Argh...Life can be so unfair...(venting)

[NavyWife84]

I wrote this in my journal too, but thought I'd share because I know there are a lot of you that have similar situations and thought you could add your vent to mine!

So my husband and I are finally going on a honeymoon after 3 years of marriage. I should be really excited as we are leaving tomorrow! But, when we planned this trip, it was to take my mind off of the whole LTTTC thing. I was hoping that I would be pregnant for this trip and I wouldn't be able to drink or anything on the trip. I am trying to convince myself that it is a good thing that I am not preggo (currently post-AF-spotting) because that means that I can eat and drink anything I want and flying won't be a problem. But I am really down today.

We were on vacation with my family last week in the Outer Banks and I didn't drink because I was post ovulation and I didn't want to drink a lot in case I was pregnant. I kept thinking, it will be worth it if I am pregnant, and if I'm not, I can have what I want when I am on my honeymoon because that will be pre-O. Now, I am excited to have fun and get away with my hubby, but I am really down because of what my hubby told me this morning....
The girl that was house/pet-sitting for us last week did a horrible job. When we got home, she was at the house with her casual sex buddy, after we specifically told her our two rules were no smoking and no sex in our house...she could do whatever else she wanted! She let the dogs eat the perscription cat food and then fed the cats the ferret food and the ferrets the cat food. I wrote specific directions on how to take care of our pets because 3 of the 6 of them are special needs animals. And she couldn't follow the directions! The food is kept in different colored bins, which was specifically stated in my note!!! Anyway, I was just getting over being angry at this girl...hubby said I should let it go...and then this morning he tells me that she is pregnant! She is 19, and just messes around with the guy that was at our house. To make matters worse, she went home (different state) a month or so ago and "hooked up" with her ex-boyfriend. So, whose baby is it? How the heck is she going to raise a baby (if she even keeps it) if she can't even give my pets the correct food when the directions are written out for her? No one writes out directions for raising a child!!!

Life can be so unfair. Why is it that she can get pregnant by accident but my hubby and I would give anything in the world to have a baby and it hasn't happened yet!

I know I shouldn't let this get to me and I should be excited about our carribbean vacation tomorrow, but I am so down! I cried for at least an hour this morning when I found out that she is pregnant and have been on the verge of tears all day!

Sorry, I just needed to vent!

 

[Missus_L]

Aww hun I feel for you, I really do. I say this all the time with others - it's not fair at all. Just think, when you get your child, it will have the best in life I would try and forget about here as she is her own worst enemy, and enjoy your honeymoon. You will become more relaxed, happier as you have been away from it all and probably forget about her in the process. I say go wild and think of you two as that's all that matters (and your fur babies of course!) xx

 

[andie526]

i remember when id whine as a child and say something wasnt fair and my mom would say, well lifes not fair. now i know how true that is! it doesnt make sense and ive quit trying to wrap my mind around it... it wont ever make sense to me.

 

[cooch]

Just let it out if you need to cry for an hour you will feel so much better for it. We have ttc for 11 months- during that time every woman and probably every dog has gotten pregnant, so for me its now water off a duck's back.

But it is so tough and life really does seem so unfair sometimes. Just have your cry, go on holiday and have a lovely time.

 

[pumpkin86]

honey this is the big question that we all couldn't answer..we wish we have a good answer to it..at least I do..I wish I could know what is the wisdom behind all this torture of ttc..
But sometimes I think maybe our future children will be far more special than any one else who didn't go through this..that is my only hope..and if its true..then I'm willing to wait and be patient coz it would be worth it..
Big to you..and please try to enjoy your journey and not think about that silly girl..

 

[andie526]

i know one thing is for sure... none of us will ever take our kids for granted! i have a friend who suffered 7 years of infertility (not even one measley miscarriage to give her hope) and she now has 4 beautiful daughters. while she admits she wouldnt just love to go through all that heartache again, she really does think that it contributed to her relationships with her baby girls. theres not a single day where she loses her patience over silly things or feels like they are a burden.... every day is a gift and shes soooo in love with her life now. i think its true that you cant know how good you have it til youve been through the hard stuff. i know other people love their kids, but theres just that additional bond when someone waits for so long to have their beautiful family.

 

[Armywife84]

What a nasty little girl doing the deed in your home! If she can't follow simple directions then I feel sorry for the child she's carrying.

I HATE that stupid people like that can get pregnant with a drop of a hat.

 

[Cridge]

Argh! It's situations like that that I'd just want to go tell her that I'll go ahead and raise that baby for her.

 

[NavyWife84]

Thanks, Ladies for the support! My DH and I just got back from our vacation, which was just what we needed. It really did take my mind off of things! Of course, when we got home, the big gossip with our friends was the "couple" and how the girl is pregnant! Ugh. Oh well, we had a great time while we were in the Caribbean!

I agree with all of you ladies that when we are finally parents that we will love our children so much and will cherish every moment, more so than women who don't struggle! Not that other moms don't love their children, but we have already been through so much in ttc that it will just seem like that much bigger of a blessing! I have come home from my trip with a renewed faith and a positive attitude! Hopefully this will last for a while!

Hugs to you ladies!

 

[scoobydrlp]

I think all the time about how unfair it is that people who don't even want children can get pregnant so easily. A silly girl (she's 19) that I work with who has been engaged to 3 different men in less than a year recently got pregnant my her newest guy. It's so frustrating!!

Anyway, I'm so glad you were able to enjoy your vacation! Also...I love your weim's, they're so cute!

 

[NavyWife84]

Anyway, I'm so glad you were able to enjoy your vacation! Also...I love your weim's, they're so cute!

Thanks! They are A LOT bigger than that now, but they are still my babies!!!