I've been away for awhile, too, and of course - no luck yet.
Actually, I kind of gave up hope the last few months.
At first, I had been giving up caffeine and alcohol of any kind as the window of opportunity came closer for a few months, but since nothing's been happening no matter how good I try to be, I just say the hell with it now.
I had a strange thought, and almost a revelation of sorts. I'm a little afraid to say it here because I don't want anyone to become offended or take it the wrong way. It's just something I have come to wonder about:
Do any of you watch Mad Men?
I started watching from the first season a couple of months ago and saw all of the pregnant women in it smoking and drinking as if it were nothing. That was back in the 60s, before women were commanded to give up anything and everything they enjoyed in order to supposedly have a healthy baby. Seems a lot of folks born in the 60s have been healthy as horses, even without the precautions we take nowadays when we become pregnant, or even as we're trying to. Right?....In contrast, I see all the time articles and news reports about cases all over the spectrum of autism being on the rise. They still don't know what's causing it, and it hasn't been proven with 100% certainty that it's related to vaccines (that's a hotly debated topic, though, as I'm sure most of you already know!)....In considering all of this, something came to my mind:
Do you think, by any stretch of the imagination, that doctors telling women to stop everything cold turkey the second they discover that they're pregnant could have anything to do with it? We know what hell it can put us through as fully grown adults to suddenly quit coffee one day. What might that kind of withdrawal do to a developing embryo and fetus inside us? Obviously too much caffeine, for instance, is bad for us, but if we've been drinking a couple a' cups a morning for the last 20 years, clearly our body has gotten used to it, right? As long as we're otherwise healthy, that is. How would it screw up our chemistry to just quit when we become pregnant? What about the occasional glass of red wine to keep the heart disease away - as always - which has not been hurting us for however many years? I think you know what I'm getting at, in wondering if making sudden changes to a body chemistry that has been balanced quite nicely all along would send a shock to the system that might actually harm the little ones inside us.
Again, this is just something that occurred to me, and I'm not trying to soapbox it as a certain belief or anything...Just kind of wondering, you know?
We sure know that through the ages doctors were a lot less particular about women's pregnancy care, but loads and loads of us turned out just fine through it all anyway! XD Sorry if that was boring.
Anyway, after realizing and rethinking all of this, I decided that I'm going to just not worry about it until I know for absolutely certain of a BFP someday. I drink a single cup of coffee with powder cream and sugar in the morning, and very rarely in the afternoons, and I like the occasional glass of beer or glass of wine a few times a week, if that, so I don't think my intake of "bad stuff" is all that terrible to begin with. I just don't want to spend so much time building up to something that may never happen, I think. I have a feeling that quitting everything, having AF kick in, starting up my usual habits again and then going through the whole thing every month all over again will become depressing really quickly, and I really don't want trying to have a baby to become a depressing thing. At all.
Heheh, actually it reminds me - a friend of mine with a super cute, totally healthy 5 year old daughter told me the story about how she found out she was pregnant (she was a surprise! - they already have two kids and weren't trying for another) one morning with a cigarette hanging on her lip, a cup of coffee in one hand and the pregnancy test in the other. XD All of her kids are fine and healthy so who's to say what's going to be right or wrong for each individual, right?
Anyway, I hope my babbling didn't rub anyone the wrong way. It's just things I've been thinking about as I've become more anxious that we might not be able to make this happen.
As things stand, I believe I am about 3 dpo right now.
I felt a nasty pinch on my left side on Wednesday morning when I woke up. We had bd'd the night before, as chance actually would have it because it wasn't quite 14 days yet, and did again last night, just to try to seal the deal. My cycles have been less than predictable the last few months, and I think I actually had an anovulatory cycle last month. Didn't feel a thing. Trying to track my basal temp is useless since I sleep with my mouth open most of the time. It never changes, so I gave it up last month. Really learned to hate Fertility "Friend," too.
What kind of friend won't even let you manually enter your ovulation date because it decided on its own that it doesn't like your temps? More like Fertility Jerk. So I don't know what's going on, but I've been tired and napping every afternoon for the last nearly two weeks now since AF ended. Just feeling listless. Very little inspiration to cook dinner, clean, etc. Things I usually enjoy doing. I am prone to bouts of depression, though, so it makes me wonder if it's kicking in again, and I'm not sure how to break out of it. I went on a 5 hour hike along a mountainside yesterday to try to break out of it, but I feel like death warmed over the next day here. Very strange. I've been having lower back pain for the last week, but I can only feel it when I'm lying down in bed. That's not normal unless it's to do with AF. NOW, starting today, I have had a strange lower abdominal pressure going on. It's not gas. It feels like AF cramps, honestly. They got pretty intense at one point this afternoon, but seem to feel a little better now. I realize it's way too early for it to possibly be implantation, but could it have anything to do with following ovulation? I don't know, but it's weird. I feel run down and horrible, and I've been emotionally wonky, too.
So there it is. I just wanted to come back and try to stay in the loop, but I feel like a straggler who's not been able to keep up with the pack and am ready to just collapse from exhaustion and call the whole thing quits.
I hope all of you are doing a lot better than I've been!!!