Bedrest and loneliness

[ttcmoon]

Hey DS welcome to this forum. I would definitely check the books you mentioned. Hugs!!

 

[k4th]

Love it

How big is it? Looks lovely!! Eta - I'm talking about the pic you posted. For some reason it hasn't copied here

Sorry to hear lying on your sides is uncomfortable hope your sewing arrives soon so you have something else to focus on

 

[ttcmoon]

Its 8 inch by 10 inch approx. I am awaiting other similar kits soon. Excited to learn some new patterns!

My lower abdomen tightened quite a few times today and I felt horrible urge to pee. I have taken duvadilan ****** 40mg. Hope its not preterm labour...

 

[leslie405]

After reading your post, I have to say you are a strong woman! being indian myself, I understand how your feel that things are just expected of you. I told myself not to expect much from them, so that way Im prepared when they say things and am not disappointed. Are in interested in movies? I find it a good way to keep my mind occupied. Praying is the one thing that helping me and has always helped me.

 

[k4th]

Its 8 inch by 10 inch approx. I am awaiting other similar kits soon. Excited to learn some new patterns!

My lower abdomen tightened quite a few times today and I felt horrible urge to pee. I have taken duvadilan ****** 40mg. Hope its not preterm labour...

How are you hun? Hope the cramps have stopped

 

[tulip1975]

Wow, your words were really powerful. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through on bedrest. Like you, much of my worth is wrapped up in my career, and my job is what keeps me vital. Having a baby was an expectation of life that I put off forever and then struggled with for 3 years before I finally stopped expensive fertility treatments and gave up.

I don't have any good advice, but I am thinking about you, and I totally understand how frustrated you are. The good news is that this situation has a finite end, and you will be able to stop being a bedridden pregnant person. You will have a baby and will be able to resume your career when it is all over.

And you can use this against your child for the rest of his/her life any time he or she whines too much about life being hard! "You have no idea what I had to go through to get you here, kid!"

 

[Kirsty3051]

Hey :wave:

I don't have time to read through your post at the moment but just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I had lost my plug at 24 weeks, had my labour stopped at 30 weeks, got put on bed rest and ended up delivering at 35 weeks. My little boy is absolutely perfect and I'd do it all over again for the same result. Everything you're going through at the moment won't last forever and will be 120% worth it when you're holding your baby.

I'll come back to read through your thread and all of the posts when I get 5 minutes

 

[ttcmoon]

After reading your post, I have to say you are a strong woman! being indian myself, I understand how your feel that things are just expected of you. I told myself not to expect much from them, so that way Im prepared when they say things and am not disappointed. Are in interested in movies? I find it a good way to keep my mind occupied. Praying is the one thing that helping me and has always helped me.

I watch lots of movies these days. It is actually a way to be occupied without much thinking. I do pray a lot too. But sometimes I tend to lose faith. Prayer calms the mind.
From which part of India you belong to? I am from Hyderabad.
Yes here everything is just expected from women. You cook, clean, birth a child, raise, take care, stay with in laws, treat them like Gods etc etc. No one is actually bothered about what you ho through or your priorities. Everything is prototyped. In a way frustrating. Till the system needs lots of improvement to understand the real strength of a woman.

 

[ttcmoon]

Wow, your words were really powerful. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through on bedrest. Like you, much of my worth is wrapped up in my career, and my job is what keeps me vital. Having a baby was an expectation of life that I put off forever and then struggled with for 3 years before I finally stopped expensive fertility treatments and gave up.

I don't have any good advice, but I am thinking about you, and I totally understand how frustrated you are. The good news is that this situation has a finite end, and you will be able to stop being a bedridden pregnant person. You will have a baby and will be able to resume your career when it is all over.

And you can use this against your child for the rest of his/her life any time he or she whines too much about life being hard! "You have no idea what I had to go through to get you here, kid!"

Thanks dear for your kind word and support. I always found my career as my identity. To me how much I earned was secondary but the privileges of being independent was more important. I must say my husband is very supportive. Here many woman leave jobs just after marriage because of lack of family support. My DH is my shield which helped me to progress.
Baby was a very vital part too. I had my first miscarriage at age of 22. And fertility treatment s from 26..I never understood why I can't do what everyone can. Self acceptance was difficult. People around me kept asking, family pressure for baby was tremendous. I kept trying but no one supported me. They were bothrred about end result and kept blaming my career. Thry thought I prioritize it that is causing the infertility. But it was opposite I was neglecting my career in real. But I was happy with that. All I wanted was a baby along with decent earning.

In office also ladies were like hell. Saying " you can do overtime you anyway dont have a kid", " your in laws still allow you to do job?". The culture is strange here. My mom used to cry over phone all the time. " I am a sinner from last life I don't have grand children". And don't ask about in laws at all. My degrees, my career, my home everything appeared so meager! We bought a home taking loan together only to hear " what is the use without an offspring".

Now when I am pregnant, they comment in such ways about their breezy pregnancy. I feel like alien. I know it is temporary and I am lucky to get hubby beside all the time. And definitely you all. Ladies here are like all time support!

 

[ttcmoon]

Hey :wave:

I don't have time to read through your post at the moment but just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I had lost my plug at 24 weeks, had my labour stopped at 30 weeks, got put on bed rest and ended up delivering at 35 weeks. My little boy is absolutely perfect and I'd do it all over again for the same result. Everything you're going through at the moment won't last forever and will be 120% worth it when you're holding your baby.

I'll come back to read through your thread and all of the posts when I get 5 minutes

Thanks for your experience! I agree it is totally worth. I am grateful to be pregnant. But some peiple just get it like breeze and some struggle forever!
Thanks for stopping by and lending your supportivs hands! I needed it so much...

 

[ttcmoon]

Its 8 inch by 10 inch approx. I am awaiting other similar kits soon. Excited to learn some new patterns!

My lower abdomen tightened quite a few times today and I felt horrible urge to pee. I have taken duvadilan ****** 40mg. Hope its not preterm labour...

How are you hun? Hope the cramps have stopped

Yes sweet, the medicine was helpful. But I dont want to keep taking it. Will ask doctor today.

 

[k4th]

Its 8 inch by 10 inch approx. I am awaiting other similar kits soon. Excited to learn some new patterns!

My lower abdomen tightened quite a few times today and I felt horrible urge to pee. I have taken duvadilan ****** 40mg. Hope its not preterm labour...

How are you hun? Hope the cramps have stopped

Yes sweet, the medicine was helpful. But I dont want to keep taking it. Will ask doctor today.

Phew!! Glad they stopped. Let us know what the dr says today - good luck!!

 

[ttcmoon]

Doctor told to keep taking it for 7 days and then review. She is afraid of PTL. I got a few braxton hicks yesterday which were pretty uncomfortable.
Does it sometimes feel like baby movement? In my case my abdomen changed its shape and got super tight. Mostly around the belly button.

 

[Savasanna]

OHhh - moon! I had no idea you were going through all this!

My heart absolutely broke while reading the pain of your OP. Know that I am sending you loads of strength and positive thoughts thoward your lo. It is so unfair what you are having to go through and I desperately hope there is a rainbow at the end of this storm for you. Bedrest is so hard.. and isolating. You are NOT alone in those feelings. I'm glad you at least have this forum to reach out to. We are all here for you, rooting for you and your pregnancy from around the globe.

Big, BIG to you.

 

[ttcmoon]

Thanks Savasanna. I know you girls are always beside me. That is why I can still stand tall and endure.
This rainbow is much awaited and most desired for his/her parents. I too hope I cross 28th week (and more of course) without any issues.

Hubby is so busy these days. Works till 10. But I am grateful because he is not traveling at least.

 

[Savasanna]

So if I am right, 28 weeks is somewhere around the 21st of February? Also, forgive me as I've not made it past 8 weeks of pregnancy, what does 28 weeks signify?

 

[k4th]

Doctor told to keep taking it for 7 days and then review. She is afraid of PTL. I got a few braxton hicks yesterday which were pretty uncomfortable.
Does it sometimes feel like baby movement? In my case my abdomen changed its shape and got super tight. Mostly around the belly button.

Sounds like Braxton hicks to me. But people can get those at lots of different stages. I'm sure your dr is doing the best for you & your baby

 

[gingmg]

I had no idea you were going through all of this. First off, congratulations on your pregnancy! I have checked in on your journal from time to time and assumed you were still on a break from this site until I saw you in Savasanna's journal. I am sorry you have had such a tough journey to get to where you are. And I am sorry that your pregnancy hasn't been easy or straightforward. I can't imagine how scary it has been. You are a warrior and will get through this!
I started getting BH around 20 weeks too. Are you drinking enough water?
I am glad you have started this thread to get the support that you need throughout the rest of your pregnancy. Hang in there. Hugs!

 

[k4th]

Hey moon

How are you today? Hope you're doing ok & finding something to keep your mind busy. Those days are skipping by - pretty much two weeks left now?

Thinking of you

 

[40isnotold]

You've got this! Close to 2 weeks now!

In the USA, they can do steroids at 24 weeks, with a 50% chance of survival at that point. I was in the hospital for an emergency cerclage at 20 weeks, put on strict bed rest after I was released and am now on partial bed rest. I reached 24 weeks on Tuesday and I was so excited. I will also be relieved if I can make it to 28 weeks or even 32 weeks.

I miss working but I'm just so happy that my babies (I'm having boy/girl twins) are ok. Luckily, I own my own small business and have someone wonderful running it for me so when I'm able to go back to work, I won't have any worries. Now that I'm on partial bed rest, I can do some work at home, but there isn't a whole lot that I can do from home. I've been passing time by reading, watching TV and having a couple of friends visit.

Thanks for sharing your story. I look forward to you telling us about the birth of your little one well after 28 weeks!