pinklemonade
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I'm new to this site and this is my second post..so hi..
I'm only just 18 and I really want a baby, i've told my boyfriend and he doesn't really want one, well he might do when he's older but for now he doesn't.
For a while now i've been really broody, it's like all I can think about is babies babies babies. I even rub my tummy thinking and hoping that I have a little bump, we talk about having a little familly and stuff when we're older but that just makes me even more broody, and then I just get really emotionall and start crying because I can't have the one thing I really want. He tells me that a baby isn't the only thing I have to look forward to, but it really feels like it is..
Well obviously I have things to look forward to but there's something missing in my life and I know what it is!
I know having a baby wont be perfect and plain sailing, I want to go through it all. I want to have the nervous breakdown of having to tell my parents, I want the crying and hating and then loving, I want to feel that kick in my belly, I want my boyfriend to talk to the baby with his head on my belly, I want to rub it, I want to wear tight tops that will show my bump off, I want to learn to knitt her/his little cardigans, I want to paint there room pastle shades of pink and blue, I want the pain of giving birth and the relief when I get to hold her/him in my arms, I want my own familly, I want to be woken up every 10 mins to feed her/him, I want to rock her/him to sleep after a bath, I want to rock them back to sleep again after they wake up screaming, I want to push a pram around the shops...aghhh I want it all!!!!
We use the pull out method, admittidly it isn't the best method of protection in the universe, but the last thing he wants to do is to get me pregnant now and he knows when to pull out. But this just gives me a little bit of hope that i'll miss my period each month, which I know is wrong but I can't help myself. He doesn't usually wear any protection because he can never feel anything, honestly he doesn't just say that, he's managed to succesfully use it once and that's about it, but we still try using them, he just can't feel anything. I'm thinking about going on the pill, but i'm abit wary about it, I don't really have anyone to talk to about it either, and I wouldn't know where to get them from in my area, and niether does my boyfriend.
One of the main reasons I don't think he wants a baby is because he is moving to university, as am I. Neither does he want his mum and dad thinking badly of him. We have little fantisies though, choosing names for our baby and imagining thety're sleeping inbetween us, which I suppose doesn't help me controll my feelings.
He is right about not having a baby now and waiting, our universitys are about 2 and a half hours away from each other, and about an hour and a half from where we live now. I probably would have regrets when i'm oldre about not 'enjoying myself to the full' and just being a messy student, but i'm regretting each day now for not trying to conceive : / and deep down all I can think is if I do get pregnant, i'll either defer a year or quit my course and find something better suited for me.
Don't think if I fell pregnant I would become a total bum for the rest of my life, because I won't, i'm as much determined to get a good job and stuff as I am to have a child, the more I think about it the more I want to just quit the media course i'm going to do at uni and go into publishing instead. I can't help think that getting pregnant would be better for me in the long run anyway because then I could have an excuse to change my mind about what I want to achieve.
I'm so confused, and so hopefull to have a baby.
I just needed to vent all of that out, I don't want to feel like this, I really don't. I would be better waiting i'm sure but this feeling is so strong I can't handle it. I won't do anything stupid and i'll always be honest to my boyfriend, but like I said all I can think about is babies and getting pregnant and feeling continuesly jealous.
I know i'm not ready for a baby. I just need someone to make me see sense, it's like it doesn't matter what you tell me about how I should live my life and stuff but I always think of things I can to get round that.
I feel like I have schizopherina it's driving me mad! One halfs saying HAVE A BABY NOW and hte other one i saying, that if I did get pregnant I would abort it because i'm not ready yet, and that just makes me really sad :[
thankyou for listening
xxxx
I'm only just 18 and I really want a baby, i've told my boyfriend and he doesn't really want one, well he might do when he's older but for now he doesn't.
For a while now i've been really broody, it's like all I can think about is babies babies babies. I even rub my tummy thinking and hoping that I have a little bump, we talk about having a little familly and stuff when we're older but that just makes me even more broody, and then I just get really emotionall and start crying because I can't have the one thing I really want. He tells me that a baby isn't the only thing I have to look forward to, but it really feels like it is..
Well obviously I have things to look forward to but there's something missing in my life and I know what it is!
I know having a baby wont be perfect and plain sailing, I want to go through it all. I want to have the nervous breakdown of having to tell my parents, I want the crying and hating and then loving, I want to feel that kick in my belly, I want my boyfriend to talk to the baby with his head on my belly, I want to rub it, I want to wear tight tops that will show my bump off, I want to learn to knitt her/his little cardigans, I want to paint there room pastle shades of pink and blue, I want the pain of giving birth and the relief when I get to hold her/him in my arms, I want my own familly, I want to be woken up every 10 mins to feed her/him, I want to rock her/him to sleep after a bath, I want to rock them back to sleep again after they wake up screaming, I want to push a pram around the shops...aghhh I want it all!!!!
We use the pull out method, admittidly it isn't the best method of protection in the universe, but the last thing he wants to do is to get me pregnant now and he knows when to pull out. But this just gives me a little bit of hope that i'll miss my period each month, which I know is wrong but I can't help myself. He doesn't usually wear any protection because he can never feel anything, honestly he doesn't just say that, he's managed to succesfully use it once and that's about it, but we still try using them, he just can't feel anything. I'm thinking about going on the pill, but i'm abit wary about it, I don't really have anyone to talk to about it either, and I wouldn't know where to get them from in my area, and niether does my boyfriend.
One of the main reasons I don't think he wants a baby is because he is moving to university, as am I. Neither does he want his mum and dad thinking badly of him. We have little fantisies though, choosing names for our baby and imagining thety're sleeping inbetween us, which I suppose doesn't help me controll my feelings.
He is right about not having a baby now and waiting, our universitys are about 2 and a half hours away from each other, and about an hour and a half from where we live now. I probably would have regrets when i'm oldre about not 'enjoying myself to the full' and just being a messy student, but i'm regretting each day now for not trying to conceive : / and deep down all I can think is if I do get pregnant, i'll either defer a year or quit my course and find something better suited for me.
Don't think if I fell pregnant I would become a total bum for the rest of my life, because I won't, i'm as much determined to get a good job and stuff as I am to have a child, the more I think about it the more I want to just quit the media course i'm going to do at uni and go into publishing instead. I can't help think that getting pregnant would be better for me in the long run anyway because then I could have an excuse to change my mind about what I want to achieve.
I'm so confused, and so hopefull to have a baby.
I just needed to vent all of that out, I don't want to feel like this, I really don't. I would be better waiting i'm sure but this feeling is so strong I can't handle it. I won't do anything stupid and i'll always be honest to my boyfriend, but like I said all I can think about is babies and getting pregnant and feeling continuesly jealous.
I know i'm not ready for a baby. I just need someone to make me see sense, it's like it doesn't matter what you tell me about how I should live my life and stuff but I always think of things I can to get round that.
I feel like I have schizopherina it's driving me mad! One halfs saying HAVE A BABY NOW and hte other one i saying, that if I did get pregnant I would abort it because i'm not ready yet, and that just makes me really sad :[
thankyou for listening
xxxx