**August 2020 Lucky Testers: 49 Testers - 16 BFPs**

[3 girlies]

Sorry alligator I think testing early is not as fun as I thought. I've had 2 chemicals & its sucks. Hopefully you get a darker line you still have time xx

 

[Alligator]

Sorry alligator I think testing early is not as fun as I thought. I've had 2 chemicals & its sucks. Hopefully you get a darker line you still have time xx

Thanks girl - I appreciate that. I do think I'm likely out though. I agree about testing early, If anything just using cheapies would be best since they are more unlikely to detect a chemical so early.

To add to it, as you know my husband struggles a bit with depression/anxiety and he's been stressed lately, work and finances and of course covid. I feel like our whole marriage/life together he's stressed about work and money and there will never be a perfect time so if we wait to have another baby we never will (same as if we'd waited to have our first, you make do and figure it out). And he said he doesn't know if he wants to try anymore, he's stressed and maybe it's not the right time. UGH. I hate it, now I have that anxiety hanging around. I'm sure he'll come around, he knows it's important to me and I know he wants our daughter to have a sibling as well as I do. But that's just making me want to sob, between that and the negative tests everyone around me has two babies or is pregnant again, and it's something I desperately want, and I feel left out and left behind. And like I may have to put my want and desire to grow our family on hold because of my husband's stupid job which he's always been anxious about (he's a mechanic so he only makes money when there's work, which I know would be stressful but it's been his whole life complaining about it, piss or get off the pot! I'm so sick of it controlling our lives).

Sorry ladies I had to get that massive vent out hahah thank you for listening/reading. Just feeling really down this morning. I do hope/believe he'll come around and we have time until the next fertile period, at least 2-3 weeks. But I have a worry that he won't, of course which breaks my heart and makes me so upset and anxious.

 

[Bevziibubble]

@Alligator that must be really difficult, I'm so sorry

 

[Deethehippy]

Thanks girl - I appreciate that. I do think I'm likely out though. I agree about testing early, If anything just using cheapies would be best since they are more unlikely to detect a chemical so early.

To add to it, as you know my husband struggles a bit with depression/anxiety and he's been stressed lately, work and finances and of course covid. I feel like our whole marriage/life together he's stressed about work and money and there will never be a perfect time so if we wait to have another baby we never will (same as if we'd waited to have our first, you make do and figure it out). And he said he doesn't know if he wants to try anymore, he's stressed and maybe it's not the right time. UGH. I hate it, now I have that anxiety hanging around. I'm sure he'll come around, he knows it's important to me and I know he wants our daughter to have a sibling as well as I do. But that's just making me want to sob, between that and the negative tests everyone around me has two babies or is pregnant again, and it's something I desperately want, and I feel left out and left behind. And like I may have to put my want and desire to grow our family on hold because of my husband's stupid job which he's always been anxious about (he's a mechanic so he only makes money when there's work, which I know would be stressful but it's been his whole life complaining about it, piss or get off the pot! I'm so sick of it controlling our lives).

Sorry ladies I had to get that massive vent out hahah thank you for listening/reading. Just feeling really down this morning. I do hope/believe he'll come around and we have time until the next fertile period, at least 2-3 weeks. But I have a worry that he won't, of course which breaks my heart and makes me so upset and anxious.

Oh hun, I'm so sorry your lines have not gotten darker. I have wondered myself if some ladies have some low levels all the time because (as you know) I often gets lines on tests when I am not pregnant. I do hope there is still a chance for you though.
How worrying about what your husband said. Perhaps in two weeks time his stress levels will be more even and he may come round to it again..sometimes things do change over time but I can understand how upset you must feel. He may well think about it over the next few days anyway

 

[Deethehippy]

Hi Ladies, I would like to join you for this last part of the 2 week wait, I am officially a day late for my AF, but only 12dpo as I have a short LP.

I am actually extremely nervous about testing so I haven't tested at all yet this month. After last months positive tests followed soon after by a miscarriage I don't know if I'm more worried I'll see a negative or a too faint positive.

Tomorrow is our wedding anniversary and I told myself if I didn't have AF yet I would test then, but I don't know if I can bring myself to do it!

Got everything crossed for you Lightning. I find if I start testing at 6DPO I can't then stop but if I wait the prospect seems to get scarier and scarier. I hope AF stays away so badly for you and you get a nice surprise.

 

[Alligator]

Oh hun, I'm so sorry your lines have not gotten darker. I have wondered myself if some ladies have some low levels all the time because (as you know) I often gets lines on tests when I am not pregnant. I do hope there is still a chance for you though.
How worrying about what your husband said. Perhaps in two weeks time his stress levels will be more even and he may come round to it again..sometimes things do change over time but I can understand how upset you must feel. He may well think about it over the next few days anyway

Yes I wonder that too. And thank you. Assuming my husband comes around (I think he will but I don't know, sometimes he surprises me) I won't test too early next cycle, and I'll only use ICs. I have never had a false line on those. I can't take the letdown!

 

[Lottielouf]

@Alligator i genuinely believe the tests are just shocking...frers are the devil...on my one yesterday I could see the indent line the minute I took it out of the wrapper and that’s the same line I see so many ladies on here getting excited about and it breaks my heart for them.

I said I wouldn’t use them this time but I did the one yesterday and I have another but I’m considering binning it because they really do just seem so shit!

I still have everything crossed for you xx

 

[kksy9b]

Finally getting a chance to sit down for a few minutes! Not sure how long it will last but will catch up as quick as I can!

@drudai I'm so sorry that AF got you this month praying that next month is your month!

@tropicsgirl Hopefully next cycle will give you more time to be with your DH! Eating healthy and exercising certainly isn't going to hurt anything and is good for your own personal health. But there are plenty of women who are overweight who get pregnant and go on to have healthy babies as well. I was overweight for my first and then lost 70 pounds before getting pregnant with my second...it took us 3 months with my oldest and caught first month with my youngest, so not really a lot of difference. I think I read before that if a woman is overweight/obese it can mess with her hormone balance/cycle....but I don't think that's true for everyone.

@Rebaby Hopefully next month being your first proper month trying will bring you a BFP!

@elencor it's hard to tell for me with your picture when i zoom in. Hopefully Friday will bring a clear BFP!

@amaibee WOW!! NOT a squinter at all!! I didn't even have to open the picture up to see that one! Big massive congratulations!!!!! Just scrolled down and saw the digi...no denying that one!!!!

@Alligator how frustrating the tests have been for you! I still see a line on todays test and remember that it takes 2-3 days to double so you are not out yet. Do you have any cheapies you can test with as well? And totally fine to vent, that's what we are here for!

@Bre1990 oh wow hun, that is a long time to be in this journey. Do you think you'll start testing early or try to hold out?

@Bump288 I'm so sorry hun It sounds like you've got a great plan for next month and I hope it brings you your positive!

@Deethehippy OH MY! That sounds just terrifying!! I'm glad you are okay now. Do fibroids cause bleeding like that at all? I don't know much about them but surely there has to be a reason for such a heavy cycle this month. A trip to the sea sounds wonderful and relaxing- you definitely deserve the break!

@Lottielouf 9dpo is super early! I had negatives with my youngest until 11dpo!

@doggylover wahoo for being back in the TWW!!! Do you think you'll test early or hold off until closer to when AF is due?

@Hevalouaddict I'm glad AF is done and gone for you!

@Mummafrog Fingers crossed that your ovulation kickstarts!

@aymz1983 sorry for the rough night of sleep!Hopefully you were able to get more rest last night!

@KitteyKat2010 sounds promising!!!

@Jft1 FX for tomorrow!! Sometimes just getting a test out of the way lets you not worry about it anymore!

@monroea welcome!! I have you updated on the first page. Good luck this cycle!!

@Lightning7 So good to hear from you again hun. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you that AF stays away and you get a blazing BFP on your anniversary!

@topazicatzbet I'm sorry that the witch got you. That's a big positive though that your lp was longer this cycle! Best of luck for your next cycle!

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AFM, temp is starting to rise today and I typically ovulate on my rise so I should see a good jump up tomorrow. Unfortunately DH and I weren't able to DTD last night but we should be able to tonight. I'm feeling kind of down since we didn't get in a BD the day before ovulation. But we did on 4 days/2 days before and assuming tonight, then day of O....hopefully that's enough to catch.

I will hop on tonight to catch up from the day and then will be off for a few days. The boys and I are heading in to see my parents for a few days this weekend. Assuming my mom goes back to work at her preschool, we won't see them again until the end of christmas break. I will try to get on one night after the kids are in bed, but my mom and I usually wind up staying up late talking so no promises! If you don't hear from me, then I will do a big catch up early next week!

 

[Lottielouf]

Finally getting a chance to sit down for a few minutes! Not sure how long it will last but will catch up as quick as I can!

@drudai I'm so sorry that AF got you this month praying that next month is your month!

@tropicsgirl Hopefully next cycle will give you more time to be with your DH! Eating healthy and exercising certainly isn't going to hurt anything and is good for your own personal health. But there are plenty of women who are overweight who get pregnant and go on to have healthy babies as well. I was overweight for my first and then lost 70 pounds before getting pregnant with my second...it took us 3 months with my oldest and caught first month with my youngest, so not really a lot of difference. I think I read before that if a woman is overweight/obese it can mess with her hormone balance/cycle....but I don't think that's true for everyone.

@Rebaby Hopefully next month being your first proper month trying will bring you a BFP!

@elencor it's hard to tell for me with your picture when i zoom in. Hopefully Friday will bring a clear BFP!

@amaibee WOW!! NOT a squinter at all!! I didn't even have to open the picture up to see that one! Big massive congratulations!!!!! Just scrolled down and saw the digi...no denying that one!!!!

@Alligator how frustrating the tests have been for you! I still see a line on todays test and remember that it takes 2-3 days to double so you are not out yet. Do you have any cheapies you can test with as well? And totally fine to vent, that's what we are here for!

@Bre1990 oh wow hun, that is a long time to be in this journey. Do you think you'll start testing early or try to hold out?

@Bump288 I'm so sorry hun It sounds like you've got a great plan for next month and I hope it brings you your positive!

@Deethehippy OH MY! That sounds just terrifying!! I'm glad you are okay now. Do fibroids cause bleeding like that at all? I don't know much about them but surely there has to be a reason for such a heavy cycle this month. A trip to the sea sounds wonderful and relaxing- you definitely deserve the break!

@Lottielouf 9dpo is super early! I had negatives with my youngest until 11dpo!

@doggylover wahoo for being back in the TWW!!! Do you think you'll test early or hold off until closer to when AF is due?

@Hevalouaddict I'm glad AF is done and gone for you!

@Mummafrog Fingers crossed that your ovulation kickstarts!

@aymz1983 sorry for the rough night of sleep!Hopefully you were able to get more rest last night!

@KitteyKat2010 sounds promising!!!

@Jft1 FX for tomorrow!! Sometimes just getting a test out of the way lets you not worry about it anymore!

@monroea welcome!! I have you updated on the first page. Good luck this cycle!!

@Lightning7 So good to hear from you again hun. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you that AF stays away and you get a blazing BFP on your anniversary!

@topazicatzbet I'm sorry that the witch got you. That's a big positive though that your lp was longer this cycle! Best of luck for your next cycle!

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AFM, temp is starting to rise today and I typically ovulate on my rise so I should see a good jump up tomorrow. Unfortunately DH and I weren't able to DTD last night but we should be able to tonight. I'm feeling kind of down since we didn't get in a BD the day before ovulation. But we did on 4 days/2 days before and assuming tonight, then day of O....hopefully that's enough to catch.

I will hop on tonight to catch up from the day and then will be off for a few days. The boys and I are heading in to see my parents for a few days this weekend. Assuming my mom goes back to work at her preschool, we won't see them again until the end of christmas break. I will try to get on one night after the kids are in bed, but my mom and I usually wind up staying up late talking so no promises! If you don't hear from me, then I will do a big catch up early next week!

fingers crossed you manage to catch the egg!xx

 

[Deethehippy]

kksy9B - Have a nice time at your parents house, it's always great to catch up with close loved ones. I think we always worry if we have BD'ed enough but it only takes once during the fertile period so fingers crossed. Thank you for your detailed replies to everyone..it's really sweet of you!

 

[Nixnax]

@Alligator oh bless your DH. Mine is the same blows hot and cold about it. Hope he comes back around soon.

AFM - yesterday was a down day. I got the positive opk but hubby couldn't do it. His mental state blocking it. Had my appt with the clinic yesterday, my ovarian reserve is very good for my age. 16.5 I think the number was. They asked me to go in for a scan today. Saw my lovely ovaries and eggs. She pointed out a 16mm follicle on my left and a 20mm on my right ready to pop out. I have an xray to check my tubes next month.

I've just started getting ovulation pains so just AI'd. Only managed 2 this month. 2 days before ovulation and day of.

I'll be in the tww tomorrow, finally

 

[Bevziibubble]

@Nixnax Good luck!

 

[kksy9b]

@Alligator oh bless your DH. Mine is the same blows hot and cold about it. Hope he comes back around soon.

AFM - yesterday was a down day. I got the positive opk but hubby couldn't do it. His mental state blocking it. Had my appt with the clinic yesterday, my ovarian reserve is very good for my age. 16.5 I think the number was. They asked me to go in for a scan today. Saw my lovely ovaries and eggs. She pointed out a 16mm follicle on my left and a 20mm on my right ready to pop out. I have an xray to check my tubes next month.

I've just started getting ovulation pains so just AI'd. Only managed 2 this month. 2 days before ovulation and day of.

I'll be in the tww tomorrow, finally

Good luck!! Sounds so similar to me this month! We were able to have sex 4 days (assuming any sperm are still alive), 2 days and hopefully tonight- day of. Fingers crossed for both of us this month!! I'll join you in the TWW tomorrow!

 

[Alligator]

Thanks ladies - did take an IC and it's BFN. I think I've got to be out. I know you aren't until AF arrives but at 12dpo I would likely have a clearer line on sensitive tests by now! Just crappy. I swear FRER are evil! I won't use them until I get a clearer line on another test for sure

I'm hoping my husband comes around and I think he will, he's just been in a bad head space lately and I have at least 2 weeks to get him there. I think he knows how important this is to me and I believe he does want it to, he's just getting anxious with external factors and obvious covid and financial worries. But those will be there for some time and we can't delay forever. I'm 34 this year which I know is still quite young but I have high risk pregnancies!

 

[kksy9b]

 

[Bevziibubble]

 

[doggylover]

Congratulations to those with bfp. Looking forward to seeing line progressions. Sorry to those that the got.

She got me this morning which gave me an 11 day lp. Much better than last months 8 days after the mmc. Looking forward to getting back in the game this cycle just hope I don't have to wait so long for ovulation and my cycle can settle back down to its reliable self.

Sorry about AF but great news your LP was longer this month. Fingers crossed for the same or longer next cycle.

Finally getting a chance to sit down for a few minutes! Not sure how long it will last but will catch up as quick as I can!

@drudai I'm so sorry that AF got you this month praying that next month is your month!

@tropicsgirl Hopefully next cycle will give you more time to be with your DH! Eating healthy and exercising certainly isn't going to hurt anything and is good for your own personal health. But there are plenty of women who are overweight who get pregnant and go on to have healthy babies as well. I was overweight for my first and then lost 70 pounds before getting pregnant with my second...it took us 3 months with my oldest and caught first month with my youngest, so not really a lot of difference. I think I read before that if a woman is overweight/obese it can mess with her hormone balance/cycle....but I don't think that's true for everyone.

@Rebaby Hopefully next month being your first proper month trying will bring you a BFP!

@elencor it's hard to tell for me with your picture when i zoom in. Hopefully Friday will bring a clear BFP!

@amaibee WOW!! NOT a squinter at all!! I didn't even have to open the picture up to see that one! Big massive congratulations!!!!! Just scrolled down and saw the digi...no denying that one!!!!

@Alligator how frustrating the tests have been for you! I still see a line on todays test and remember that it takes 2-3 days to double so you are not out yet. Do you have any cheapies you can test with as well? And totally fine to vent, that's what we are here for!

@Bre1990 oh wow hun, that is a long time to be in this journey. Do you think you'll start testing early or try to hold out?

@Bump288 I'm so sorry hun It sounds like you've got a great plan for next month and I hope it brings you your positive!

@Deethehippy OH MY! That sounds just terrifying!! I'm glad you are okay now. Do fibroids cause bleeding like that at all? I don't know much about them but surely there has to be a reason for such a heavy cycle this month. A trip to the sea sounds wonderful and relaxing- you definitely deserve the break!

@Lottielouf 9dpo is super early! I had negatives with my youngest until 11dpo!

@doggylover wahoo for being back in the TWW!!! Do you think you'll test early or hold off until closer to when AF is due?

@Hevalouaddict I'm glad AF is done and gone for you!

@Mummafrog Fingers crossed that your ovulation kickstarts!

@aymz1983 sorry for the rough night of sleep!Hopefully you were able to get more rest last night!

@KitteyKat2010 sounds promising!!!

@Jft1 FX for tomorrow!! Sometimes just getting a test out of the way lets you not worry about it anymore!

@monroea welcome!! I have you updated on the first page. Good luck this cycle!!

@Lightning7 So good to hear from you again hun. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you that AF stays away and you get a blazing BFP on your anniversary!

@topazicatzbet I'm sorry that the witch got you. That's a big positive though that your lp was longer this cycle! Best of luck for your next cycle!

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AFM, temp is starting to rise today and I typically ovulate on my rise so I should see a good jump up tomorrow. Unfortunately DH and I weren't able to DTD last night but we should be able to tonight. I'm feeling kind of down since we didn't get in a BD the day before ovulation. But we did on 4 days/2 days before and assuming tonight, then day of O....hopefully that's enough to catch.

I will hop on tonight to catch up from the day and then will be off for a few days. The boys and I are heading in to see my parents for a few days this weekend. Assuming my mom goes back to work at her preschool, we won't see them again until the end of christmas break. I will try to get on one night after the kids are in bed, but my mom and I usually wind up staying up late talking so no promises! If you don't hear from me, then I will do a big catch up early next week!

Enjoy your time away!! Fingers crossed those every other day BD sessions will do it!

Thanks ladies - did take an IC and it's BFN. I think I've got to be out. I know you aren't until AF arrives but at 12dpo I would likely have a clearer line on sensitive tests by now! Just crappy. I swear FRER are evil! I won't use them until I get a clearer line on another test for sure

I'm hoping my husband comes around and I think he will, he's just been in a bad head space lately and I have at least 2 weeks to get him there. I think he knows how important this is to me and I believe he does want it to, he's just getting anxious with external factors and obvious covid and financial worries. But those will be there for some time and we can't delay forever. I'm 34 this year which I know is still quite young but I have high risk pregnancies!

I’m so sorry about bfn. How cruel that the lines were so clear on the frer. I’m also sorry about the worrying time you’re facing with DH and the uncertainty of his mental health and what he wants in regards to another baby. My husband is self employed and only gets paid when he works too, and I work as a substitute teacher so don’t always get lots of work so he has been quite cautious about another baby for the same reason. I had a very clear chat with him though saying he either agreed and we went for it or he didn’t, and I would let it go. I needed to have my answer for sure, the uncertainty was so hard to deal with. I hope things settle for him and you soon

 

[Alligator]

Sorry about AF but great news your LP was longer this month. Fingers crossed for the same or longer next cycle.



Enjoy your time away!! Fingers crossed those every other day BD sessions will do it!



I’m so sorry about bfn. How cruel that the lines were so clear on the frer. I’m also sorry about the worrying time you’re facing with DH and the uncertainty of his mental health and what he wants in regards to another baby. My husband is self employed and only gets paid when he works too, and I work as a substitute teacher so don’t always get lots of work so he has been quite cautious about another baby for the same reason. I had a very clear chat with him though saying he either agreed and we went for it or he didn’t, and I would let it go. I needed to have my answer for sure, the uncertainty was so hard to deal with. I hope things settle for him and you soon

Thanks girl! I think I will try to relax about it for a day or two, and let him have some mental space to sort through his own thoughts. He tends to come around to things when he's had some time and space and I know I caught him on a rough moment/week. He is going golfing this week, and has a social distance visit with his friends so i hope that will calm him and clear his mind some to get him more relaxed and less stressed. It's really important to me and we always talked about 2 kids, so...I feel like for me it has to happen and I'll be crushed if he puts the brakes on it.

 

[Nixnax]

@kksy9b yay cycle buddies. Biggest luck to you.

Hope everyone is doing OK

 

[Bre1990]

Last time I started testing 8dpt and got faint positives and than AF came 10dpt so I think I'm gonna hold out because the trigger shot.

Although I'm already worried as yesterday I had bleeding and today I have brown discharge so idk ☹