Birth Certificate question

[KaeRit21]

can i ask a birth cert qu?....

babys getting my surname, but the FOB (ill play nice and call him that for now) wants to go on the birth cert...if the fathers name is on it, do they still let you register bubs in your own name?

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[lou_w34]

Yeps, baby can have any name you wish to give them, regardless of the dad being on the birth certificate, so if you do put him on there, the baby can still have your surname =)

 

[KaeRit21]

thank you....had a rather eventful afternoon with him texting me all sorts of questions. if he can show up the day i go to register bubs, hel get his name on cert

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[purpledahlia]

id be carefull about singing over equal parental rights tho....

 

[KaeRit21]

how you mean hun?

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[lou_w34]

Yeah id be carefull with that aswell

Say if he just did turn up and asked to be put on, and you wernt to sure, but put him on anyways, it will give him equal parental rights over the baby. So say if something happened to you, and your plan is for the baby to go to your parents or whoever, He will effectively just be able to take them, even if you make a will, stating that X is to have the baby, it will most likley not be taken into consideration as parental rights always rate alot higher.

Of course that only applys if you dont want him to have them if something happens to you.

And i also think it gives him equal say in things like schooling ect ect, though dont take me up on that for deffinate. It all depends on how much control you want him to have.

If you dont want too put him on, but think he will just show up, then dont tell him when you are going to register them, It sounds horrible, but its what im having to do, not that i think he would show up anyways lol

 

[KaeRit21]

seems like ive still got alot to think about...life would just be alot easier if guys would step up to the mark from the word go.
(im not saying this is all guys...just most of em.)

xxxx

 

[lou_w34]

I know... it seems like its just one thing after another to think about!

 

[purpledahlia]

I find it easier to plan with FOB is out the picture tbh!

But yeh id be carefull about singing over half half, he could file for joint custody and such, i mean he still could anyway but probably wouldnt win if hes not on the birth cert and such.

I think im gonna give FOB till the baby is 1 of 2 to proove himself as a commited father, then ill decide if i wanna add him onto the birth cert if he still wants on it, But for now dont think so.

 

[KaeRit21]

the FOB wouldnt get custody even if he did apply for it, i dont think (hes not exactly citizen of the year)...but hes not even the type to try and fight me for it...hes still in the huff anyway, i still ahvent heard from him...bliss lol

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[lou_w34]

Its amazing when they dont text you, or try to ring you with random crap. I feel my heart sink when my phone goes off and i see its him! Ive had my phone in my wardrobe for the past day now and its been lovely =D

 

[purpledahlia]

in the wardrobe!! Love it!

 

[KaeRit21]

lol, im thinking about putting mine in there too.

ive had a day..and im blaming the phone

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[lou_w34]

Yeps the wardrobe! I put it in my draw but i could still hear it going off, so i put it in a cardi pocket to muffle it haha Thinking about it, why didnt i just switch it off before i put it in the draw??? Pregnancy brain obviously lol

Awwwww ditch the phone! Put it somewhere and go watch a film to distract you! Or watch jezzy kyle, theres always someone who makes you feel better about your own life on there! haha! Its so relaxing!

 

[purpledahlia]

oooh jeremy...

 

[KaeRit21]

i dont even think jeremy kyle can cheer me up tonight, i had a cry adn everything, and i dont really know why

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[purpledahlia]

just part and parcel of pregnancy, think of it this way.. YOU GET TO SEE YOUR BABY TOMORROW!!! be happy!!

 

[KaeRit21]

yea thats made me smile..thanks PD ...is it bad i didnt inform the FOB of the scan?

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[lou_w34]

No its not bad if you dont want him there, besides he could have asked you when they were anyways if he was that bothered =)

 

[KaeRit21]

nah, i dont even think il show him the pics! lol
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