Eoz
Mummy of 5! Eeek!
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I really do not know where to start.All I want to do is cry
Finally after 8 long months someone has listened and realised my little girl is struggling with life.
I had a baby this year and the health visitor came out to see him but soon noticed Abi was non speaking,in a world of her own and very small for her age.All of which I have pointed out to people before.
She started having very bad tantrums a while back.She hurts herself to the point she draws blood or head butts the walls or floor.She also gets angry and smacks herself in the face over and over.She is very particular with the dvds and spends hours pulling them out,lining them up and putting them all back.She is very sensitive with noise and also hates attention being drawn to her.Ie if i say well done after she spoke a word she collpases in a heap screaming
She only says 4 words.2 of which she now says over and over.She barely eats and has lost almost 3kg in 6 months.She has gone down a size in nappys and clothes.She sleeps lot and spends some days just rolling on the floor.She gets very angry and slaps herself when shes hungry,cold or in pain.I never know which it is
I can not leave her alone for long as she gets up to all sorts.Her new one is smacking the baby and strangling the kitten.I can't let her toddle in to the garden as she puts all sorts in her mouth.We have to lock the bathroom door as she is forever with her hands down the loo.She also has a habit of shutting herself into a room.She is happy and plays alone but then she gets angry she cant get out but if i open the door ready for her to come out she gets upset i have disturbed her.
She does not play with other children.She just plods along in her bubble.She has 3 older brothers and sisters she rarely plays with them unless its just one of them alone.
I tried taking her to the childrens centre to socialise her but this caused all manner of problems.A little boy took her car and she lost control.Unknown to me a play leader saw this and asked a early years sen inclusion teacher to get involved.(Today I got a letter saying they are taking her on and have appointed a support worker for her )
i recieved a letter inviting me to special needs group where Abi could play with children just like her.the difference was amazing.She played alone but enjoyed it and even said 2 words
We have since started speech therapy and have been invited to a group for the next 6 weeeks doing a course called play with words.after this they will try a different approach with her.
As she is so under weight and in general is a tired,pale very uncoordinated little girl the peads have got involved now.
I just feel so overwhelmed by all of this.I have no car at the moment so i am walking every where and getting buses.Sometimes Abi is ok sometimes it causes hell so i just go home and we miss appts.I tried a taxi but she played up badly as she wasn't in a seat.
I have since been told to apply for DLA so i can get a car on the road again .It will help us all in so many different ways.I can take her to woods to play.Take her to more groups aimed at her needs.
Life is so hard at the moment with all of this and i am waiting for an op.Also my other kids play up as Abi gets that extra bit of attention so the house is forever in uproar.
Can any one advise me what to do to get a break,support etc.I have no family and no one ever takes the kids to give us all a rest.For the first time in my life i have had to go on anti d's just to hold it all together.
Will DLA think I am playing on it or do I have a strong enough case?
How much help does a SEN teacher give you?
Thanks for listening x
Finally after 8 long months someone has listened and realised my little girl is struggling with life.
I had a baby this year and the health visitor came out to see him but soon noticed Abi was non speaking,in a world of her own and very small for her age.All of which I have pointed out to people before.
She started having very bad tantrums a while back.She hurts herself to the point she draws blood or head butts the walls or floor.She also gets angry and smacks herself in the face over and over.She is very particular with the dvds and spends hours pulling them out,lining them up and putting them all back.She is very sensitive with noise and also hates attention being drawn to her.Ie if i say well done after she spoke a word she collpases in a heap screaming
She only says 4 words.2 of which she now says over and over.She barely eats and has lost almost 3kg in 6 months.She has gone down a size in nappys and clothes.She sleeps lot and spends some days just rolling on the floor.She gets very angry and slaps herself when shes hungry,cold or in pain.I never know which it is
I can not leave her alone for long as she gets up to all sorts.Her new one is smacking the baby and strangling the kitten.I can't let her toddle in to the garden as she puts all sorts in her mouth.We have to lock the bathroom door as she is forever with her hands down the loo.She also has a habit of shutting herself into a room.She is happy and plays alone but then she gets angry she cant get out but if i open the door ready for her to come out she gets upset i have disturbed her.
She does not play with other children.She just plods along in her bubble.She has 3 older brothers and sisters she rarely plays with them unless its just one of them alone.
I tried taking her to the childrens centre to socialise her but this caused all manner of problems.A little boy took her car and she lost control.Unknown to me a play leader saw this and asked a early years sen inclusion teacher to get involved.(Today I got a letter saying they are taking her on and have appointed a support worker for her )
i recieved a letter inviting me to special needs group where Abi could play with children just like her.the difference was amazing.She played alone but enjoyed it and even said 2 words
We have since started speech therapy and have been invited to a group for the next 6 weeeks doing a course called play with words.after this they will try a different approach with her.
As she is so under weight and in general is a tired,pale very uncoordinated little girl the peads have got involved now.
I just feel so overwhelmed by all of this.I have no car at the moment so i am walking every where and getting buses.Sometimes Abi is ok sometimes it causes hell so i just go home and we miss appts.I tried a taxi but she played up badly as she wasn't in a seat.
I have since been told to apply for DLA so i can get a car on the road again .It will help us all in so many different ways.I can take her to woods to play.Take her to more groups aimed at her needs.
Life is so hard at the moment with all of this and i am waiting for an op.Also my other kids play up as Abi gets that extra bit of attention so the house is forever in uproar.
Can any one advise me what to do to get a break,support etc.I have no family and no one ever takes the kids to give us all a rest.For the first time in my life i have had to go on anti d's just to hold it all together.
Will DLA think I am playing on it or do I have a strong enough case?
How much help does a SEN teacher give you?
Thanks for listening x