WantsALittle1
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I had a growth scan yesterday and little man is in the 93rd percentile for 24+3. He is 1lb 14oz. As I was leaving, the doctor said I really need to get the GD test, which is scheduled on the 23rd. My husband and his brother were both 10+ lbs at birth. Their father was also 10+ lbs. MIL was 9+ lbs. Big babies are definitely in the genes, and MIL also had borderline GD.
I have a maternal history of pelvic prolapse, and have mild prolapse myself after carrying DD to only 31 weeks. I was planning for a VBAC as long as LO is a reasonable size, but he's on track to be a 9-10 lb baby so I'm leaning more toward a repeat C-section because I don't want to be incontinent at the ripe age of 32, well... any more than I already am MIL was giving me a hard time about carrying this baby to 40+ weeks, saying things like "don't you want his brain to develop?" "you can handle it" "10lb babies come out really quickly" "you need to keep him in there until 40 weeks--I carried *** until I was 3 days overdue..."
I really don't appreciate that, as she doesn't have a history of prolapse, nor did she have the extreme back problems, anemia, and other pregnancy-related ailments that I have. His brain will develop, whether outside the womb at 39 weeks or inside the womb at 39 weeks. Yes, there is a minutely elevated risk for breathing problems and temperature regulation at 39 weeks but I am not concerned as the odds of survival and lifelong thriving for a 39-weeker are essentially equal to those of a 40-weeker. I've got a daughter and husband to take care of, and do not want to damage my back permanently or need a mesh (my mom had several) or hysterectomy later on from prolapse caused by birthing a very large baby. My back pain is so bad that I can barely sleep, and am on muscle relaxers. I can barely lift DD, and so carrying LO for one less week would honestly make a world of difference for me.
I would be happy if our little man came out on his own at 37+ weeks, and if he doesn't come out on his own time, I am leaning toward a scheduled C-section at 39 weeks. I know that some people are going to come on here and tell me that I need to carry to 40 weeks but frankly, I can't do that when LO is projected to be 10+ lbs. I do not want to be cripple or pee/poo myself for the rest of my life when my son's chances of survival are virtually the same at 39 weeks as they are at 40. I wish MIL would lay off. I am NOT her, not built like her. I am a distinct individual bringing my own biology and family history to this pregnancy, and I'm no less of a woman if I cannot birth a 10-lb baby without risking disability for the rest of my life! If we were in the ancestral environment, I would HAVE to birth this child vaginally but we are not. We have technology that can save me a lot of suffering in the long run and I don't think it's bad to use it. End rant!
I have a maternal history of pelvic prolapse, and have mild prolapse myself after carrying DD to only 31 weeks. I was planning for a VBAC as long as LO is a reasonable size, but he's on track to be a 9-10 lb baby so I'm leaning more toward a repeat C-section because I don't want to be incontinent at the ripe age of 32, well... any more than I already am MIL was giving me a hard time about carrying this baby to 40+ weeks, saying things like "don't you want his brain to develop?" "you can handle it" "10lb babies come out really quickly" "you need to keep him in there until 40 weeks--I carried *** until I was 3 days overdue..."
I really don't appreciate that, as she doesn't have a history of prolapse, nor did she have the extreme back problems, anemia, and other pregnancy-related ailments that I have. His brain will develop, whether outside the womb at 39 weeks or inside the womb at 39 weeks. Yes, there is a minutely elevated risk for breathing problems and temperature regulation at 39 weeks but I am not concerned as the odds of survival and lifelong thriving for a 39-weeker are essentially equal to those of a 40-weeker. I've got a daughter and husband to take care of, and do not want to damage my back permanently or need a mesh (my mom had several) or hysterectomy later on from prolapse caused by birthing a very large baby. My back pain is so bad that I can barely sleep, and am on muscle relaxers. I can barely lift DD, and so carrying LO for one less week would honestly make a world of difference for me.
I would be happy if our little man came out on his own at 37+ weeks, and if he doesn't come out on his own time, I am leaning toward a scheduled C-section at 39 weeks. I know that some people are going to come on here and tell me that I need to carry to 40 weeks but frankly, I can't do that when LO is projected to be 10+ lbs. I do not want to be cripple or pee/poo myself for the rest of my life when my son's chances of survival are virtually the same at 39 weeks as they are at 40. I wish MIL would lay off. I am NOT her, not built like her. I am a distinct individual bringing my own biology and family history to this pregnancy, and I'm no less of a woman if I cannot birth a 10-lb baby without risking disability for the rest of my life! If we were in the ancestral environment, I would HAVE to birth this child vaginally but we are not. We have technology that can save me a lot of suffering in the long run and I don't think it's bad to use it. End rant!