**August 2020 Lucky Testers: 49 Testers - 16 BFPs**

[Alligator]

Good luck ladies! I'm excited for watching you guys test sooooon! If AF arrives on time for me I may be in line to start testing the end of the month. My birthday is the 30th and assuming a similar ish cycle I'll be 8-10dpo then. NOW I am swearing off FRER until I get a line on a cheapie but I have no control so I'll probably test with a cheapy early!

 

[MrsKatie]

Haha @doggylover we keep posting at the same time! Yeah the little misunderstanding just triggered all these painful feelings linked to dysfunction and frustrations that are chronic in my family (my family is wonderful, but there are some major issues) and the worst part was how much it upset my little sister’s husband (who is also my husband’s brother!! It’s the best). We are all so close but he has more personal issues with my parents/brother than most people do, just because their temperaments are just like that. There is a lot of love and closeness there, he just gets triggered by them the most and feels like his personal space and wishes aren’t respected and I can’t say he’s wrong but I also think he has to check his anger and judgment. He and I are remarkably close (and my little sister is like my soul mate so it’s just wonderful beyond words that they’re married) but when he goes on these angry rants it’s so hard for everyone else there. family is so complicated, it makes me think about the atmosphere and culture I want to create for my own husband and kids and I want to be so deliberate and selfless in that endeavor and avoid a lot of what my parents did. And yet I see so much of them in me- some great and some really not great!!

 

[Jft1]

You ladies honestly are the best. Thanks so much for looking at the tests, I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings. I need to get DS bathed and put to he'd then will catch up with all the posts properly

 

[doggylover]

Haha @doggylover we keep posting at the same time! Yeah the little misunderstanding just triggered all these painful feelings linked to dysfunction and frustrations that are chronic in my family (my family is wonderful, but there are some major issues) and the worst part was how much it upset my little sister’s husband (who is also my husband’s brother!! It’s the best). We are all so close but he has more personal issues with my parents/brother than most people do, just because their temperaments are just like that. There is a lot of love and closeness there, he just gets triggered by them the most and feels like his personal space and wishes aren’t respected and I can’t say he’s wrong but I also think he has to check his anger and judgment. He and I are remarkably close (and my little sister is like my soul mate so it’s just wonderful beyond words that they’re married) but when he goes on these angry rants it’s so hard for everyone else there. family is so complicated, it makes me think about the atmosphere and culture I want to create for my own husband and kids and I want to be so deliberate and selfless in that endeavor and avoid a lot of what my parents did. And yet I see so much of them in me- some great and some really not great!!

That’s a great set up with you and your sister and then husbands being brothers! Like something from a movie! Not a great that your bil sometimes doesn’t get on with the rest of your family, that must be be hard for your husband and sister as well. You’re so right, families are complicated. But I absolutely LOVE your reflection on how you will use your experience to shape your own family and kids experiences. My dad has a vicious temper when we were young and I have a bad temper myself. When I find myself losing it o have to remind myself of how I felt as a kid and how I never want my own kids to feel that. We learn, and we try to better ourselves from it.

 

[MrsKatie]

@doggylover omg yes!!! My dad had a HORRIFYING childhood (he doesn’t even fully realize how messed up his parents were to him) and considering that it’s a miracle he’s as together as he is. But we also grew up with him yelling, yelling, YELLING all the time and I. HATED. It. I would just... check out mentally and emotionally and wait for the yelling to stop. It was so dysfunctional. He also is utterly incompetent when it comes to having emotionally difficult conversations, he just can’t do it so I do feel stuck when it comes to communicating certain things. He takes it so personally that it’s not even worth bringing up. And now I see myself flipping out on the kids like he did and it’s horrifying! I’ve gotten 90% better but it’s a work in progress. But I just have to keep getting better.

 

[Suggerhoney]

Thank you my friend, i really appreciate that. I am so sorry for you . I believe last cycle was an early chemical, I don't know about this one. It's possible. I am quite crampy today. Part of me wonders if I just have bad pee/bad luck with these FRER tests, maybe I always have some HCG in my body it picks up on. I have decided next cycle to not even buy FRER and only use cheapies until I get a faint line. I've got some in my cart, just waiting for AF to arrive properly and I'll hit 'buy' on Amazon! Along with EPO and some preseed. I hope the test results help and you aren't pre-menopause! You're young for it!

@Jft1 I see those lines!! ahh!

Its hard to say for sure as u only used frer but ive always trusted frer. The only time they have given me faint lines is with the chemicals but I had lines on many other brands as well.

I have only 1 frer left.
I have 50 sweety fox tests they were dirt cheap on amazon like only £7 for 50 tests.
I also have easy@home cheapies and other cheapies which I will use and will only use that 1 frer if I get darker lines on the cheapies.
Frer are so expensive.

I wanted to buy pregmate ovulation and pregnancy tests but they are shipped in from the USA and are expensive so I just brought some Wondfo OPKs.
I've decided im not buying anymore pregnancy tests because I have loads of cheapies.

I really hope ure not having anothet chemical? Have u had lines on any other brand other than Frer?

I really hope ure right hon and im not going through pre menopause.
The doctor said i may not be ovulating every month but I know i am because of opks and fertility friend and also all my signs like cm etc.

Really hoping O holds off this cycle untill day 12 to 14 then maybe we can give it one last shot b4 I have to have all these bloodtests next month.

This is the last cycle we can really try and if I O to early again we won't be able to try.

I will then stop ttc until December and give myself a good few months off to have these tests and sort my cycles out.

It likely O will be early again because of the chemical but im still bleeding lightly now and im on CD6 so im hoping that's a good sign that Ovulation is a good week or so away yet.

Fingers crossed.

 

[doggylover]

@doggylover omg yes!!! My dad had a HORRIFYING childhood (he doesn’t even fully realize how messed up his parents were to him) and considering that it’s a miracle he’s as together as he is. But we also grew up with him yelling, yelling, YELLING all the time and I. HATED. It. I would just... check out mentally and emotionally and wait for the yelling to stop. It was so dysfunctional. He also is utterly incompetent when it comes to having emotionally difficult conversations, he just can’t do it so I do feel stuck when it comes to communicating certain things. He takes it so personally that it’s not even worth bringing up. And now I see myself flipping out on the kids like he did and it’s horrifying! I’ve gotten 90% better but it’s a work in progress. But I just have to keep getting better.

Work in progress is right. I think constantly trying to go against what has been engrained in to us as kids is hard work, but shows how much we want to do better for our kids. Weirdly, my dad has NO temper at all now! My kids, and my brother’s kids, think we are JOKING when we say he used to yell at us all the time. He’s such a softy now with them all. Which is great, as I obviously wouldn’t stand for him treating him the way we were treated at times.

Its hard to say for sure as u only used frer but ive always trusted frer. The only time they have given me faint lines is with the chemicals but I had lines on many other brands as well.

I have only 1 frer left.
I have 50 sweety fox tests they were dirt cheap on amazon like only £7 for 50 tests.
I also have easy@home cheapies and other cheapies which I will use and will only use that 1 frer if I get darker lines on the cheapies.
Frer are so expensive.

I wanted to buy pregmate ovulation and pregnancy tests but they are shipped in from the USA and are expensive so I just brought some Wondfo OPKs.
I've decided im not buying anymore pregnancy tests because I have loads of cheapies.

I really hope ure not having anothet chemical? Have u had lines on any other brand other than Frer?

I really hope ure right hon and im not going through pre menopause.
The doctor said i may not be ovulating every month but I know i am because of opks and fertility friend and also all my signs like cm etc.

Really hoping O holds off this cycle untill day 12 to 14 then maybe we can give it one last shot b4 I have to have all these bloodtests next month.

This is the last cycle we can really try and if I O to early again we won't be able to try.

I will then stop ttc until December and give myself a good few months off to have these tests and sort my cycles out.

It likely O will be early again because of the chemical but im still bleeding lightly now and im on CD6 so im hoping that's a good sign that Ovulation is a good week or so away yet.

Fingers crossed.

I am so sorry things have been so awful for you. Sometimes a few months break (if you don’t catch this cycle) can be good for mental health x

 

[Suggerhoney]

2 hour hold.. Still feel like I'm seeing lines on these. Really hope I'm not imagining it!!

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I see those lines hon good luck

Good luck to everyone else.

Sorry to all those that AF got it really is the worst.

 

[Suggerhoney]

Thank

Work in progress is right. I think constantly trying to go against what has been engrained in to us as kids is hard work, but shows how much we want to do better for our kids. Weirdly, my dad has NO temper at all now! My kids, and my brother’s kids, think we are JOKING when we say he used to yell at us all the time. He’s such a softy now with them all. Which is great, as I obviously wouldn’t stand for him treating him the way we were treated at times.



I am so sorry things have been so awful for you. Sometimes a few months break (if you don’t catch this cycle) can be good for mental health x

Thanks hon. This year sure hasn't been kind to me but im hoping things will turn around now. U know the saying it comes in 3s.
Well I've had 3 early losses so im hoping that's it now and if we a blessed again it will hopefully stick.
We will give it a go this cycle but only if O after CD11.
Just hope if I get lines again they progress and I get my sticky healthy rainbow.
Having one Misscarige is awful but having 3 is hurendous. I wudnt wish it on

my worst enemy.

@Alligator oh wow what a journey for your SIL and BIL, I hope this round was successful!! Glad your guy is feeling better.

@Jft1 oooh I say bfp!!

@Suggerhoney so many hugs honey. Are you still nursing at all? Remind me again how many kids you have and how old they are? I doubt it’s pre menopause at your age. I bet you can dial in those hormones!

AFM, I think I’m like 4dpo maybe? Had some major family drama last night, it’s too long a story to type out but revolves around a misunderstanding about the social distancing rules right now, and it just turned into this huge thing that has me super bummed out today. Trying to shake it off and just focus on my husband and kids, but it threw me off for sure.

Hi hon thanks.
Im 40.
I have 2 teenagers from a previous relationship 17 and 14.

Me and hubby have a 9 Yr old son, 7 Yr old daughter and a nearly 11 month old son. No im not nursing due to medications.
So this is our #4 baby we are trying for.

Truly blessed to have all my wonderful children but I really am broody for one more so my son has a sibling close in age to grow up with because there's 7 years between him and our DD.

I've now had 6 losses in total.

One at almost 11 weeks. And the 5 others all chemicals.
Never had back to back losses tho this is the first time it's happened.
I was a late bloomer and didn't start my periods untill I was 14 and my mum didn't go through menopause untill her late 50s.

 

[Lottielouf]

I just tested for the hell of it and I can see literally the faintest line on this...I’ve marked it to show where I can see but it’s not easy to pick up on my phone camera

I wanted to invert it and tweak but I have no idea how Hopefully you ladies can see what I’m seeing!

I’m 11dpo so still early, AF isn’t due til Monday xx

 

[doggylover]

I just tested for the hell of it and I can see literally the faintest line on this...I’ve marked it to show where I can see but it’s not easy to pick up on my phone camera

I wanted to invert it and tweak but I have no idea how Hopefully you ladies can see what I’m seeing!

I’m 11dpo so still early, AF isn’t due til Monday xx

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I definitely see something on there! I would offer to do all the fancy stuff but I also don’t know how! How exciting though!!! Have you another few tests you can do tomorrow?

 

[Jft1]

@tdog @Deethehippy @Alligator @MrsKatie @doggylover @Suggerhoney - thank you all for making me feel sane. I was sure I could see something. I tested again about 30 minutes ago and the lines were the same so I'm praying this is it. I've got a frer which I'll use tomorrow and hopefully surprise DH. I have a tshirt for ds which says 'I'm going to be a big brother' every morning I get him ready and DH comes down and says 'I love your outfit today' so I'd love to put the tshirt on him and for DH to then realise what it says!

@Alligator i hope and pray their ivf goes well, it sounds like they've had some journey so far. I'm so sure you'll get your bfp next month and then you will have babies close in age. Got everything crossed for you

@MrsKatie that is so nice how your family is set up, it's lovely to be close. I'm really close to my brother but not such a big fan of his other half lol

@Suggerhoney it will happen for you, just give it some time and it honestly will. I know exactly how you feel, I had an ectopic then chemical and it was horrible. Even these past 5 month ttc I've been so deflated thinking it's because I've only got 1 tube it'll take forever. We all have our challenges, keep the faith hon it'll happen I'm so sure it will!

 

[Lottielouf]

I definitely see something on there! I would offer to do all the fancy stuff but I also don’t know how! How exciting though!!! Have you another few tests you can do tomorrow?

Ahhh I’m so happy someone else can see it I was starting to question myself! Haha

yes...I have many many tests

 

[doggylover]

@tdog @Deethehippy @Alligator @MrsKatie @doggylover @Suggerhoney - thank you all for making me feel sane. I was sure I could see something. I tested again about 30 minutes ago and the lines were the same so I'm praying this is it. I've got a frer which I'll use tomorrow and hopefully surprise DH. I have a tshirt for ds which says 'I'm going to be a big brother' every morning I get him ready and DH comes down and says 'I love your outfit today' so I'd love to put the tshirt on him and for DH to then realise what it says!

@Alligator i hope and pray their ivf goes well, it sounds like they've had some journey so far. I'm so sure you'll get your bfp next month and then you will have babies close in age. Got everything crossed for you

@MrsKatie that is so nice how your family is set up, it's lovely to be close. I'm really close to my brother but not such a big fan of his other half lol

@Suggerhoney it will happen for you, just give it some time and it honestly will. I know exactly how you feel, I had an ectopic then chemical and it was horrible. Even these past 5 month ttc I've been so deflated thinking it's because I've only got 1 tube it'll take forever. We all have our challenges, keep the faith hon it'll happen I'm so sure it will!

That will be such a cute reveal!!!

Ahhh I’m so happy someone else can see it I was starting to question myself! Haha

yes...I have many many tests

Fingers crossed! Will be looking forward to more pictures soon!

 

[Jft1]

Ahhh I’m so happy someone else can see it I was starting to question myself! Haha

yes...I have many many tests

Edited slightly and inverted and I see it on them all!! Good luck lovely!

 

[Jft1]

Oh and I have the pregnancy checker app, it's free and it has a few basic functions such as invert.. Works well for me!

 

[Alligator]

Its hard to say for sure as u only used frer but ive always trusted frer. The only time they have given me faint lines is with the chemicals but I had lines on many other brands as well.

I have only 1 frer left.
I have 50 sweety fox tests they were dirt cheap on amazon like only £7 for 50 tests.
I also have easy@home cheapies and other cheapies which I will use and will only use that 1 frer if I get darker lines on the cheapies.
Frer are so expensive.

I wanted to buy pregmate ovulation and pregnancy tests but they are shipped in from the USA and are expensive so I just brought some Wondfo OPKs.
I've decided im not buying anymore pregnancy tests because I have loads of cheapies.

I really hope ure not having anothet chemical? Have u had lines on any other brand other than Frer?

I really hope ure right hon and im not going through pre menopause.
The doctor said i may not be ovulating every month but I know i am because of opks and fertility friend and also all my signs like cm etc.

Really hoping O holds off this cycle untill day 12 to 14 then maybe we can give it one last shot b4 I have to have all these bloodtests next month.

This is the last cycle we can really try and if I O to early again we won't be able to try.

I will then stop ttc until December and give myself a good few months off to have these tests and sort my cycles out.

It likely O will be early again because of the chemical but im still bleeding lightly now and im on CD6 so im hoping that's a good sign that Ovulation is a good week or so away yet.

Fingers crossed.

I think it's a good sign you're still bleeding CD 6. Hopefully O holds off. Will you start OPKs in the next couple days?

I have only gotten lines on FRER, and the lines seem to fade off the tests as they dry? It's so hard to say. Impossible without a blood test honestly. I will see when AF arrives and what next month brings!

 

[Alligator]

@Lottielouf Something catches my eye. I'm working on my laptop and I always have a tough time seeing lines on my laptop. I'll check on my phone later but I think I see what you see. Fx!!!

@Jft1 excited for your tests tomorrow. I have one leftover FRER I am saving for AFTER I get a line on a cheapy next cycle hehehe.

 

[Deethehippy]

Jft1 - so pleased for you Can't wait to see your FRER test tomorrow.

Lottielouf - I can see the line just about and definitely on the inverted ones. Wishing you lots of luck for further tests.

Alligator - I'm sorry that AF is coming, it's so tough being at the end of the cycle knowing that you have to start over. (and I'm still feeling bad over here for telling you to give your two year old popcorn, I should have known better)

Sugger - Hopefully the doctors will be able to figure out the hormonal issues that you could have and be able to fix your cycles. I don't think you are pre-menopausal yet but I can certainly understand the worry that comes with age only to well. I am hopeful that your cycle this month will just go back to a more usual length and all will be well xx

MrsKatie - Wishing you luck for when you start testing, the TWW always drags for the first week but I find after that it all gets to the exciting part and that is when I waste way too many tests lol.
I am ok thank you. I feel less than optimistic that I will ever get pregnant at my age..I really do wonder what I am doing here on this forum at times but my broody part just wants to keep on keeping on. The positives are that I still have regular cycles and seem to ovulate but the 'risks' and statistics for my age (along with my now probable fibroids) just make it seem like a chance in a million to me. I wish there was someone who could tell me what would give me the best chances and say to me 'you must always use loads of pre-seed and you must eat less dairy or you must BD on a certain day' but of course there is no-one to tell me the best way to achieve my goal so I have to just second guess and leave things down to luck.

Good luck and baby dust to everyone

 

[doggylover]

Jft1 - so pleased for you Can't wait to see your FRER test tomorrow.

Lottielouf - I can see the line just about and definitely on the inverted ones. Wishing you lots of luck for further tests.

Alligator - I'm sorry that AF is coming, it's so tough being at the end of the cycle knowing that you have to start over. (and I'm still feeling bad over here for telling you to give your two year old popcorn, I should have known better)

Sugger - Hopefully the doctors will be able to figure out the hormonal issues that you could have and be able to fix your cycles. I don't think you are pre-menopausal yet but I can certainly understand the worry that comes with age only to well. I am hopeful that your cycle this month will just go back to a more usual length and all will be well xx

MrsKatie - Wishing you luck for when you start testing, the TWW always drags for the first week but I find after that it all gets to the exciting part and that is when I waste way too many tests lol.
I am ok thank you. I feel less than optimistic that I will ever get pregnant at my age..I really do wonder what I am doing here on this forum at times but my broody part just wants to keep on keeping on. The positives are that I still have regular cycles and seem to ovulate but the 'risks' and statistics for my age (along with my now probable fibroids) just make it seem like a chance in a million to me. I wish there was someone who could tell me what would give me the best chances and say to me 'you must always use loads of pre-seed and you must eat less dairy or you must BD on a certain day' but of course there is no-one to tell me the best way to achieve my goal so I have to just second guess and leave things down to luck.

Good luck and baby dust to everyone

I know it’s not really right to compare women and pregnancies, and I’m not sure what age you are, but my aunt got pregnant for the first time at 40, and had her 3rd baby at 46. All healthy pregnancies with no complications. So don’t let your age get you down at all x