lindypops
Lin, Si and Eve
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Conversation 1 (after having told MIL we are planning to BLW):
MIL: 'My hairdresser [who had a baby on the same day as me] has started making purees - apparently it's so easy. All you do is puree up some carrot, put it in ice-cube trays and freeze it and then you have ready-made portions.'
Me: 'That is conventient, but we've told you that we are planning to BLW and so won't be giving purees.'
MIL: 'Well, I hope you will be giving her SOME runny foods. Mash and gravy is so nice.'
Conversation 2:
Me: 'It was so funny the other day - LO decided to chomp down on a huge bit of banana instead of taking a small bite...'
MIL (almost hyperventilating): OMG!!! You prob had to race across and get it out. I hope she was ok.'
Me: 'There was no chance of her choking - it was way too big - and I was right there just in case.'
MIL (totally unconvinced look on her face): 'Hmmm...'
Conversation 3 (on watching LO shove a bit of broccoli right in her mouth and enthusiastically chew and suck away for ages): 'Well, Eve, I think mummy is just teasing you...[ten second gap, while she goes into the kitchen to heat our lunch up]...naughty mummy...[ten second gap, still in the kitchen]...'Poor Eve, not getting to eat that properly...naughty mummy...it just doesn't seem fair...' etc etc. All addressed through my LO.
Me: nothing. Trying to keep my temper.
Conversation 4:
MIL: 'I was at the library the other day and saw a book and weaning and thought I would have a look, so I know what's going on. It's so interesting. Apparently you can puree up some carrot, put it in ice-cube trays and freeze it and then you have ready-made portions.'
DH: 'Yes mum, but that's not how we're doing it.'
MIL: 'Well, I hope you will be giving her SOME runny foods. Mash and gravy is so nice.'
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I am struggling with this, tbh. I'm certain she thinks I have bullied DH into doing this and that he wouldn't if he realised the risk of choking.
To my mind, there are two issues here:
1) She should NEVER say I am naughty/nasty (can't remember which word she used) to Eve.
2) It's none of her damn business how we feed Eve. She made her choices, I'm making mine.
But how to deal? I am photocopying some of the BLW book for her (including the pages on other people's reservations about it...) and haven't addressed the criticism part - but I think I will if she does it again.
I'm mainly concerned about these things because MIL will be looking after Eve from Sept 2 days a week while I'm at work. We could afford to pay for more childcare, but She offered 2 days when we were going to ask for 1, and DH thinks it's great and in most ways she is lovely.
I am just imagining picking Eve up after work and MIL saying 'we had mash and gravy, soup and then yoghurt - runny foods are so nice, aren't they Eve - not like the foods your nasty mummy gives you...'.
Any advice from those who have been through similar? Thanks!
MIL: 'My hairdresser [who had a baby on the same day as me] has started making purees - apparently it's so easy. All you do is puree up some carrot, put it in ice-cube trays and freeze it and then you have ready-made portions.'
Me: 'That is conventient, but we've told you that we are planning to BLW and so won't be giving purees.'
MIL: 'Well, I hope you will be giving her SOME runny foods. Mash and gravy is so nice.'
Conversation 2:
Me: 'It was so funny the other day - LO decided to chomp down on a huge bit of banana instead of taking a small bite...'
MIL (almost hyperventilating): OMG!!! You prob had to race across and get it out. I hope she was ok.'
Me: 'There was no chance of her choking - it was way too big - and I was right there just in case.'
MIL (totally unconvinced look on her face): 'Hmmm...'
Conversation 3 (on watching LO shove a bit of broccoli right in her mouth and enthusiastically chew and suck away for ages): 'Well, Eve, I think mummy is just teasing you...[ten second gap, while she goes into the kitchen to heat our lunch up]...naughty mummy...[ten second gap, still in the kitchen]...'Poor Eve, not getting to eat that properly...naughty mummy...it just doesn't seem fair...' etc etc. All addressed through my LO.
Me: nothing. Trying to keep my temper.
Conversation 4:
MIL: 'I was at the library the other day and saw a book and weaning and thought I would have a look, so I know what's going on. It's so interesting. Apparently you can puree up some carrot, put it in ice-cube trays and freeze it and then you have ready-made portions.'
DH: 'Yes mum, but that's not how we're doing it.'
MIL: 'Well, I hope you will be giving her SOME runny foods. Mash and gravy is so nice.'
___
I am struggling with this, tbh. I'm certain she thinks I have bullied DH into doing this and that he wouldn't if he realised the risk of choking.
To my mind, there are two issues here:
1) She should NEVER say I am naughty/nasty (can't remember which word she used) to Eve.
2) It's none of her damn business how we feed Eve. She made her choices, I'm making mine.
But how to deal? I am photocopying some of the BLW book for her (including the pages on other people's reservations about it...) and haven't addressed the criticism part - but I think I will if she does it again.
I'm mainly concerned about these things because MIL will be looking after Eve from Sept 2 days a week while I'm at work. We could afford to pay for more childcare, but She offered 2 days when we were going to ask for 1, and DH thinks it's great and in most ways she is lovely.
I am just imagining picking Eve up after work and MIL saying 'we had mash and gravy, soup and then yoghurt - runny foods are so nice, aren't they Eve - not like the foods your nasty mummy gives you...'.
Any advice from those who have been through similar? Thanks!