Kinoley
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I have 4 weeks to d-day and OH and I have reached a stand off on the baby's name. I've been making suggestions for months but we got no where.
But a couple of weeks ago OH said he decided he wanted to give the baby the middle after his father who is passed away. It sounds reasonable enough except that his father was a very aggressive and destructive man with a life long drinking problem. He made MIL's life hell and did everything he could to belittle his children as they grew up. In the end he died a sad lonely old man with a lot of regrets. My OH was the only family member who visited or had any time for him. The problem I have is that I don't think it's appropriate to name our baby after someone who was such a negative influence in the family. I also don't think it's fair to MIL and the others to reward FIL with a name sake after the way he treated them. I told OH that I didn't like the idea but didn't want to be insulting about it. He said its what he wants so were not discussing names now. Am I being unreasonable? How can I get OH to see my Point without hurting his feelings?
But a couple of weeks ago OH said he decided he wanted to give the baby the middle after his father who is passed away. It sounds reasonable enough except that his father was a very aggressive and destructive man with a life long drinking problem. He made MIL's life hell and did everything he could to belittle his children as they grew up. In the end he died a sad lonely old man with a lot of regrets. My OH was the only family member who visited or had any time for him. The problem I have is that I don't think it's appropriate to name our baby after someone who was such a negative influence in the family. I also don't think it's fair to MIL and the others to reward FIL with a name sake after the way he treated them. I told OH that I didn't like the idea but didn't want to be insulting about it. He said its what he wants so were not discussing names now. Am I being unreasonable? How can I get OH to see my Point without hurting his feelings?