Bumpkins & Babies Chat Thread

[colsy]

I just posted this https://www.babyandbump.com/home-life-relationships/388267-salvage-our-relationship.html#post6437072 So much shit is happening, I don't have the time, I've gotta work this afternoon. OH is in the car with Monty, going swimming. I am so fed up. I thought things were getting better. I don't think they are any more. I don't know, I really really don't know, where to go from here. I'm sorry, I'm really waffling here, not explaining at all, sorry, I can't see the screen properly cos I'm bawling my eyes out. I am so tired all the time, and I suppose he is too but he enver says cos we don't talk about anything at all, we are so shite at communicating these days, and I jsut want things to be like they should be again. And I need to go to work now, but I just had to get things down in words, cos I feel so crap and wanted to talk to somebody. Thanks for listening xx

 

[Kte]

I just posted this https://www.babyandbump.com/home-life-relationships/388267-salvage-our-relationship.html#post6437072 So much shit is happening, I don't have the time, I've gotta work this afternoon. OH is in the car with Monty, going swimming. I am so fed up. I thought things were getting better. I don't think they are any more. I don't know, I really really don't know, where to go from here. I'm sorry, I'm really waffling here, not explaining at all, sorry, I can't see the screen properly cos I'm bawling my eyes out. I am so tired all the time, and I suppose he is too but he enver says cos we don't talk about anything at all, we are so shite at communicating these days, and I jsut want things to be like they should be again. And I need to go to work now, but I just had to get things down in words, cos I feel so crap and wanted to talk to somebody. Thanks for listening xx

xxxxxx

 

[megewansmum]

I just posted this https://www.babyandbump.com/home-life-relationships/388267-salvage-our-relationship.html#post6437072 So much shit is happening, I don't have the time, I've gotta work this afternoon. OH is in the car with Monty, going swimming. I am so fed up. I thought things were getting better. I don't think they are any more. I don't know, I really really don't know, where to go from here. I'm sorry, I'm really waffling here, not explaining at all, sorry, I can't see the screen properly cos I'm bawling my eyes out. I am so tired all the time, and I suppose he is too but he enver says cos we don't talk about anything at all, we are so shite at communicating these days, and I jsut want things to be like they should be again. And I need to go to work now, but I just had to get things down in words, cos I feel so crap and wanted to talk to somebody. Thanks for listening xx

Hi Colsy...HUGE to you. My OH and I went through a really rough time for the first maybe 5.5/6 months after Megan was born. She had such bad sleep issues along with everything else and we were both so very tired. So many trips to the hospital, doctors & specialists it was draining. He couldn't bond with her and I started to resent the fact that he got to go to work and I was left home with a screaming, poorly, overtired baby all day long and got to do it all again all night long too whilst he slept through it all! In a new country with no friends or family...it was horrendous. In the end we hired the Sleepsense sleep consultant Pam Nease who was an angel and within a week we saw a huge difference. I have recommended her before and have had so many thankyou's for doing so she is great. Honestly, please give her an e-mail and mention me. She will help you. I can't post her e-mail address as I haven't been a B & B member for the required time to do so but if you google her you will get her details. I think once Megan started to STTN and nap the household mood changed dramatically and we started talking again and now we're back on track. He absolutely adores her now. I think having a baby puts a huge strain on a relationship, especially if like us, you had an active life before LO. We have been together for 15 years now and it was always so easy to go and do what we wanted when we wanted but now its a whole new ball game. It took us a long time to adjust to being "three", even though we had longed to have a baby for so many years, and the sleep deprivation is like a seemingly never ending torture! Unless you've actually had a baby with sleep issues no-one can appreciate how it feels every single day & night

 

[megewansmum]

Kte - Fantastic that Chloe pulled herself up to standing for the first time. Amazing what a hungry tummy does even if mummy got less dinner!

Maffie - So glad that the peds appointment is going to come through so quickly for Noah and glad he's in no pain. Brilliant that you felt the baby move. I remember how excited I was when I first felt Megan. It's so special.

I have some great news myself...Megan started to eat again Not the same amounts as previously, and even that was tiny, but at least she's eating something. Yesterday she also picked up cheerios using her pincer grip for the first time! I know its not much but it nearly made me cry. Now all she wants is cheerios. This opens up a whole new world of self feeding for her hopefully. I tried her on cheese on toast yesterday but her blinking vegan cheese just doesn't melt!!! The toast kept burning before it had even started to melt, horrible stuff.

 

[Kte]

megewansmum: Excellent that Megan has started to eat again

Maffie: Yey on feeling baby!

 

[florabean1981]

all, sorry I haven't been around much the past couple of days... Just some stuff that happened this end; I'm not gonna talk about it on here (haven't told anyone except OH, and even that ended in our first ever real arguement in 4 years), but anyways, am feeling a bit better about things now... i hope...

also, someone asked me how things were between me & my siblings now... My sister & I still aren't speaking... I am still very angry with her, especially since I was still gettign threats from her 'freinds' and she also 'forgot' to post the thankyou card my nephew wrote me for the b'day pressies I got him... My mum found out that she also didn't even tell him it was from me at first & that she had to tell him!!! That really upset me My brother & I are no closer to resolving anything either, but I can live with that as I haven't seen him sincre last sept anyway & I dont care anymore if he never wants to meet Harry.

I'm off to Norwich on weds for a week to see my friends & family up there again. I literally cannot wait!!!!

Congrats to Megan on the picer grip- having that will defo make feeding herself easier I swear! And WTG Chloe for standing up by herself. And Maffie, that must be such an awesome feeling feeling the baby move!!!!

Here, Harry's 1st tooth just cut through the gum last night & he slept through the night for the 1st time in 6 days too, which felt like heaven. He's been totally chilled today, so I can only assume his tooth had been really bothering & now that t's cut, he's not in pain anymore. I honestly never realised how sharp those little teeth could be either. I thought he had an ulcer on his gum, so I put my finger in the put some gel on it & was so shocked (but happy) when I felt sharpness, lol.

Colsy, sending you some HUGE xxxxx

 

[aimee-lou]

Maffie - Yay for feeling baby!!

Megansmum - So pleased to read she's eating again. Maybe teeth or something was stopping her eating. Cheerios are a favourite here too and don't forget, 'there's a lot of good in those littls o's!!' (I watch far too much tv!!)

Colsy - I'm sorry to read about you having trouble. I think even the strongest of us have our ups and downs and I think you've done marvelously to cope as well as you have with Monty's colic and sleep problems. I think maybe it's time to take some 'you' time. Is there a way you could get away for an afternoon/day/weekend as a couple? If Hubby and I are having problems (granted it's easy for us now we're living with MIL) we put Earl down for a nap, go for a walk and talk it through. It's just us, no baby talk, no 'Mummy' or 'Daddy' (we refer to one aother as this in front of Earl to try to get Earl talking lol ). Maybe some counselling that I think someone on the thread has suggested...... if you want to save it, then it's worth working at. Big hugs to you all....it sounds to me like the stress of the past year or so is ust coming to a head so I hope that you come out of the other side happy.

Been a so-so day today. Earl has had a grump on and I couldn't figure out why until tea time when he guzzled down so much food! I think he must have been hungry then it occured to me that he had missed both his snacks I went and signed on only to come on here and find I have an interview on Tuesday. Blooming typical! lol Hopefully something good will come of all this (and we may have a bit of money soon lol).

Hope we're all good. I'm off to get a cuppa

 

[florabean1981]

good luck with the interview Aimee

 

[Maffie]

Flora big hope whatever it is thats happening your way is resolved and yay for the tooth.

Aimee good luck with the interview.

Megawansmum yay for the eating, cant be some cheerios

Well Noah refused his last milk and is running a temp so need to go zap his temp again soon. How often are you meant to check it when it's raised?

 

[helz81]

That makes it official then now...Ethan is the only one left to still not have no teeth bless my beautiful little gummy bear had a bad day with him today though,he been very aggitated,so I doubt were far away from that 1st tooshie.
Other than teeth,things seem to be happening so fast,its like he's learning something new each day! Today it was clapping his hands!
Health visitor coming tommorow for the 8month check.
to each and every one of you xxx

 

[florabean1981]

aww, hope Ethan gets some teeth soon Helz.

guess what? TMI probably, but oh well, may as well share, but I think I may've just got my period back? Not sure tbh, but I think it could be good old AF... 1st one in nearly 2 years, lol. Oh well, I guess that explains the crap skin, hair, tummy aches, terrible sleep patter & foul mood swings the past week maybe?

 

[Chaos]

Evenin' girls,

Well I don't know what the fuck is up with my body right now. I think my immune system is just totally outta whack, cause I now have Autumns head cold. I'm sick of being sick!!! I've now lost 15lbs in 9 fricking days cause I can't eat anything!!

It's only got to go up from here, right ... RIGHT???? lol.

Colsy ~ Sorry you're having a rough time right now. Don't know what to tell you really. Lack of sleep can make the littlest things blow out of proportion. I read somewhere (Maybe on the other thread) that for you both to go out to dinner by your self and have a relaxing evening. Have you not got anyone that can take Monty for a night, so you can spend some good time together and both just get an decent nights sleep?

Maffs ~ Aww poor lil man. At least its fixable tho. How are you doing?? You been back to the Dr?
Hmm re fever, when missy had hers I took it every couple hours and just kept on offering water to sip

Kte ~ wtg Chloe!!!!! Now nothing at table level is safe!! lol

Megewansmum ~ yay for eating!!

Flora ~ Sorry you're having hassles, chica. loving the new FB pics! Proper little climber there! and YAY for teeth!!

Aimee ~ Glad Earls grumps wasn't anything serious! Good luck with the interview!

So it's offical, Missy now stands by her self, she can stand for like 2 or 3 minutes at a time. Oh lawdy, those steps are coming. ARGHH, I was hoping they'd not show up till 12 months. Now I REALLY have to baby proof. BOO.

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[Neferet]

Ooohh... I remember Bumpkinishness from when we were all pregnant! =]
Only just discovered that there's groups on here though lol!
So hellooooooooo everybody! XD

 

[Chaos]

Ooohh... I remember Bumpkinishness from when we were all pregnant! =]
Only just discovered that there's groups on here though lol!
So hellooooooooo everybody! XD

Good to see you back!

 

[Kte]

Morning all,

Cheerio's were one of my pregancy cravings! Mmmm really fancy a bowl now!

Flora: Hope things get sorted whatever they may he Hope it is just the AF rearing it's ugly head!

Aimee: Good luck with the interview

Helz: Well done Ethan on clapping! Hope the check goes well with the HV and you get some nice freebies!

Choas: Hope you feel better soon WOW! Well done standing up Autumn! That's it now, more things to hide and shoes to buy!! Her dress is gorgeous btw, I love that colour Glad to see it's not only Chloe who like to have her mouth full of random objects! It was a rubber duck this morning

Nerefet: :wave: Welcome back!

colsy: Hope your okay

Chloe was in the nursery incident book yesterday, another baby wanted the toy she had and lunged for it and ended up scratching her eye She has a red scab / scratch mark right across her cheek up to her eye. She isn't bothered by it thankfully and they had put a cold compress on it and gave her cuddles to make her feel better.

Well best get some work done along with time

 

[colsy]

Thankyou to all of you for the hugs, advice, and general nice-ness. So ... I pulled myself together and we talked. I wrote down a list of 'stuff' and he did the same, and we tried really hard to only talk about those things on the list, otherwise we'd end up digressing and talking about tiny bollox stuff that really doesn't matter in the general scheme of things. We were actually both really impressed with how we both dealt with it all. We had to stop at 10pm, so we could go to bed, otherwise we'd have potentially ended up getting no sleep, but even so we still talked loads and loads and I think we both felt we'd finally reached an agreement that we need to get back from the brink. What we need now is to decide HOW to come back from the brink. Most of all, really, we accepted that almost all our issues would not so much go away as become much easier to deal with if we got some decent sleep. Funnily enough, after all that, Monty woke just once last night - he had a feed at midnight and then slept through til 6.20am, so he actually woke up in his own cot, and at a sensible time of day! Granted, he does this from time to time, so I won't get overly excited, but at least it meant we've had a night where one of us wasn't pacing the boards at 3am.

So ... we are both in a much happier frame of mind today. I don't for one minute kid myself that everything is all sorted out, because obviously you don't sort out big stuff with just one evening's chat, but the big deal is that we have acknowledged we have issues and therefore that we need to deal with them. (I feel like I'm at AA, only instead of telling people I drink too much, I'm saying 'My name's C and I've got a dodgy relationship'!)

One of the biggest issues is work-related, but without boring you all to tears with the full details, I have to say that I just need to accept some of that, because it ain't going to change in quite a while. It's not exactly what we had planned, but on the other hand there are some pros to it, even though most the time I can only see the cons. Anyway, that's really something for me to work on and I shouldn't blame OH for it, cos he is doing his best on that front.

This morning has been nice, because we've had normal conversations, we've been completely chilled with each other, and neither of us has so much as started to snap or lose temper. Whether that's because we slept well or because we talked about stuff last night, I don't know - the point is, we've been NICE to each other, which is something that has almost been unheard of for ages. I am now meant to be working (except I'm on here!), and OH has taken Monty down to the village to pay in some cheques, buy lunch, etc.

I think that's enough of me, so ...

Megan's Mum, that's lovely that Megan has found her pincer grip - it's so cute when they start to pick up little things like strawberries and raisins.

Florabean, fab to hear Harry's tooth finally came through - and yeah, I agree, they're mega sharp! I hope your probs get sorted, whatever they are - sorry to hear you and OH had a big barney, but if it's the first in four years then I think you're amazing

Aimee, great you've got an interview - is it for a 'career job' or just a filler while you wait for the real thing?

Helz, don't worry that Ethan hasn't got teeth yet - we all know that babies are so different in their development. I used to worry that Monty hadn't learned to roll over ... but then once he learned to roll, the crawling and standing followed almost the next day, so for one skill he was almost the last Bumpkin to learn it but fir other skills he was almost the first to learn it.

Chaos, shame you're feeling crappy again. OH has been ill on and off ever since Monty was born. He is having various tests (I mentioned the coeliac thing on here I think - that test is soon), but the dr does say that much of his sickness has been simply related to having a new baby - lack of sleep and all the other stuff does depress your immune system, so I think it's something that we as new-ish parents have to accept for a while, crap as that is. I hope you feel better ASAP.

Maffie, lovely to hear that you felt baby kick. Are you going to find out whether it's a boy or a girl? Or are you a 'surprise girl' like me? I hope you get some answers to your medical probs soon - you've really been through the mill, and it just seems unfair that you've now got more stuff to contend with. It's nice that you obviously get on well enough with your ma to be able to live with her for the moment. (My mum and I would have killed each other by now if I was living there ) BTW, you mentioned emigrating - very exciting! Will you share your plans, or are you keeping quiet at the mo? More to the point, can we come and visit?

Kaites, I ADORE your new avatar of Emma. I have, until now, always made a point of not putting up pix of Monty online. I dunno, I am just wary cos you hear stories don't you? But I think I'm the only Bumpkin now that hasn't shown off her lovely baby, so maybe I should get my pix up there? I will ask OH first, though, as it was actually him that pointed out to me I maybe didn't want to put a load of pix on the net.

Have I remembered you all? Big sorries if I've missed anyone. I really must go and work now. Thanks once again for all the lovely messages you all sent me yesterday. I've changed my mood status from 'Lonely' to 'Mellow', so clearly you all achieved something for me

Bye for now xxx

 

[Kte]

Colsy: Glad you and your hubby have been able to have a chat and have made a start at working together Really wishing you all the best on working things out Picture wise, if you worried pop a signature over it / watermark. I have seen a few people do that on here so that their picture can't be stolen for any reason. I tend to put lots of pictures on FB but I make sure I have super security settings on them so only the people I want to see them can. It would be nice to take a peek at Monty but it's understandable if you don't want to post him on the web

Reminds me of when my elder sister used to go around with a photograph of me as a baby in her purse; she cut my Mum out of the picture cry and used to lie to all her mates saying it was her baby. The weirdo. (My eldest sis, not the one I usually mention!).

 

[helz81]

Thanks Flora and Kte, I hope he does soon too, like real soon! Although my daughter didn't get any teeth untill the week before she turned 1! She got both bottom 2 at once,then they all popped through really quick after that. Same with my son Ellis,he was quite late too,although younger than Ethan is now,he was 8months and also got bottom 2 through at once. MIL tells me that hubby didn't get teeth untill he turned 1 so our babies were never destined to get teeth early!!
Chaos and Colsy and love the pic Chaos,pretty dress! Wow she doesn't half look grown up stood there like that! You'd think there was 6 months between her and my Ethan not 6 weeks!!
Best be going,get some jobs done while lil uns asleep in his cot, health visitor coming later xxx

 

[Maffie]

Colsy no definite plans but its something ive always thought of. Hopefully will get some travelling in once the babies are a little bigger. I'll probably find out the sex im hoping it will help with bonding.

Noah still has fever I cant get his temp below 38, I need to phone docs for myself too but they are a tad rubbish. Need to sort these weird fainting spells.

Flora must say I dont miss my periods!

Colsy glad you had a chance to chat.

Kte hope Chloe is ok after her accident.

 

[megewansmum]

Morning everyone or afternoon everyone if you're in UK

Colsy - So pleased that you and your OH are making such great progess and things are looking much rosier for you. I'm sure now you've talked everything will be so much better and although it will undoubtedly take time it will definitely improve now. Yeh too for Monty only waking once!

Florabean - Sorry to hear about the relationship with the siblings. I hope that improves for you. My OH's brother doesn't speak to us due to SIL hating me so I know how dreadful that can be. Have a fab time up in Norwich. Yeh for Harry's first tooth and I love the new picture of him. He's lovely!

Aimee - Good luck with the interview.

Maffie - for Noah. Hope his temperature comes down soon and he's feeling better.

Helz - Yeh for Ethan learning to clap. I've been trying to show Megan how to clap now for ages and she loves it but she's just not getting it, bless her.

Chaos - Sorry you're feeling so poorly. Autumn looks absolutely gorgeous in the picture. I think its amazing that she's standing on her own. Megan can't even crawl or move around yet. She justs sits and spins on her bottom. Can't believe how advanced Autumn is.

Kte - Sorry to hear about Chloe at nursery but glad she's ok.

Well, my elation at Megan's eating was short lived. She refused her dinner last night. I tried her on mashed potato, carrot, cauliflower and salmon that we were having and she hated it all. She has been having it pureed but I thought due to her new pincer grip I would try it just on her tray. Anyway she just mushed it all in her fingers and wouldn't even eat any of it if I gave it to her. I tried her on one of my purees after that and she just spat it out. Just don't know what to feed her anymore. She won't eat purees, won't eat lumps and will only eat cheerios, cheese sandwiches (if broken up and given to her), and toast (same as sandwiches). Oh and soy yoghurt. Why did I get one of these babies?????????????? Everything has been a struggle with her!