are you serious?!!!

[hopefull85]

dont get me wrong part of me is happy for her, just wanted to say that first. my
frustration is that just a few months ago she had one ovary and one fallopian tube taken out. this is my supposed to be best friend, thing is she never calls or texts me. so earlier i get a text from her and before i read it i knew what it was going to be about. SHE IS PREGNANT. it just hurts me because its like wow are you kidding me. i just dont understand. i am doing everything i can, money wise, being that i am going to the doctor. i am just frustrated

 

[Armywife84]

Wow one tube and ovary and she still conceives?! That's incredible.

I would be angry if she knew about your struggle. If she didn't.... then to be fair, you shouldn't be that mad at her.

It sounds as if she's bragging about her achievement. While she does have bragging rights, she doesn't need to rub it in your face.

 

[hopefull85]

we have been friends for 11 years and she knows all about my struggle so yeah

 

[LGRJWR]

I would just like to say since we are all in this LTTC journey together sometimes we can say things that don't mean to hurt but do with that being said it is more common than people think women who have one ovary and tube and still conceive. It actually gives me hope because I was only born with one tube and ovary.

 

[hopefull85]

I would just like to say since we are all in this LTTC journey together sometimes we can say things that don't mean to hurt but do with that being said it is more common than people think women who have one ovary and tube and still conceive. It actually gives me hope because I was only born with one tube and ovary.

well she has a 3 year old and wasnt trying for him so i mean she really doesnt know or have any concern of my feelings. she is one person i can honestly say does not know what it feels like to try for anything and it not happen

 

[Moorebetter]

Hope = have only positive expectations

 

[tamithomas]

You have every right to be pissed off and jealous. My SIL did the same to me, knew we were trying and even while living under MY MOM's roof with my step father she deliberately without telling my Step Brother went off of the pill, within 2 months poof I get an e-mail from my mom announcing she was pregnant. My mom naturally was royally pissed off and kicked her out of the appartment thankfully and naturally due to a) it's not her grand child so why should she be bothered b)She's done her dues as a mother so she doesn't need to be woken up at 3am on a work night where she works in a career that requires her full attention which is a legal assistant.

Like seriously? Pardon if I'm on a mini rant myself just this women is severely bi-polar (Takes no meds for it so you can imagine the blow outs), no job, no roof over her head except for the ones she leeches off of, smokes a hella lot of green stuff, cigarettes through the wazzoo (even during pregnancy). Everything possibly wrong she had it. Yet here my DH and I stand 3 years later still TTC which we started before my step brother and SIL even met. Point is, you have every right to be pissed off and I feel for you.

 

[hopefull85]

i just aggravates me so bad. why do the couples who have it together and are more than ready to welcome a child has to struggle the hardest, but people like my so called best friend can get pregnant like it nothing. let me fill ya'll in more on why it upsets me so bad,

Ok she just started working and her husband doesnt have a job and probably wont get one anytime soon because all he wants to do is play on his xbox. they are both younger than me and already have one child and doesnt know what its like to long for something that may never happen. last summer she lost her job she had then so they had to move in with her mother in law. it took them a year to move out, while living with her mother in law the were trying to conceive then and for the longest neither one had a job ( she just started her job she has now a month ago) anyways their car is almost 15 years old, they live off the government, and have to donate plasma twice a week. so 3 months ago she tells me that she was pregnant when she had to go to the ER because she was having an ectopic pregnancy. so she had to have half of her reproductive system taken out. what makes me so mad this time is the way she goes about telling me when she rarely talks to me. she sends me a text telling me.

what i cant grasp is the fact that this so called friend is almost 300 pounds ( not trying to offend anyone, im also overweight) has half of her shit taken out just months ago was on birth control and thyroid meds and yet still she gets pregnant so easily.

my husband works away from home so that we can have what we have. we dont live off the government, we have a nice car that doesnt give us problems, we dont drink or smoke and i have all my reproductive system in tac so whats the deal. we are more that ready in every sence to welcome a child in our home. so why does people like her get to have yet another one and people like me have to hurt so bad from the pain of empty arms. i just dont understand.

 

[LGRJWR]

I would just like to say since we are all in this LTTC journey together sometimes we can say things that don't mean to hurt but do with that being said it is more common than people think women who have one ovary and tube and still conceive. It actually gives me hope because I was only born with one tube and ovary.

well she has a 3 year old and wasnt trying for him so i mean she really doesnt know or have any concern of my feelings. she is one person i can honestly say does not know what it feels like to try for anything and it not happen

No I completely understand why you feel the way you do. I was just commenting on the other comment nothing in regards to what you are dealing with.

 

[sharnw]

 

[Kimiw]

dont get me wrong part of me is happy for her, just wanted to say that first. my
frustration is that just a few months ago she had one ovary and one fallopian tube taken out. this is my supposed to be best friend, thing is she never calls or texts me. so earlier i get a text from her and before i read it i knew what it was going to be about. SHE IS PREGNANT. it just hurts me because its like wow are you kidding me. i just dont understand. i am doing everything i can, money wise, being that i am going to the doctor. i am just frustrated

I completely understand how you are feeling, trust me, and it is completely normal to have those feelings. Me and DH have been ttc for 6 years and so I understand the struggle far too well. I also have a "best friend" who is a lot like the one you have discribed. She has 3 kids and lives off the government. Her husband works, but has a crappy job, they live in a beat up mobile home (I live in a mobile home too, I am not trying to bag on people that live in them) that has black mold, no carpet and they can't ever make their rent.

My friend knows of my struggle, she is bi-polar so she has moments where she does not take my feelings into consideration. Like for instance one time she got into a fight with me and told me that I was just a jealous b**** because I cannot have my own children like she does. That hurt. To this day I have not been able to excuse those words because she knows that me and DH are more than worthy of having children. We have a nice place to live, two nice vehicles, health insurence, good jobs, lots of love to give and we don't have any government help.

She had her tubes tied after she had her youngest because her doctor told her she needed to stop having children because they couldn't even afford the ones they have. Even though she had her tubes tied, she still managed to get pregnant!! Although it turned out to be an eptopic, she still managed to concieve. And boy, was she quick to tell me she was pregnant even though she knew DH and I were going through a hard time.

 

[hopefull85]

dont get me wrong part of me is happy for her, just wanted to say that first. my
frustration is that just a few months ago she had one ovary and one fallopian tube taken out. this is my supposed to be best friend, thing is she never calls or texts me. so earlier i get a text from her and before i read it i knew what it was going to be about. SHE IS PREGNANT. it just hurts me because its like wow are you kidding me. i just dont understand. i am doing everything i can, money wise, being that i am going to the doctor. i am just frustrated

I completely understand how you are feeling, trust me, and it is completely normal to have those feelings. Me and DH have been ttc for 6 years and so I understand the struggle far too well. I also have a "best friend" who is a lot like the one you have discribed. She has 3 kids and lives off the government. Her husband works, but has a crappy job, they live in a beat up mobile home (I live in a mobile home too, I am not trying to bag on people that live in them) that has black mold, no carpet and they can't ever make their rent.

My friend knows of my struggle, she is bi-polar so she has moments where she does not take my feelings into consideration. Like for instance one time she got into a fight with me and told me that I was just a jealous b**** because I cannot have my own children like she does. That hurt. To this day I have not been able to excuse those words because she knows that me and DH are more than worthy of having children. We have a nice place to live, two nice vehicles, health insurence, good jobs, lots of love to give and we don't have any government help.

She had her tubes tied after she had her youngest because her doctor told her she needed to stop having children because they couldn't even afford the ones they have. Even though she had her tubes tied, she still managed to get pregnant!! Although it turned out to be an eptopic, she still managed to concieve. And boy, was she quick to tell me she was pregnant even though she knew DH and I were going through a hard time.

reading your post made me feel like i was reading something i would have wrote lol. oh i have had way too many people throw it up in my face how they can have kids and i cant. i dont care how mad someone gets at us they should never say words like that. and my so called friend does sound exactly like yours. its just aggravating. like you i too have health insurance that my husbands company takes out $188 a week just so we can have it. and yet we still make it and have more than enough of what we need and want. but when women like us complain about someone else then we are the ones being selfish and just needs to "grow up" and get over it.

some people seem to think just because you havent charted for so many years or obsessively pee'ed on ovulation sticks that you havent really been trying to conceive. im sorry but if you and your spouse dont use anything on the hopes of getting pregnant then yeah you are TTC. i have been with my husband for 5 years and so a few months into us being together we knew we were going to get married and wanted kids so we did nothing to prevent it. we are about to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary on June 29th and just here recently i have started to finally figure out why we havent got pregnant yet. so no matter what others think you and your DH are the ones who know how long you have wanted a child and its not for others to say.

sorry that it seems like i had a little rant there it just came out lol

hugs and baby dust your way

 

[tamithomas]

dont get me wrong part of me is happy for her, just wanted to say that first. my
frustration is that just a few months ago she had one ovary and one fallopian tube taken out. this is my supposed to be best friend, thing is she never calls or texts me. so earlier i get a text from her and before i read it i knew what it was going to be about. SHE IS PREGNANT. it just hurts me because its like wow are you kidding me. i just dont understand. i am doing everything i can, money wise, being that i am going to the doctor. i am just frustrated

I completely understand how you are feeling, trust me, and it is completely normal to have those feelings. Me and DH have been ttc for 6 years and so I understand the struggle far too well. I also have a "best friend" who is a lot like the one you have discribed. She has 3 kids and lives off the government. Her husband works, but has a crappy job, they live in a beat up mobile home (I live in a mobile home too, I am not trying to bag on people that live in them) that has black mold, no carpet and they can't ever make their rent.

My friend knows of my struggle, she is bi-polar so she has moments where she does not take my feelings into consideration. Like for instance one time she got into a fight with me and told me that I was just a jealous b**** because I cannot have my own children like she does. That hurt. To this day I have not been able to excuse those words because she knows that me and DH are more than worthy of having children. We have a nice place to live, two nice vehicles, health insurence, good jobs, lots of love to give and we don't have any government help.

She had her tubes tied after she had her youngest because her doctor told her she needed to stop having children because they couldn't even afford the ones they have. Even though she had her tubes tied, she still managed to get pregnant!! Although it turned out to be an eptopic, she still managed to concieve. And boy, was she quick to tell me she was pregnant even though she knew DH and I were going through a hard time.

reading your post made me feel like i was reading something i would have wrote lol. oh i have had way too many people throw it up in my face how they can have kids and i cant. i dont care how mad someone gets at us they should never say words like that. and my so called friend does sound exactly like yours. its just aggravating. like you i too have health insurance that my husbands company takes out $188 a week just so we can have it. and yet we still make it and have more than enough of what we need and want. but when women like us complain about someone else then we are the ones being selfish and just needs to "grow up" and get over it.

some people seem to think just because you havent charted for so many years or obsessively pee'ed on ovulation sticks that you havent really been trying to conceive. im sorry but if you and your spouse dont use anything on the hopes of getting pregnant then yeah you are TTC. i have been with my husband for 5 years and so a few months into us being together we knew we were going to get married and wanted kids so we did nothing to prevent it. we are about to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary on June 29th and just here recently i have started to finally figure out why we havent got pregnant yet. so no matter what others think you and your DH are the ones who know how long you have wanted a child and its not for others to say.

sorry that it seems like i had a little rant there it just came out lol

hugs and baby dust your way

If I could just intrude for one moment.. I just gotta add and agree with you, there is nothing more annoying I find then women who think they can determine other peoples level of TTC. Just because some of us aren't buying OPK's by the truck full and what not doesn't mean we are not trying lol. Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one who gets annoyed with the TTC'er "elites".

 

[missbabes]

dont get me wrong part of me is happy for her, just wanted to say that first. my
frustration is that just a few months ago she had one ovary and one fallopian tube taken out. this is my supposed to be best friend, thing is she never calls or texts me. so earlier i get a text from her and before i read it i knew what it was going to be about. SHE IS PREGNANT. it just hurts me because its like wow are you kidding me. i just dont understand. i am doing everything i can, money wise, being that i am going to the doctor. i am just frustrated

I completely understand how you are feeling, trust me, and it is completely normal to have those feelings. Me and DH have been ttc for 6 years and so I understand the struggle far too well. I also have a "best friend" who is a lot like the one you have discribed. She has 3 kids and lives off the government. Her husband works, but has a crappy job, they live in a beat up mobile home (I live in a mobile home too, I am not trying to bag on people that live in them) that has black mold, no carpet and they can't ever make their rent.

My friend knows of my struggle, she is bi-polar so she has moments where she does not take my feelings into consideration. Like for instance one time she got into a fight with me and told me that I was just a jealous b**** because I cannot have my own children like she does. That hurt. To this day I have not been able to excuse those words because she knows that me and DH are more than worthy of having children. We have a nice place to live, two nice vehicles, health insurence, good jobs, lots of love to give and we don't have any government help.

She had her tubes tied after she had her youngest because her doctor told her she needed to stop having children because they couldn't even afford the ones they have. Even though she had her tubes tied, she still managed to get pregnant!! Although it turned out to be an eptopic, she still managed to concieve. And boy, was she quick to tell me she was pregnant even though she knew DH and I were going through a hard time.

reading your post made me feel like i was reading something i would have wrote lol. oh i have had way too many people throw it up in my face how they can have kids and i cant. i dont care how mad someone gets at us they should never say words like that. and my so called friend does sound exactly like yours. its just aggravating. like you i too have health insurance that my husbands company takes out $188 a week just so we can have it. and yet we still make it and have more than enough of what we need and want. but when women like us complain about someone else then we are the ones being selfish and just needs to "grow up" and get over it.

some people seem to think just because you havent charted for so many years or obsessively pee'ed on ovulation sticks that you havent really been trying to conceive. im sorry but if you and your spouse dont use anything on the hopes of getting pregnant then yeah you are TTC. i have been with my husband for 5 years and so a few months into us being together we knew we were going to get married and wanted kids so we did nothing to prevent it. we are about to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary on June 29th and just here recently i have started to finally figure out why we havent got pregnant yet. so no matter what others think you and your DH are the ones who know how long you have wanted a child and its not for others to say.

sorry that it seems like i had a little rant there it just came out lol

hugs and baby dust your way

If I could just intrude for one moment.. I just gotta add and agree with you, there is nothing more annoying I find then women who think they can determine other peoples level of TTC. Just because some of us aren't buying OPK's by the truck full and what not doesn't mean we are not trying lol. Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one who gets annoyed with the TTC'er "elites".

Sorry to intrude myself, but I had the same experience when I first joined this forum in general that I wasn't considered to be TTC because I wasn't temping or using OPK's at the time either, I was told that I was NTNP, so yes I agree that it's annoying.

 

[hopefull85]

OMG so she isnt 4 weeks pregnant she is 16 WEEKS PREGNANT. WHAT!!!!!

 

[sharnw]

FAR OUT! Wooooohhh!

 

[hopefull85]

yeah. im like how did you not know. but thinking in my head well she is almost 300 pounds and like 5'3. yeah i know that was mean but its how i feel.

 

[tamithomas]

it's true though like how do they not know? That's why I'm probably the most suspicious person in the world with it comes to that show "I didn't know I was pregnant" like seriously, how can you not feel a human inside of you? especially when they say some were born at health 6 lbs

 

[hopefull85]

it's true though like how do they not know? That's why I'm probably the most suspicious person in the world with it comes to that show "I didn't know I was pregnant" like seriously, how can you not feel a human inside of you? especially when they say some were born at health 6 lbs

i know right, but her being 16 weeks would mean that she got pregnant right after she got half of her stuff taken out. it makes me wonder if she knew and was just lying. i dont know i really dont know. it still just angers me.

 

[tamithomas]

Totally understand, I'd be pissed too. Only thing is to keep in mind that no matter how frustrated or pissed you get at her, it's not gonna help you get BFP nor is it the reason you don't have it yet.

Hopefully she was not lying to you this whole time because that would be disgraceful. But even at 16 weeks, every pregnant woman I've ever known had a million and one symptom at that stage especially since the kid has had a HB for 8 weeks then. I'm sorry but I'm the first to call bullshit on those situations when they say they didn't know