Broken heart, bad news

[lemongal7]

Hey gals. I usually stick to the regular ol TTC thread, but think I may find more help on the long term TTC forum.
DH and I have been trying since June 2009 with no luck. Finally mustered the courage to talk to ob/gyn and have hubby do a SA. Well, we got the results of the SA today and we are working with 0 sperm. Nothing.
Anyone else just felt so devastated and helpless? I think next we have to get DH to a urologist, if i can even get him to go. Like most men, he is VERY hesitant to go to any DRs. I just feel like it will never happen for us, and I've always wanted to be a Mom. Where do I go from here?

 

[MrsHennieB]

I'm so sorry
We're working with female factor infertility, so Im sorry I can't be of much help. Just couldn't read and run.
Hope the right answers are out there somewhere for you.

 

[Ebony_Blaze]

Hi Hun

I'm sorry to hear and can't be of much help but didn't want to read and run

I'm also sure the answer is out there somewhere, you just need to find it

Good luck sweetie

x

 

[MariaF]

So sorry to hear this Hun xxx we are also dealing with female factor and it feels horrible! Knowing that it's your fault you can't have a baby so be supportive of your hubby right now- I'm sure he feels very upset a out the results!

But I'm sure there are lots of girls on here that are dealing with MF a d will have lots of advice for you! Xx

 

[jojo74]

Hi, so sorry about your results. Just wanted to let you know I was Reading a thread on here the other day, it was a lady in a similar situation to yourself and her dh had 0 sperm! She arranged to be retested, before they retested she had dh stop having baths, stop putting laptop on lap, drink loads of water, when they went back for retest results were much more encouraging. Also my hubby had his test couple of months ago at our local hospital, results weren't good so we went to specialist fertility hospital with proper facilities and results came back fine, wishing you loads if luck hope all goes well xxx

 

[kaye]

aww so sorry.

We have Males problems too with sperm.

I hope your OH goes to the urologist soon and you get some advice, help and support. xxxx

 

[MrsJA]

Hi lemongal,

Sorry to hear about your news honey. There are some options for you guys, but it will require a trip to the urologist to kick things off.

He may have a blockage or variococele which is causing the issue. If that's the case, surgery may fix the problem for you.

You may also be able to try a surgical sperm extraction. Sometimes even if you have no sperm, they are able to find some inside that can be used for IVF.

And then there is donor sperm but you might not be ready to consider that just yet.

If you scroll down this page there is a thread called "Dealing with azoospermia" Lots of lovely ladies there who know a lot about this subject.

Good luck to you honey

 

[lemongal7]

thanks girls. really appreciate the encouraging words and nice to know there are others out there dealing with male or female factor infertility. good luck to you all!

 

[FutureMommie]

I am so sorry! I hope the urologist can give you guys some answers and solutions.

 

[jamie2882]

I know that issues that cause a 0 sperm count are usually fixable so Id say give him some time to process and then start looking into it. I also know that sometimes the problem is not that there is NO sperm, but that they for one reason or another can't get out with the semen. When this is the case your husband can have a very minor and non invasive procedure where they remove sperm from him and use it for an IUI, if thats an option for you they can get a good amount and freeze it so he only has to have the procedure once and you have enough for multiple IUI's if needed.

GL and

 

[keyahopes]

MrsJA has answered your q perfectly. to you. I know this must be a tough time for both of you...

 

[lemongal7]

Thanks for the advice, Jamie. I think I'll start asking around for recommendations on a Urologist and then maybe in the next month try to make an appt. I just hope its something easily fixed. DH is not so brave when it comes to DRs or surgery, so not sure he's willing to venture too far into procedures to make this happen. We'll see. I've read the same thing you have, where sometimes there is blockage and though there are sperm being made, they cant get out. Sure hope if that's the case, it's easy to correct.

 

[mtngirl]

It's funny - we have more things that can go wrong with the plumbing, but there's also more solutions.
My DH basically pushed himself into more bike riding, and said I was being bitchy every month. Since 2 abnormal SA's he's trying to take better care of himself.

It's super frustrating because guys are so weird about their parts, and really you have no control over these things (besides buying vitamins, and 'reminding').

 

[lemongal7]

Thanks mtngirl. Funny, yes, how guys have less solutions...is it just because though they may have as many issues as women with plumbing, they just arent brave enough to seek out answers and therefore there is less research/procedures available for them? Hmmm...

Yeah, is frustrating. Does your hubby bike a lot? Mine does about twice a week for maybe a couple hours each time...ive wondered if that is bad for the lil spermies??

 

[Deb111]

Hi lemongal - just following up this thread from the azoospermia one.

With regard to the biking, it 'can' cause this kind of problem. At least it's one of the things our urologist asked - along with these questions ...
- previous use of anabolic steroids
- mumps
- exposure to toxic chemicals
- trauma to the groin in terms of an accident
- repetitive less major trauma to the groin such as cycling

I hope you get some answers soon xx

 

[maliah09]

Good luck x