Being pregnant with #2 when LO's 15 mths ish.

[tommyg]

Not sure where to post this but guess you mum know what it's like having a toddler. Here is my dilema I would like to TTC #2 but suffered SPD from 22 weeks with LO. It's never completely gone away so I am fairly sure it will return.

At the moment LO is 11 months and hard work (still doesn't STTN) and I am worried how I will cope with pregnancy and him when I get to the uncomfortable stages 5/6 months plus he'd be around 15 mths then.

Is he likely to be able to understand the word NO, will he be easier onces he's on his feet rather than crawling?

 

[smelly07]

I had spd with my 2nd pregnacy (my LO was 3.5 when i got spd with my 2nd and that was hard enough....never had spd with my 1st pregnancy so wasnt expecting it) and its never fully gone, if i over do it i feel it..........although im not having any more so dont have your dilema... having 2 children and my youngest being 2.5 if i was in your situation personally i would wait......the spd i was told would be worse with subsequent pregnacies...... i had an awful 1st pregnacy which was another reason i waited until my daughter was 3 years old before starting to try again and my 2nd pregnancy was just as bad so glad i did x at 3 they are in pre-school, so you have time to rest, they understand better and can do more for themselves.........i couldnt imagine dealing with a pregnacy like mine even now my daughter is 2.5......... i think if you want to go ahead now then you will find a way to cope but personally i couldnt............But i wouldnt do small age gaps even if i had easier pregnancies lol x

 

[tu123]

I am pregnant with my second and LO is nearly 15mths.

Can honestly say that the SPD has weirdly already set in this week. I already feel like a ligament has sprained in my left hip.

I was having to use my hands to lift one leg up a kerb with my last pregnancy, in the later stages, despite physio and a hip brace.

Not looking forward to how this will continue but will hopefully get some early physio in this time.

 

[TaylorsMummyx]

I had such bad spd with second from 6weeks, I ended up on bed rest. I had my 2nd when dd wad 16mths old lol my dd was easier to the end and walked most places, she was foward for her age though x

 

[tommyg]

I am pregnant with my second and LO is nearly 15mths.

Can honestly say that the SPD has weirdly already set in this week. I already feel like a ligament has sprained in my left hip.

I was having to use my hands to lift one leg up a kerb with my last pregnancy, in the later stages, despite physio and a hip brace.

Not looking forward to how this will continue but will hopefully get some early physio in this time.

You've pretty much got the age gap that I'm after. I'm almost 37 so I don't really feel that I have time to wait if that makes sense. I guess you had your doubts too if you were doing the right thing trying for another one so quick. How are you coping with the early tiredness too?

 

[Torz]

I didnt have SPD during my first pregnancy so thats not something i can help you with but as you can see from my ticker LO is almost 18 months & i'm 11 weeks pregnant. I can honestly say that been pregnant while having a toddler is the hardest thing i have ever done in my life. Obviously i havent got to the bigger stages yet but the 1st trimester has been awful. I dont really feel any worse than what i did in my first pregnancy it just feels like it because i have to run about after an energetic toddler, i'm finding the tiredness really hard, especially as LO is not sttn.

 

[sun]

I had SPD with both pregnancies and mine started much earlier with #2, but it didn't get as bad. Lots more fatigue with #2 too because there is no napping or relaxing when you are chasing a toddler who wants your attention every second.

As for understanding no etc, it is hard to say because they are all so different at that age. Some are very easygoing and want to please, and others not so much.

 

[LilDreamy]

I've never had SPD, but I am almost 10 weeks pregnant and my toddler is 15 months old and pretty much living like a single parent for now, OH lives 5 hours away until we get married and together right before our 2nd is born.

It isn't easy at all. I've been so sick and throwing up daily with a toddler tugging on my pants to play while barfing my life away. Sorry tmi.
I thought being a single parent with a newborn was the hardest thing ever... But being pregnant with a Toddler as a single parent is the hardest thing ever, and will luckily be home with family when I get nice and ripe.

But just think... It's only 8 months... Since the first month is just conceiving. And having two so close for a lifetime, is worth it.

At that age,your little one should be walking and a bit easier to handle and keep entertained. I'm not familiar with SPD... But maybe you won't get it this time around?
and just think.. Each age has it's own challenges. So being pregnant with a toddler, child, or teenager all have it's plus and minuses.

GL!

 

[LPF]

My lo is just 14 months and tbh - hard work!!!

He's just started taking steps today and the next few weeks will be hard while he ges to grips with it. He's quite defiant but doesn't get 'no' at all! We are often on the floor playing with him and have to carry him a lot so it's quite physical.

I had a totally fine pregnancy and couldn't cope at the moment - but it really comes down to how your lo is - ie walking early, placid in nature etc.

 

[pinkandfluffy]

I'm at the early (tired) stage of pregnancy. With my first pregnancy I was in bed sleeping a lot for first tri! SOmehow I'm finding energy reserves when I have to (my LO does NOT sleep thru or even close) but I have brilliant helpful parents / in laws who are helping me with the 18 month old!

He's also been walking well for 9 months now so I'm not having to lift or carry him much!

I figured there was never going to be a good time so we are giving it a go :-/ but I do have a lot of help nearby if I need it x

 

[tu123]

I am pregnant with my second and LO is nearly 15mths.

Can honestly say that the SPD has weirdly already set in this week. I already feel like a ligament has sprained in my left hip.

I was having to use my hands to lift one leg up a kerb with my last pregnancy, in the later stages, despite physio and a hip brace.

Not looking forward to how this will continue but will hopefully get some early physio in this time.

You've pretty much got the age gap that I'm after. I'm almost 37 so I don't really feel that I have time to wait if that makes sense. I guess you had your doubts too if you were doing the right thing trying for another one so quick. How are you coping with the early tiredness too?

I knew there was a high chance of it again, but a sacrifice to make. I am getting on a bit too And hubby is nearly 40. We dont want the late nights past 40!

I have an Obst' appointment on monday and i will ask for a referral to physio then. Hopefully i can do something early on to help as it gets worse.

The tiredness was awful in the first few weeks, but easier now. Hubby is working away for the next 4 weeks. TBH, i am finding it easier with not having to buy groceries for his meat and two veg, im not cooking (because i have major food aversions with my MS), not preparing his lunches, etc. I am just relaxing once LO is in bed and then i am off to bed early at 10. I actually think i could sleep at 9 if i tried.

LO has recently started sleep a good 12 hrs without any stress before bed so i am thankful we have come to a good place as far as her sleep is concerned. I am getting a good 7hrs!

 

[tommyg]

Thank you ladies, I guess no matter when I do it pregnancy is going to be hard but as somebody said it's only 8 months for a life time of togetherness. Think I've concluded I need to wean him off the boob. Then see what happens.

 

[Bumpontherun]

I got pregnant with sally just before helen was 1. I had SPD both times, with sally it started at 9wks but I was really careful about what I did and it never got as bad. I was still taking H to tumble tots up to about 6 months then could barely move for the rest of the day! Helen coped pretty well with my pregnancy, she was generally happy to play on the floor or read stories and accepted that for the last 8 weeks or so if she wanted carried daddy would do it. The tiredness was bad but not as bad. Now sally is 4 months and pregnancy is a dim and distant memory I would say I'm really glad we didn't wait.