Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Dk1234]

I mean I think it's pretty obvious when my son is nursing. I def don't need to see full boob to realize what's going on.

 

[Randianne]

That discrete issues some have, thats your own problems. Mums dont have to take orders from you and be discrete.

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Because a naked breast feeding a baby is not offensive. Discriminating against women who breastfeed in public, no matter how discreet, is.

That is your opinion. Do we want to start parenting based on other people's opinion.

 

[Dk1234]

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Oh here we go...."will someone please think about the chiiiiiildren" It really does irk me when people use children as an excuse to display their own prejudices.

Seriously? You think your children are going to be scarred for life by seeing a bit of boob? And a small bit at that? Do you take them to a swimming pool? Plenty of boob on show there. How about the beach? Or any high street, or park on a warm summers day. Flesh is everywhere.

If your child is so close to me that they can see a part of my boob whilst I am feeding, simply encourage your child not to invade someone else's space in that way.

If you aren't showing anymore boob than at a beach then you are being discrete. No one said you shouldn't feed them. I'm starting to think people aren't reading and just want to argue.

 

[Button#]

Can I ask a genuine question. If everyone is being very discrete how does it become normalised? I mean most people wont notice if you are that discrete so on the odd occassion that a woman does have a baby unlatch and so therefore is no longer 'discrete' iy will still be an issue because those people wont of noticed all the others for it to be their normal.

I know that is a ramble, but hope you see what I am trying to say.

I guess if the never notice/see it, it will never become normal is the shorter version.

I agree with you. Also I am really proud that I breastfeed my son and I want the world to know that I do. Whenever I've sat there proudly feeding my son I've only ever had compliments.

 

[Foogirl]

Oh please. That is such crap. Let's not turn this into another FF v BFing debate. I know plenty of BFers who are courteous enough not to flash their boob. I was one of them.

Not crap. My experience. I never claimed it was representative of anything, it was just what happened to me. I never claimed every FFing mum was offended, just the handful of people who made snidey comments and gave me dirty looks, were FFing mums.

 

[Natsku]

double post

 

[Dragonfly]

I don't think I gave anyone orders. I simply am saying its counterproductive to your goal of normalizing things. If you want people to think its normal than being considerate is the way to go. IMO

Its for any of the discrete crowd, not just you. Its a worn out thing used by many.

That discrete issues some have, thats your own problems. Mums dont have to take orders from you and be discrete.

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who agree with you.

I wouldnt care who seen what. Its just a boob feeding a baby. You still have the issue not me.

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Because a naked breast feeding a baby is not offensive. Discriminating against women who breastfeed in public, no matter how discreet, is.

What she said.

A baby can be fed without a boob being left to hang out.

Dont know whats hanging out but how do you breastfeed without having your boob out?


I think it boils down to more need to care less what others do. Its feeding a baby. Its all. Get over it.

 

[Natsku]

Having to be discrete implies that there is something wrong with feeding in public, by saying no I don't have to be discrete you are saying there is nothing wrong with it and that is exactly what we should be doing. I don't mean feed topless, I mean don't bother with covers (unless it makes YOU more comfortable) and don't hide away. Keep on exposing the world to what is natural. You owe it to your daughters/daughters-in-law to make it easier for them to feed in public.

And why should any parent want to prevent their child seeing a woman breastfeed, even if they see the whole breast? Seeing a breast perform its natural function is not going to damage a child. Parents who think that way are the ones that need to change, not the parents feeding their children.

No, it doesn't. It means that you respect the parents who don't want their children to see a naked breast. No one is saying don't NIP.

So you think it's wrong for people to tell you not to NIP. Yet you think it's right for you to tell other parents that there's nothing wrong with their child seeing your breast. That is very hypocritical. Your choice to BF is just as valid as theirs to prevent their child from seeing nudity. Your child is NOT more important than theirs.

If you want people to respect your parenting choice, respect theirs!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a child seeing a breast when its feeding a baby (well I think there's nothing wrong with a child seeing a breast fullstop but thats beside the point). My child's right to eat IS more important than a parent's right to prevent their child seeing something natural and the law agrees with that.

Do you personally think its wrong for a child to see a breast when its feeding a baby? If so, why do you think its wrong?

A full breast, yes. No one is saying breastfeeding isn't natural. You know whats also natural? A teenage boy getting an erection when seeing a naked breast. I think it's taking away the rights of parents who just wanted a nice family meal. Nurse in public, but don't show your whole breast. Not that hard. I've done it.

It's not about BFing rights. It's about parenting ones. Why do you think your child is more important then theirs? Why do you get to decide something as sensitive as when a child is introduced to a naked female breast?

Why is it wrong for a child to see a full breast when its feeding a baby? Does it hurt them to see it? Does it destroy their innocence? Its just a body part, they most likely have seen their mother's breasts at some point, that didn't damage them so why should seeing a stranger's breasts damage them? Some people are seriously hung up over nudity and that makes it so much harder for mothers to feed in public and thats a horrible shame.

And breastfeeding rights absolutely trump the right of a parent to decide when a child is introduced to a naked female breast - thats why breastfeeding rights are protected by law.

Can I ask a genuine question. If everyone is being very discrete how does it become normalised? I mean most people wont notice if you are that discrete so on the odd occassion that a woman does have a bad unlatch and so therefore is no longer 'discrete' iy will still be an issue because those people wont of noticed all the others for it to be their normal.

I know that is a ramble, but hope you see what I am trying to say.

I guess if the never notice/see it, it will never become normal is the shorter version.

Thats what I've been trying to get across. Breastfeeding will never be normalised if mothers have to be unnoticed when they do it.

 

[meli1981]

i dont want to see anyones naked boobs whether they are nursing or otherwise. being courteous in public doesnt make ne an anti-nurser, i nursed for 18 months with one and 10 months with my other. keep your breats where they belong, in babes mouth, or in your top.

 

[pinklightbulb]

I don't think a child (or anyone else) in caveman times would have gone screaming to Mummy if they saw a breast either, lol. We are so far removed from our natural behaviours in today's society that it's become a joke.

 

[Randianne]

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Oh here we go...."will someone please think about the chiiiiiildren" It really does irk me when people use children as an excuse to display their own prejudices.

Seriously? You think your children are going to be scarred for life by seeing a bit of boob? And a small bit at that? Do you take them to a swimming pool? Plenty of boob on show there. How about the beach? Or any high street, or park on a warm summers day. Flesh is everywhere.

If your child is so close to me that they can see a part of my boob whilst I am feeding, simply encourage your child not to invade someone else's space in that way.

Really? So by NIP, you're not thinking about your child's best interests? Again, so hypocritical.

No. But I don't want my seven year old seeing a naked boob. You don't get to decide if that's right or wrong. Just like I don't get to decide if BFing your baby was right or wrong.

All your arguments focus on your right to feed your baby, with no consideration to the rights of any other parent in the world. That's what I find baffling. Give me my rights, but you don't get rights too.

Beyond hypocritical.

If you want you seven year old to see boobs, go ahead. You don't get to make that choice for mine. And really, you can see a full boob just by looking up. No one is invading your space.

 

[pinklightbulb]

A society reliant on man-made wonders doesn't get to dictate to me whether my baby is fed naturally or not, or how it is done.

 

[Dragonfly]

has any one seen these woman that breastfeed naked or something? seems like a stupid argument when most of us would breastfeed not bearing all anyway. I have breastfed in a room of people and they didnt even notice. Yet to see these ones that arnt discrete.

 

[Dk1234]

I think I'm bowing out of this one. No one is even listening to what I'm saying. You feel the way you feel because BFing is very normal to you, see a breast full on seems very natural to you. You are in a bubble though if you can't understand that this isn't the same for everyone. I'm all for normalizing things. I talk about nursing in everyday conversation but I don't shove it down people's throats, I post about it on fb on the rare occassion but I don't clog up people's newsfeeds with it, I nurse my son if he needs nursing but I am always respectful of those around me. That's how you are gonna make people comfortable with it.

 

[Dragonfly]

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Oh here we go...."will someone please think about the chiiiiiildren" It really does irk me when people use children as an excuse to display their own prejudices.

Seriously? You think your children are going to be scarred for life by seeing a bit of boob? And a small bit at that? Do you take them to a swimming pool? Plenty of boob on show there. How about the beach? Or any high street, or park on a warm summers day. Flesh is everywhere.

If your child is so close to me that they can see a part of my boob whilst I am feeding, simply encourage your child not to invade someone else's space in that way.

Really? So by NIP, you're not thinking about your child's best interests? Again, so hypocritical.

No. But I don't want my seven year old seeing a naked boob. You don't get to decide if that's right or wrong. Just like I don't get to decide if BFing your baby was right or wrong.

All your arguments focus on your right to feed your baby, with no consideration to the rights of any other parent in the world. That's what I find baffling. Give me my rights, but you don't get rights too.

Beyond hypocritical.

If you want you seven year old to see boobs, go ahead. You don't get to make that choice for mine. And really, you can see a full boob just by looking up. No one is invading your space.

Do you blindfold your child when they go out? tv, music, magazine covers, Boobs are everywhere.

 

[midori1999]

i dont want to see anyones naked boobs whether they are nursing or otherwise. being courteous in public doesnt make ne an anti-nurser, i nursed for 18 months with one and 10 months with my other. keep your breats where they belong, in babes mouth, or in your top.

It's pretty difficult to breastfeed without your breast in your baby's mouth, surely?!

Am I the only one who wants to know where these 'radical' women waving their breasts around are? I know some pretty 'hardcore' lactivists and I have yet to see any one of them get their boob out or leave it out when they are not breastfeeding their baby, which seems to be what people are now talking about here. So where are these women?

 

[Dk1234]

i dont want to see anyones naked boobs whether they are nursing or otherwise. being courteous in public doesnt make ne an anti-nurser, i nursed for 18 months with one and 10 months with my other. keep your breats where they belong, in babes mouth, or in your top.

Thank you!!!! This exactly

 

[Tasha]

I mean I think it's pretty obvious when my son is nursing. I def don't need to see full boob to realize what's going on.

To you maybe, but I have read sooooo many stories of the fact people think that LO is just being cuddled.

 

[pinklightbulb]

Ahhh DK you know I love you but I just don't agree this time. Your opinion is very vaild to you, but I just do not see why something natural that has a purpose (and a very important one) should be made to be discreet just because the world has decided breasts are more a sexual object than a feeding apparatus.

 

[Natsku]

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Oh here we go...."will someone please think about the chiiiiiildren" It really does irk me when people use children as an excuse to display their own prejudices.

Seriously? You think your children are going to be scarred for life by seeing a bit of boob? And a small bit at that? Do you take them to a swimming pool? Plenty of boob on show there. How about the beach? Or any high street, or park on a warm summers day. Flesh is everywhere.

If your child is so close to me that they can see a part of my boob whilst I am feeding, simply encourage your child not to invade someone else's space in that way.

Really? So by NIP, you're not thinking about your child's best interests? Again, so hypocritical.

No. But I don't want my seven year old seeing a naked boob. You don't get to decide if that's right or wrong. Just like I don't get to decide if BFing your baby was right or wrong.

All your arguments focus on your right to feed your baby, with no consideration to the rights of any other parent in the world. That's what I find baffling. Give me my rights, but you don't get rights too.

Beyond hypocritical.

If you want you seven year old to see boobs, go ahead. You don't get to make that choice for mine. And really, you can see a full boob just by looking up. No one is invading your space.

Your right to control what your child sees ends when you leave your home. A mother's right to feed her child does not end anywhere.