05mummy07
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It's all I seem to be doing this lately to someone or other.
Basically, I've been with my partner for 15 months, when we got together I'd thrown away everything pretty much for him. I had a partner with a good job, a car and enough money to keep us afloat and comfortable, the only problem was we used to argue so much, so I ended it all for the boys sakes as growing up with parents who argued I know how aweful it really is.
When I got with my partner, he wasn't working, he had a cannabis addiction which he has now battled, he's okay with my boys.... But I just can't stand him at the moment.
Everything he does annoys me, his hugs make me feel smothered and I can't bring myself to kiss him anymore.
My problem is he swore for the past year he'd get a job, yet he's only just started looking, he's lazy makes no contributions to me for spending all his time at my house using all my things (gas, electric, toilet etc)
I know pregnancy can do weird things to us, but I really don't think it's unreasonable for me to be feeling like this.
He claims income support and just spends all his day sitting around, this really gets to me as I don't claim anything except child tax credits/child benefit and housing tax benefit, as I'm unable to work at the moment due to my youngest and not being able to afford child care.
I just want to finish things with him, I'm embarrassed of the way he is, I've always been taught not to be a scrounger and to make do with what I have, and it just bugs me that he's such a waster. I've given him 15 months to change yet he's asking for more time, and I personally don't see why I should allow any more time, he's blatantly not going to change.
We've argued early on in the pregnancy, and he reckons he'd go for custody... but here's the punch line, He lives in a box room in a shared house, and the fact he'd even think of trying to take my baby away from me just makes me wonder if he even loves me at all... what man threatens that when they don't get their own way?!
Am I being stupid for wanting to end things, or are my reasons perfectly plausible? The past week has been full of tears, and the situation is making me feel really stressed out and down. I've had enough of him
Basically, I've been with my partner for 15 months, when we got together I'd thrown away everything pretty much for him. I had a partner with a good job, a car and enough money to keep us afloat and comfortable, the only problem was we used to argue so much, so I ended it all for the boys sakes as growing up with parents who argued I know how aweful it really is.
When I got with my partner, he wasn't working, he had a cannabis addiction which he has now battled, he's okay with my boys.... But I just can't stand him at the moment.
Everything he does annoys me, his hugs make me feel smothered and I can't bring myself to kiss him anymore.
My problem is he swore for the past year he'd get a job, yet he's only just started looking, he's lazy makes no contributions to me for spending all his time at my house using all my things (gas, electric, toilet etc)
I know pregnancy can do weird things to us, but I really don't think it's unreasonable for me to be feeling like this.
He claims income support and just spends all his day sitting around, this really gets to me as I don't claim anything except child tax credits/child benefit and housing tax benefit, as I'm unable to work at the moment due to my youngest and not being able to afford child care.
I just want to finish things with him, I'm embarrassed of the way he is, I've always been taught not to be a scrounger and to make do with what I have, and it just bugs me that he's such a waster. I've given him 15 months to change yet he's asking for more time, and I personally don't see why I should allow any more time, he's blatantly not going to change.
We've argued early on in the pregnancy, and he reckons he'd go for custody... but here's the punch line, He lives in a box room in a shared house, and the fact he'd even think of trying to take my baby away from me just makes me wonder if he even loves me at all... what man threatens that when they don't get their own way?!
Am I being stupid for wanting to end things, or are my reasons perfectly plausible? The past week has been full of tears, and the situation is making me feel really stressed out and down. I've had enough of him