With ds i'd left his bio before finding out i was preg so during the preg we tried to get along for the babies sake & he came to "some" appointments, At the end of the preg we were getting on better & i agreed to have him there at the birth. My mum was told no but invited herself anyway grr .
Anyway i had a helish labour & a few complications to which he was utterly useless & my mum had to tell him several times to help me instead of standing gormless at the back of the room. Looking back he may of been worried or scared because it was a bad time but still he let me down, My mum was ok but a little annoying too.
With this preg i really want a water birth with my boyf in the pool with me to do this together & him to help me & hold the baby 1st & be a family. ( its his 1st ) We are having a bad patch & right now i feel as though he's left me, But i dont know. If this is the case then i've decided to just do it alone with no birthing partner & have my baby to myself. I guess it depends if i go in labour naturally & who im with i may drag them with me hehe.
There is not 1 person in my life other than my boyf who i would actually choose to be there for me, other than 1 lady online who ive never met but chatted to for years. She is more like a cyber mum if that makes sense & i know she would be with me & she'd love it . Praying my boyf is there though