Arrrrgh. Getting so fed up of this now!

[Aidan's Mummy]

Me and FOB have been seperated for a while now. And we still arn't getting anywhere when it comes to agreeing to let Aidan go to his parents house (FOB is living there but they are drug addicts). Last time Aidan saw my FOB's parents they took heroin in front of him(While I wasn't in the room, FOB found out afterwards) and left drugs lying around. I took Aidan home as soon as I found out and since then have refused them access to him. Now we have split FOB has gone back to live with his parents. I said before Aidan goes there I would like a drug test to prove they are no longer taking drugs. To which his mum replied if you want a drug test we want a DNA test How dare she. There is no doubt in my mind that Aidan is FOB's child and FOB didn't deny it until now. I'm just getting so fed up of the constant stress and arguments. He wants to go to mediation but I am not budging on the fact that Aidan will not go to his parents house until I know for sure his welfare won't be put at risk. Am I so wrong for not wanting my child around drugs? I'm just fed up, all I want is what's best for Aidan but nothing is getting solved x

 

[sophxx]

def not i wouldnt want my child around those type of drugs espically when there taking them infront of him

could you push for him to see lo at a contact center? or would he not agree? thats what i would offer so that you come across as being resonable x

 

[Blah11]

Totally inappropriate for him to go there. I'd just be firm and say no to him. If he wants contact he can have it at a contact centre or something

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

How do you go about getting a contact centre? Or does it have to go through the courts to get that? x

 

[Laura2919]

The best for Aidan is that he doesnt see what they get up to. Your right. Dont give in and let him go there. No court in the land would let him either so you have no worries. Your not stopping FOB from taking him, just stopping him from taking them there.. Its not always easy and plain sailing when it comes to splitting up. I hope it works out for you. Definitely stand your ground hun.

 

[Lightworker]

Hugs to you hun. You're definitely doing the right thing by being cautious about putting Aidan in that environment. X

 

[shellie82]

no court would let him go there if they were taking drugs, you are completely in the right about this!

if he wants to see aiden then he needs to do it somewhere else, dont back down on this hun x

 

[xolily]

i think you know the answer to this without asking us! no-one would want their child in that environment, tell FOB to come to you or piss off.

 

[babe2ooo]

oh hun i'm sorry, i would be the same why would you want your child around that. hope it get better

 

[indy and lara]

He should not be in that environment, you are quite right.

 

[princess_bump]

your quite right heather, def. NOT around drug-taking 'grandparents', i wouldn't have my children any where near them! xx

 

[lesleyann]

id tell him if the G-parents want acess its in an acess centre and if he has no where else to see his son he can see him there 2

 

[Jkelmum]

WTF ...Has Aidan,s Dad got half a brain ...Tell him he can see Aidan at your house and if he dont like it to seek legal advice because no court in the world would side with him , I didnt realise you had split up , Hope everything else in your life is going great

 

[xSophieBx]

Your totally right - Def DON'T let him go there. If thats the game he wants to play asking for a DNA test then I wouldn't waste ur time on him. However u don't need to go 2 court to get a contact centre. I'm in the process of it right now as I don't trust FOB one bit, and the solicitor is doing the referral. Maybe u should go seek legal help? & get a solicitor letter sent to him. If his causing u this much stress then I'd only contact him via a solicitor. As thats wot I'm having to do now xx

 

[DanielleM]

You are being a FAB mum and not letting LO go to this house where illegal and dangerous things are happening. I can't even believe FOB wants his son in this environment!! Was FOB brought up in this environment? Maybe he doesn't see the harm in it cos its what he is used to iykwim? Maybe you need to explain it is not a good environment for your child? (hope that doesn't sound patronising?) xx

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

You are being a FAB mum and not letting LO go to this house where illegal and dangerous things are happening. I can't even believe FOB wants his son in this environment!! Was FOB brought up in this environment? Maybe he doesn't see the harm in it cos its what he is used to iykwim? Maybe you need to explain it is not a good environment for your child? (hope that doesn't sound patronising?) xx

Yes he was brought up aorund it hun. He accepted the fact that is isn't a suitable envorment for Aidan but he thinks he will be safe because he is there
xx

 

[Raggydoll]

You're totally in the right. Aidan is your priority and you are doing what any right minded person would do to protect their LO from harm.

It can never be safe even with him there. He can't watch Aidan 24/7. It can only take a couple of seconds for something to happen. He can predict his parents behaviour and given the drugs they are taking I would say they are highly volatile. He can't guaruntee his parents aren't carrying drugs about their person

 

[xemmax]

Stick to your guns! You are totally right.

 

[whiby]

Don't back down, it is absolutely inappropriate and unnecessary for Aiden to be in that environment and I would do exactly the same with my son as you have.

 

[NuKe]

how pathetic.

cant add anything new that the other girls havent said already, but u know urself ur totally in the right about this hun!!