Breast feeding in public? Your views?

[Dk1234]

Um I'm referring to nudity as nudity. If you are as covered as someone out at a pub then you aren't showing nudity and are being discrete about it.

 

[Dk1234]

Being considerate to not show your whole breast isn't hiding.

 

[Natsku]

And please, stop referring to breastfeeding as nudity. A BFer is no more nude than most young women on a friday night out down the pub.

Yes exactly, it is not nudity and should not be compared as such.

 

[Dragonfly]

That discrete issues some have, thats your own problems. Mums dont have to take orders from you and be discrete.

 

[Dk1234]

I don't think I gave anyone orders. I simply am saying its counterproductive to your goal of normalizing things. If you want people to think its normal than being considerate is the way to go. IMO

 

[Randianne]

Having to be discrete implies that there is something wrong with feeding in public, by saying no I don't have to be discrete you are saying there is nothing wrong with it and that is exactly what we should be doing. I don't mean feed topless, I mean don't bother with covers (unless it makes YOU more comfortable) and don't hide away. Keep on exposing the world to what is natural. You owe it to your daughters/daughters-in-law to make it easier for them to feed in public.

And why should any parent want to prevent their child seeing a woman breastfeed, even if they see the whole breast? Seeing a breast perform its natural function is not going to damage a child. Parents who think that way are the ones that need to change, not the parents feeding their children.

No, it doesn't. It means that you respect the parents who don't want their children to see a naked breast. No one is saying don't NIP.

So you think it's wrong for people to tell you not to NIP. Yet you think it's right for you to tell other parents that there's nothing wrong with their child seeing your breast. That is very hypocritical. Your choice to BF is just as valid as theirs to prevent their child from seeing nudity. Your child is NOT more important than theirs.

If you want people to respect your parenting choice, respect theirs!

 

[Randianne]

And please, stop referring to breastfeeding as nudity. A BFer is no more nude than most young women on a friday night out down the pub.

How is showing a full breast not nudity? You can choose to only show a bit. Unless it was an accident, you can control whether or not the general public sees it hanging out there.

 

[Randianne]

The most offended group I found, I'm sorry to say, were FFing mums. I only got a handful of nasty glares and comments in the 18 months I did it and every single one came from a mother who was FFing.

Oh please. That is such crap. Let's not turn this into another FF v BFing debate. I know plenty of BFers who are courteous enough not to flash their boob. I was one of them.

 

[Natsku]

Having to be discrete implies that there is something wrong with feeding in public, by saying no I don't have to be discrete you are saying there is nothing wrong with it and that is exactly what we should be doing. I don't mean feed topless, I mean don't bother with covers (unless it makes YOU more comfortable) and don't hide away. Keep on exposing the world to what is natural. You owe it to your daughters/daughters-in-law to make it easier for them to feed in public.

And why should any parent want to prevent their child seeing a woman breastfeed, even if they see the whole breast? Seeing a breast perform its natural function is not going to damage a child. Parents who think that way are the ones that need to change, not the parents feeding their children.

No, it doesn't. It means that you respect the parents who don't want their children to see a naked breast. No one is saying don't NIP.

So you think it's wrong for people to tell you not to NIP. Yet you think it's right for you to tell other parents that there's nothing wrong with their child seeing your breast. That is very hypocritical. Your choice to BF is just as valid as theirs to prevent their child from seeing nudity. Your child is NOT more important than theirs.

If you want people to respect your parenting choice, respect theirs!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a child seeing a breast when its feeding a baby (well I think there's nothing wrong with a child seeing a breast fullstop but thats beside the point). My child's right to eat IS more important than a parent's right to prevent their child seeing something natural and the law agrees with that.

Do you personally think its wrong for a child to see a breast when its feeding a baby? If so, why do you think its wrong?

 

[Dk1234]

If its feeding the baby then it isn't being shown to everyone that doesn't even make sense

 

[pinklightbulb]

Frankly I don't give a pig's arse who is offended by a baby feeding from a breast, as things were meant to be that way and should still be today except for society deciding BF should be hidden away like some filthy little secret. It's not. It's the standard way (or should I say, was the standard way) to nourish your baby.

Do people think in caveman times, everyone ran away screaming "Ewwww, it's a naked boob!!!! Put it away, we shouldn't have to see that!!! OMG!!!111!!"

Of course not. So what's the difference between now and then when the act of breastfeeding itself has never changed?

It's today's society that needs to get a grip, not the BF mother/baby combo just going about things naturally while everybody else reacts unnaturally.

Just my 00.2

 

[Randianne]

That discrete issues some have, thats your own problems. Mums dont have to take orders from you and be discrete.

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who agree with you.

 

[Dk1234]

Can anyone point out where anyone said a boob feeding a baby is gross or disgusting or wrong. Ill answer that, no! Because no one has. If you can't cover it up when baby isn't on it than that is nudity. No one said to hide to feed you baby. I just don't wanna see your boob hanging out before and after or in the middle if LO is taking a break and frankly can't imagine why you would want anyone to.

 

[Randianne]

Having to be discrete implies that there is something wrong with feeding in public, by saying no I don't have to be discrete you are saying there is nothing wrong with it and that is exactly what we should be doing. I don't mean feed topless, I mean don't bother with covers (unless it makes YOU more comfortable) and don't hide away. Keep on exposing the world to what is natural. You owe it to your daughters/daughters-in-law to make it easier for them to feed in public.

And why should any parent want to prevent their child seeing a woman breastfeed, even if they see the whole breast? Seeing a breast perform its natural function is not going to damage a child. Parents who think that way are the ones that need to change, not the parents feeding their children.

No, it doesn't. It means that you respect the parents who don't want their children to see a naked breast. No one is saying don't NIP.

So you think it's wrong for people to tell you not to NIP. Yet you think it's right for you to tell other parents that there's nothing wrong with their child seeing your breast. That is very hypocritical. Your choice to BF is just as valid as theirs to prevent their child from seeing nudity. Your child is NOT more important than theirs.

If you want people to respect your parenting choice, respect theirs!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a child seeing a breast when its feeding a baby (well I think there's nothing wrong with a child seeing a breast fullstop but thats beside the point). My child's right to eat IS more important than a parent's right to prevent their child seeing something natural and the law agrees with that.

Do you personally think its wrong for a child to see a breast when its feeding a baby? If so, why do you think its wrong?

A full breast, yes. No one is saying breastfeeding isn't natural. You know whats also natural? A teenage boy getting an erection when seeing a naked breast. I think it's taking away the rights of parents who just wanted a nice family meal. Nurse in public, but don't show your whole breast. Not that hard. I've done it.

It's not about BFing rights. It's about parenting ones. Why do you think your child is more important then theirs? Why do you get to decide something as sensitive as when a child is introduced to a naked female breast?

 

[Button#]

That discrete issues some have, thats your own problems. Mums dont have to take orders from you and be discrete.

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Because a naked breast feeding a baby is not offensive. Discriminating against women who breastfeed in public, no matter how discreet, is.

 

[pinklightbulb]

A teenage boy doesn't need to show himself off so a baby gets fed. Bit different.

 

[Dk1234]

A baby can be fed without a boob being left to hang out.

 

[Tasha]

Can I ask a genuine question. If everyone is being very discrete how does it become normalised? I mean most people wont notice if you are that discrete so on the odd occassion that a woman does have a baby unlatch and so therefore is no longer 'discrete' iy will still be an issue because those people wont of noticed all the others for it to be their normal.

I know that is a ramble, but hope you see what I am trying to say.

I guess if the never notice/see it, it will never become normal is the shorter version.

 

[Tasha]

A full breast, yes. No one is saying breastfeeding isn't natural. You know whats also natural? A teenage boy getting an erection when seeing a naked breast. I think it's taking away the rights of parents who just wanted a nice family meal. Nurse in public, but don't show your whole breast. Not that hard. I've done it.
It's not about BFing rights. It's about parenting ones. Why do you think your child is more important then theirs? Why do you get to decide something as sensitive as when a child is introduced to a naked female breast?

See I think the bolded is really insulting to those who cant manage that. Just because it isnt hard for one person doesnt mean it isnt hard for another. BF is an individual thing and so you cant judge just on your experiences.

 

[Foogirl]

That goes both ways. Why do you get to dictate if their children see a naked breast? It's not your choice to make. I would think as a pro-BFer you would get that, but apparently that 'my child, my choice' thing only applies to the people who disagree with you.

Oh here we go...."will someone please think about the chiiiiiildren" It really does irk me when people use children as an excuse to display their own prejudices.

Seriously? You think your children are going to be scarred for life by seeing a bit of boob? And a small bit at that? Do you take them to a swimming pool? Plenty of boob on show there. How about the beach? Or any high street, or park on a warm summers day. Flesh is everywhere.

If your child is so close to me that they can see a part of my boob whilst I am feeding, simply encourage your child not to invade someone else's space in that way.