Aussies trying to get duffered aged 20+ !!!

[Mum 2 Quigley]

melainey - that's a joke isn't it. You would hope in a time like that someone would be warm and caring and give you the support you need. lucky DH was there to help you through it and get your health checked out too!!

Angel - yay!! how exciting! I will be looking forward to the morning even more now!!!

Jayne - good luck for getting your test! It's getting to the point where the impatience kicks in! Try to stay strong, you will get your BFP soon, I know it!!! and I hope its sooner rather than later so we can see some 'crazy lady with a piss stick' action at the doctors office! hahaha

Lisa - you've got a good hubby helping you our with tests!!

LLPM - so sorry you're having a shitty day! I have been having one of those weeks! I hope you can perk up a bit - I found that ice creams helped...the ones that are covered in chocolate! haha but seriously, if you need a rant, just let it all out!!

I used to have facebook, but it just became an extra tool for my DH's ex (baby's mum) to get into our lives...and we were over it, so have never been back on. I don't miss it at all. but I tend to be the kind of person who thinks 'if they wanna be my friend they'll call me'... lol I haven't ever lived overseas or anything, so don't really have friends all over the place. and I find that most of the people on there are just people I used to know at school trying to catch up on gossip...and I'm not into people knowing my stuff unless I want them to. Like you guys....I tell you everything!! hahaha

 

[Trying2b2mums]

BACK!!!
Just read everything and basically immediately forgot all of it!!!
Except- think i read that Angel is going to POAS tomorrow
And, Jayne- soo happy for you !!! FX!!!!
Facebook is awesome when you're living overseas from family, that and skype, i wouldnt survive without it!
Llmp- tomorrow WILL be a better day, and then its your birthday!!! YAY!!!!

Yeah Im hoping that skype will make things easier! Not as hopeful now as just went to the loo and cm was beige with what looked like veins of dark brown! Booooo!!! I've got really high hopes for newbie and angel tho!!

Jayne- from what i've read, yellow/beige/light brown is not all that uncommon in 'early preg'. Other women have reported it, and they were already with bfps, or got them soon after, so stay positive!!! And... it could also mean dehydration, so drink up!!!

 

[LLPM]

Thanks Cathie & 2mums! Hope BS is good angel...I'm leading our mums one tomorrow, crapping myself even though I know it'll be fine! Lol.
Tomorrow shoud be fun... Going out to a friends place for dinner then off out to max Brennar with the hubs!! Liam's actually not going to be around for the weekend, he's doing coffee at a conference (heard of reachout Cathie?) so I'm spending my birthday on my own (well with my littlies keeping me busy!) I realized yesterday that I'm not going to have a car for the whole weekend too which sucks!
Glad I have you ladies to keep me entertained and laughing (Melainey you hoot!! *insert owl emoticon here!*)
you all make me happy

 

[Melainey]

I'm not having too nice of a day either.. Don't know if DH really wants a baby at the moment I am heartbroken Just want to cry... He wants to bemore financially stable which is understandable but we have been trying for a year and now he tells me this? Heartbroken isn't even the word... Just want to curl up in a ball somewhere and waste away

Anyway enough whinging out of me... I could be dying after all haha

What's everybody doing?

 

[LLPM]

LLPM - so sorry you're having a shitty day! I have been having one of those weeks! I hope you can perk up a bit - I found that ice creams helped...the ones that are covered in chocolate! haha but seriously, if you need a rant, just let it all out!!

have already finished off the tub of conossuer (well Aldis version - its awesome by the way!!)

 

[Trying2b2mums]

Melainey- just keep when its right for you it will happen, and warn DH that no one is ever truly ready to raise another human being, ready for that responsibility, ready to take on the challenges, its something you just do, your ready when it happens, and you take it as it comes, and there are plenty of people who have children and a 'successful' family who aren't rolling in money! Kids are expensive, but thats never going to change!

 

[Trying2b2mums]

LLPM - so sorry you're having a shitty day! I have been having one of those weeks! I hope you can perk up a bit - I found that ice creams helped...the ones that are covered in chocolate! haha but seriously, if you need a rant, just let it all out!!

have already finished off the tub of conossuer (well Aldis version - its awesome by the way!!)

yum! i'll have to try that one! I splurged and got the dark choc mint tim tams, omgoodness!!!! so delicious!!! must be having one after dinner, which is almost ready - i slept a little too long

 

[Melainey]

Thanks 2mums I already tried to tell him this but because he doesn't have his dream job of earning 150K a year we're not ready! All I have ever wanted was babies and I can't even do that right looking more infertile every month it comes back negative and now he pretty much wants to stop... I feel useless as a woman haha! I think you got it right 2mums cause I will never understand men !

 

[LLPM]

I'm not having too nice of a day either.. Don't know if DH really wants a baby at the moment I am heartbroken Just want to cry... He wants to bemore financially stable which is understandable but we have been trying for a year and now he tells me this? Heartbroken isn't even the word... Just want to curl up in a ball somewhere and waste away

Anyway enough whinging out of me... I could be dying after all haha

What's everybody doing?

Oh Melainey! That's such a downer! Don't stress...it's really common (especially for guys to feel that way!), I think it's really sad that society tells us we need to be financially stable before kids - its so drilled into us that we need to have a nice car, nice house, be able to afford a beautiful pram and send them a lovely preschool etc. Poppy was born when I was 20 & DH was 21, he's now a student and I stay at home. We don't have a lot (compared to other sydney-siders!)but we love learning life with our kids in tow, sometimes I wonder how we'll keep plodding through life & afford all the stuff we 'need' but we've never gone without! Really hope he comes around. I think guys are so daunted about the change a baby brings to your life, but once they hear baby's heartbeat or hold their very own baby for the first time they never look back!

 

[SJayne22]

BACK!!!
Just read everything and basically immediately forgot all of it!!!
Except- think i read that Angel is going to POAS tomorrow
And, Jayne- soo happy for you !!! FX!!!!
Facebook is awesome when you're living overseas from family, that and skype, i wouldnt survive without it!
Llmp- tomorrow WILL be a better day, and then its your birthday!!! YAY!!!!

Yeah Im hoping that skype will make things easier! Not as hopeful now as just went to the loo and cm was beige with what looked like veins of dark brown! Booooo!!! I've got really high hopes for newbie and angel tho!!

Jayne- from what i've read, yellow/beige/light brown is not all that uncommon in 'early preg'. Other women have reported it, and they were already with bfps, or got them soon after, so stay positive!!! And... it could also mean dehydration, so drink up!!!

Thanks! It has gone again now but who knows! Just been talking to the girl who is pregnant in my office and she wasn't even trying, she has even said before that she doesn't even like children!!! I'm happy for her but makes me angry that she has been so lucky

 

[Melainey]

Thank you guys so much I really do love you all

My mother and father had little or no money raising us and I had the most fantastic upbringing.... Same as DH so you would think that he would feel the same.. And this ttc business is really helping with life at the moment ( not seeing your family for almost 3 years does a lot to a woman) and it's keeping my mind focused on the good things instead of the bad things but hejust doesn't get that... And I believe that everything happens for a reason soif baby comes along now that'show it is meant to happen... Men are silly

 

[Trying2b2mums]

Llmp- that was said perfectly, and i think you are 100% correct, most of what your children need from you is not monetarily based anyhow, i mean of course the basics, but as long as there is love, and happiness, everyone is good!!!

And melainey- like i said, you are a horny little leprechaun, so keep at it and dont tell him when it matters, just do it all month long, before you know it it'll catch that egg, and like Llmp said, he'll come around as soon as he sees the U/S/ hears the heartbeat, feels it kick, and he'll become a giant sook!! But yeah sometimes its easier, women understand each other more, but then there are those time when we're crazy bitches and the house goes off!! Take the not trying, not preventing approach with him!!

 

[Melainey]

Oh gosh I could imagine when it's time for AF with you both there would be blue murder hahaha!! Do you get the same cycles??? I find when I live with women that I take on their cycles or they mine

Thank you ladies.. I will continue to temp etc... But not tell him I'm gona make him feel so bad about this!!!!!

 

[Trying2b2mums]

not so much AF bc it takes so much out of me, i just want to sleep, but just general stress and petty shit can get blown out of hand quickly, but the great thing is our communication is wonderful so we talk most things out, no huge fights, just bitchiness sometimes

good one ya keep

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

oohhh melainey....your poor little darling! I hope you're ok! I can't begin to imagine what that conversation felt like! Maybe he has had too much time to over-think and has thought 'fuck - I'm gonna be a dad!' it's pretty scary stuff when you stop & think, I myself have had that stomach turn/butterflies feeling when I have thought 'wow...I really could be pregnant, then it would all be real'... it's confronting, but straight away I knew it's what I want even though it's a scary thing. He will come around again, I'm sure of it! He just needs time to get his head around it all again. I think if you slowly start to talk about it again he will change his mind. Maybe spell it out for him - you want a family of your own as you are away from your family. You'll be ok my gorgeous girl!!! cheer up!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

 

[Mum 2 Quigley]

Jayne - I know exactly what you mean - a girl who came to my wedding was 6 months pregnant, and she always sais she would never have kids young, she wants to live first... and she was even joking about how their 'oops' happened. I'm still thrilled for them, but so gutted at the same time - terrible, I know, but I often look at people and think 'why them & not me...especially to the people who treat their children badly, or use them to get at the men in their lives etc. still bad, but it's hard not to feel jealous when you want so badly what they have,..

 

[SJayne22]

Hope you are ok Melainey! I sometimes get worried that dh doesn't want this as much as I do but he says that it probably isn;t possible for him too! When they don't get excited that your temp has gone up slightly I have my doubts but he said the other day that of course I'd be excited because it's happening to my body! We had a serious chat about it the other day and he didn't realise that he was giving me the impression that he's not bothered, he says he was just trying not to get excited until the . I told him that its a journey for both of us and if you get your hopes up its much easier to be disappointed with each others support. So now he is trying to get into it! I showed him my post on here and his mind is blown by the short hand abbreviations lol had to translate! I think when you get your he will surprise you!

 

[LLPM]

Maybe you could have a chat with him? (is he the chatty type?) I gues you just need to be honest with him about you feel! You could maybe suggest taking a slower approach (not trying not preventing!) that might give him time to get his head around it and also feel like you've accepted his opinion! I always find with liam he just wants me to be honest, guys can handle it...

 

[SJayne22]

Jayne - I know exactly what you mean - a girl who came to my wedding was 6 months pregnant, and she always sais she would never have kids young, she wants to live first... and she was even joking about how their 'oops' happened. I'm still thrilled for them, but so gutted at the same time - terrible, I know, but I often look at people and think 'why them & not me...especially to the people who treat their children badly, or use them to get at the men in their lives etc. still bad, but it's hard not to feel jealous when you want so badly what they have,..

Thanks! I know, I feel like a terrible human being for being jealous but I just want it so badly! Hope its us soon!!!

 

[Trying2b2mums]

Jayne- happy for you that your DH is now getting more on board and being supportive. I think Melaineys will be the same. Men are hot and cold like that, i know im not with one, but ive dealt with enough of them, and seen my friends' and my sisters hubby. They try to say the right thing, and sometimes they fail miserably and dont understand why 'we' got upset by it! Good for you guys for talking it through!! Still have my FX for you this month!!!!