With ds2 my oh was there but I hated it. He genuinely moaned I hurt his hand, got moody if I left him to speak to somebody when I was having a contraction, and took the mickey out of me for wiggling my toes which was helping with the pain. When it came to actually delivering the baby I didn't want him to see anything and couldn't relax at all at the thought that he might. If it was up to me I would rather be alone this time but know I can't stop him being there.
Gosh I would kick him out! He's supposed to be your advocate during that time!
I will be alone probably as well. Dh will be at Annual Training right around my due date and my family who is close will have to take care of dd. Oh the joys of being a military so
Tell me about it :/ This underway was added a month ago and they still can't decide if they need him for it or not! Urgh it drives me crazy how they can't stick to plans AT ALL.
My ex was with me during labor and delivery with my first. Honestly, I didn't even really notice him there when I was giving birth lol. Including him, there were 8 people in the room. This time around im gonna be by myself. I have someone watching little one. My sister is 21 weeks pregnant plus has a 3 year old, she's also too squimish. She'd probably pass out lol. Not really comfortable asking anyone else.
8 people is a lot! I guess my issue is also I don't like being so vulnerable in front of others. I don't want them to see me like that. I guess I'm too private.
I can't speak from experience on birthing alone- although it doesn't sound to bad when thinking about it, sometimes I wish it were just me and DH (and not my mom and his mom) but I can speak from being my mothers daughter.
My mom had to give birth alone for my sister (we three have the same father but he didn't officially stay with my mom until the boy, my little brother was born.
Perhaps it was the circumstance , but she called it one of the most depressing time/yet happy of her life. It was a somber mood, is what she had explained it as. She was alone through the whole process but what was harder to take was the time after my sister was born.
My mom is really emotional and sentimental. I'm sure that doesn't help lol
I bet it's probably not the labor and delivery that are the hardest part about being alone, but rather afterwards. When you're overjoyed about your little one but also sad that you don't have anyone to share that with. I know my in laws will be there as soon as I call, and also my DH's cousin and his wife, and a couple of my friends, but none of them are close to me in a way that I can just let go and I guess... be myself? Does that make sense? I don't know maybe I'm being too dramatic about the whole thing, but it just feels awful. I hope it won't come to this, I'd feel so incredibly alone.