

If you really wanna see society as it is..go to FB.

 

[going_crazy]

Yes, I feel that it can ruin relationships, and probably has the potential to have a huge effect on society......

My personal experience is this:

My 2 "best" friends (known for 10yrs and 28yrs) kept on and on (over facebook) about "going out drinking", "looking for guys", "falling over drunk" (you get the picture!). I had a LOT going on in my personal life at that time (VERY sick LO being one thing) so decided to delete them both from my profile so that I didn't have to read the same stuff over and over again.........

To cut a long story short, one friend asked me what was up and we had a chat and sorted things out, and my other friend (who I might add is <or was> my childrens Godmother and was my bridesmaid) has not spoken to me since. I have tried and tried to call/text her and even gone to her house several times but she refuses point blank to have anything to do with me!!! I have found out that the reason for this is because I deleted her off of Facebook (her own words to my other friend!)


Seriously....... none of this would've happened if there was no Facebook!

JMO

Hmm..I don't agree with the essence of this in that..FB didn't force you to delete them..you deleting them on FB was symbolic of you not being interested in their issues at the time, you could simply have ignored their posts.

I hope not to sound like I am picking on you its just that I am suprised that you are surprised that your second friend reacted like that (more so as she is a godmother etc) but also that you blame FB?

I don't "blame" fb, never said I did. I did say it wouldn't have happened without fb, which it wouldn't have.

Yes, I deleted them on purpose, and I did so for a reason...... If there was no such thing as fb, my friends would not keep phoning me or texting me telling me that they were doing all the stuff (and yes, I was slightly jealous, but there is a lot more to this story) and on the same lines, I would not know that they were going out/drinking etc etc IYKWIM?

I also think that yes, fb can be great for keeping in touch - especially with those who don't live locally, (and I use it for support groups for my LO) BUT how do you know what you are reading is true?? I, for example, could put as my status "Off to America tomorrow for a 3 week holiday" - who's to know I'm telling the truth? Whereas in real life it would be harder to keep to the lies (although I know of a couple of people who are very good at this!)

xx

 

[Yammas]

I think that there were cheaters before the internet but sites where you can meet people for the specific purpose of having sex with them have made it a lot easier, before now you had to meet someone, get to know them a bit and even then they could still turn you down, with these sites all you do is click someones profile, they accept you then its all set in the matter of seconds.

As for putting your life on fb i know a girl (thankfully she's learned her lesson now) who used to post absolutely EVERYTHING on fb then have the cheek to moan when people asked her about it !!!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I use FB alot and talk to both men/women. I would never want to know my OHs password, its probably boring anyway lol. I dont have a problem with it.

 

[deafgal]

nah, My dad used to go to bars. He can pick up women there too. (btw, he did had an affair, I don't know how many times but I remember one time and mom nearly divorced him. But they didn't)