Boyfriend & I told our parents and ...

[18yearoldmom]

Reactions were just the opposite of what we thought they would be. His mom cried but told us we will get through this (we thought she would flip). & all my mom said was "you can't even take care of yourself". Then left it at that (we thought my mom would be supportive). What were your ladies' experiences with telling your parents? Does it get better?

 

[lizmageeful]

My parents were a little dissappointed, but got over it eventually and now cant wait to meet their grandson! My OH's parents were REALLY pissed at first. kicked him out of the house and he came to live with me and my family. But then when we got engaged they started warming up to the idea that this is actually happening. I think they are happy that Dash will be "legitamite"

 

[Court and bub]

It may take your parents awhile to come around but they will you just have to be patient , they will want to be in there grand baby's life and they will be happy and supportive , my mum was supportive I told her the minute I found out but my dad was angry at me and the baby's father it took him awhile to get used to it but I firmly told him that I wasn't going to give my baby up there would be no adopting or aborting I was going to have this child wever he liked it or not and he would have to deal with the fact that he is going to be a grandparent soon or later , hope every thing goes well for you

 

[jozylynn896]

Omg I finally told OHs parents yesterday and it feels so much better!
His family came around and it made me realize that they (most people in general) will always get over it. I know it may seem unlikely but like once that babies here, they will look at him/her like a grandchild. Not just the thing that ruined someones life.
That's always what people think a teen mommys baby is. Something that will ruin them.
And if your parents just DON'T come around, then kill them with success!
One day they'll see " holy shit were stupid for douvting our little girl and losing faith in her in a hard time. We should have trusted that we f ing raiused a smart girl!"
But eventually they will
And if not then you have to do good for yourself for them to get it.
Good luck

 

[lunar]

Sorry your mom didn't react how you wanted, but at least she didn't act worse!

My mom cried a lot, my stepdad was pretty stoic, more, "What are your plans?" My stepmom and dad were both really disappointed, they lectured me a lot (actually through most of my pregnancy). My OH's parents were pretty excited, but worried how we'd support baby.

Overall, though, they've all come around -- they all love LO and adore him! Trust that your mom/family will come around, especially when baby is here!

 

[xolynn]

It always seems to go the exact opposite of what you expect! When my mom found out(she was the first too) she was pretty skeptical and thought I was too young(I'm 22). Now she is def coming around because everyone else in my family is being very supportive..she was never mad at me, but is definitely happy now. My dad who I thought was gonna flip out and yell at me was actually VERY happy and excited...I was in shock. Lol. He is on the older side(62), and cant wait to meet his grandson..he already has a granddaughter from my sister who is older than me so he is already used to being a grandparent.

I'm sure your mom will come around and start getting excited for the baby...its definitely a shock at first to find out something so serious! But as things start to move along they will adjust to the idea and probably be soo happy to be grandparents! All the best luck to you!

 

[JessicaM123]

Mine were quiet, disappointed and very logical, his were over the moon.

Mine have come round though.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

His parents have always been overly excited, my parents have always been supportive.

 

[thecurlymama]

We told my mom first... she already knew, somehow though. I said "I need to talk to you" she said "you're pregnant, aren't you?" She was really supportive, but since I told her (about 11 weeks ago) she's had different stages of moods about it... she's been dissapointed, happy, excited, upset, depressed, worried, scared, etc... but no matter what she's been there for me. My dad was just shocked haha. My boyfriend's mom was totally supportive and really didn't have much to say... he's 19 so she expects him to be growing up and getting his own life- my mom thinks its too soon for me to be doing that.... It was really hard at first but everybody's getting into the groove of things now.

It does get better, what I realized is that you just have to be there for each other and not get too upset even if your parents aren't being really supportive all the time, don't get too stressed out or worried... just remember you have to take care of yourself and your little one. Stay healthy and happy and you'll be okay.

Good luck, feel free to message me anytime!

 

[Mickey1994]

My mom was disappointed, but at the same time was very supportive. It took her about a day to accept it. My dad is a different story. He and I were never really close and only saw each other once or twice a month. When I told him he just left. He didn't talk to me for several weeks. However, he did eventually come around and he's an amazing grandfather to my son.

Give your mom time to accept it. This is big news and probably a shocker for her. She'll come around. Don't stress too much.

 

[ClairAye]

My mum came around about 3-4 weeks later, my dad was when I was 25-27 weeks, my LO is their world now though, it gets better!

 

[SilentBeauty]

Parents we're disappointed. I told my mum first since my dad was on a business trip, she cried (a lot). As my dad got back, it took me 2 days before I could tell him, after I did he was all "What are your plans?" & stuff but there I was all covered in tears in front of him. I couldn't really think straight that time. That was 3 months ago. They are still disappointed but they are also supportive. Baby's dad parents however, he said he told his mum through a text, then his mum started b*tching about me. I don't know if his father already knows but I don't care anymore. I'm raising my little angel without him!

 

[Mummytobelora]

my mum wasnt really bothered

but the babys dad's mum called us stupid
i was that scared when he rang her i went out of the room

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Telling my parents have always been awful, my mum has never been happy for us. My dad was supportive from the beginning for no 2 & 3 and ok about my first. oHs family have always reacted fairly well.

Give them time to get their heads around the news

 

[SarahMUMMY]

My mum and dad had very different views, my mum was really angry to start with and shouted, so i took off out her way, after about 10 minutes of mum and dad talking my dad come and got me and said we all needed to talk, mum calmed down but was still pretty disappointed, my dad however he wasnt excited but wasnt disappointed either he just said "Sarah i love you, this is your decision and ill stand by you no matter what.. Youll be a good mother if thats not or later and make a brilliant future for your self" Mum came round by later that day and we were choosing baby things haha.. Unfortunately my OHs family werent so pleased, they came to my home swearing and kicking off, they offered to pay for an abortion and an holiday to get over the shock after, i was appalled and still hate them for this, they changed the flight that we had booked out my name to someone elses because they were ashamed of me and didnt come round untill around 5 weeks before i was due, they also made me hide my pregnancy from the majority of there family untill i was 28weeks

They all think the world of riley now, but ill never forgive or forget what my OHs parents said xx

 

[Attalu]

My boyfriends parents reacted worse than I could have ever expected. I didn't think they'd care too much but I was so wrong..

FOB's stepmum was sent a letter that was supposed to go to my house, she opened it and that's how his parents found out about me being pregnant (we were waiting until the scan to tell them). His step mum called me up and started yelling at me. Her and my boyfriends father now absolutely hate me, they're convinced that I got pregnant because I planned to ruin my boyfriends life from the day I met him. It's not so bad though since they live 100 miles away but poor FOB has to live with them until we get a place of our own and he's hating every minute of it.

My parents reacted exactly as I expected. I told my dad when I was in the car with him and he was pretty calm and just asked what I wanted to do. He told my mum while I was with him, she swore at me, told me I did it on purpose then ignored me for several days. She's come around now and is even helping me find a house and giving me bits for when I move out.

We told my boyfriends mum the night we found out and she's been great, she wasn't angry at all and has been really supportive.

It definitely does get better but it takes time.

 

[kimberleyrobx]

My mum was the happiest mother alive when i told her. My dad said he would support me whatever i decided (although i knew he was disappointed a little). OH's mum and dad were totally against it and wouldnt talk to me for a couple of weeks when i told them i was keeping her but they came around xx

 

[tasha41]

My mom really didn't say much, just gave me a hug and said she loved me. My dad was very serious & disappointed, said I had ruined my life, etc.

My OHs parents were upset we were having a baby out of wedlock, but said we're both adults & it was our decision, they were excited for a grandchild!

Now my "little one" is nearly 4 and all of her grandparents have spoiled her rotten since day 1 (or earlier) with love & stuff, lol

 

[NiallnKatilyn]

My parents were not happy but are now happy! Nialls parents were really excited!

 

[rhdr9193..x]

My mum was horrible, told me to gt an a******n, dad was more logical. But now they are the best grandparents ever nd would do anything for Oliver. OHs mum n dad were good in the beginning, but shit now x