BebVern
3 MC, on a break (TTC #1)
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I can't be the only person out there that hates them, right?
(Warning: this is going to be a bit of a rant.)
The whole idea of them just doesn't sit well with me. It all seems like a party of self-gratification; expectant mothers have attention and gifts lavished upon them, play games that are 'forced fun' and invitees are welcome on an invite-only basis. If you don't want to attend, do you hate children? Don't you see your friend's pregnancy as special?
I get the whole, 'But I just wanted to share my joy with my friends/family/colleagues' thing. Really, I do. But why does anyone need a party and gifts to do that? People coming to the shower feel obliged to bring a gift. Their gift has to be stand-out from the rest and memorable, as it will no doubt be opened in front of EVERYONE and compared to the other gifts...
Surely it's just better to give people a choice? Those that want to (or can afford to) will buy the new baby something once it's born. Even better - they will play an active part in the baby's life as it grows. Those, IMO, are the people worth sharing your joy with...not whoever buys you a Mamas And Papas changing bag for the baby shower.
Obviously, I'm only speaking from experience. I have only been to one baby shower and it was painful. There were about 20 of us there. We were split into groups to play ROUNDS of several games (!!) before being scored and having our gifts opened in RANK ORDER...I realise this probably isn't the norm, so pleasant stories are welcomed.
However, it was enough to convince me that I will nit be having a baby shower for my growing blob.
How many of you are planning baby showers? And if you aren't, then what made you choose not to?![flower :flower: :flower:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/flower.gif)
(Warning: this is going to be a bit of a rant.)
The whole idea of them just doesn't sit well with me. It all seems like a party of self-gratification; expectant mothers have attention and gifts lavished upon them, play games that are 'forced fun' and invitees are welcome on an invite-only basis. If you don't want to attend, do you hate children? Don't you see your friend's pregnancy as special?
I get the whole, 'But I just wanted to share my joy with my friends/family/colleagues' thing. Really, I do. But why does anyone need a party and gifts to do that? People coming to the shower feel obliged to bring a gift. Their gift has to be stand-out from the rest and memorable, as it will no doubt be opened in front of EVERYONE and compared to the other gifts...
Surely it's just better to give people a choice? Those that want to (or can afford to) will buy the new baby something once it's born. Even better - they will play an active part in the baby's life as it grows. Those, IMO, are the people worth sharing your joy with...not whoever buys you a Mamas And Papas changing bag for the baby shower.
Obviously, I'm only speaking from experience. I have only been to one baby shower and it was painful. There were about 20 of us there. We were split into groups to play ROUNDS of several games (!!) before being scored and having our gifts opened in RANK ORDER...I realise this probably isn't the norm, so pleasant stories are welcomed.
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How many of you are planning baby showers? And if you aren't, then what made you choose not to?
![flower :flower: :flower:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/flower.gif)