C-section Mommy Club!

[tiger]

hi there
i had an emergency c-section 7weeks ago, due to my little mans heartbeat dropping to 40bpm 5 times in labour!! when i got to 10cm n was pushing found out he was back to back n coming out face presentation (face first) n his neck was getting bent back severely with each contraction (hence the heartrate going down), went to the Operating room to try the suction cap, they tried n it came flying off his head, blood everywhere n they lost his heartbeat completely. Last thing i remember is them kicking my OH out of the room (in case bub didnt make it), i was put under a general anaesthetic so wasnt even technically there for the birth . found out later they shoved a life support tube down my throat too because my heartbeat skyrocketed n they thought they would lose me too have to say it was the most horrible and traumatic experience i have ever gone through! I will defintely be opting for an elective second time round! lol
hugs to all

 

[Dee_H]

Hi...I had a c-section on March 28, 2009. After 4 days of labour, 3 1/2 hours of pushing and baby being face up and getting stuck...I had a c-section. Recovery was rough and to this day I am still numb about an inch all around my incision...but I'm hoping to have a section with baby #2. The docs did a really nice job and I healed beautifully...just a thin red line. Good luck to the first time c-section people.

 

[chele]

Heya, my name is Michele too and I had an emergency c-section 6 weeks ago.

I was induced and after 7 hours of labour the heartrate started to drop to 50bpm with each contraction. They told me they would check, take some blood from babies head and depending on how many cms I was dilated possibly let me carry on. As soon as the doctor went up there he confirmed I was only 3cm so no way was I carrying on.

I was secretly happy as I was in agony overcontracting on the drip. The spinal was amazing. I LOVED my c-section sooooooooooooo much

However I am left feeling like I cheated. I sometimes still feel like Max isn't actually mine as he was "presented" to me, rather than me pushing him out. I have gone over and over it in my head to decide what to do next time, and as much as I love my c-section and I had a super recovery, I still am considering a VBAC so I can experience the actual pushing out as I was no way near that stage. I worry though that I'll have an awful VBAC experience leaving me with stitches, forceps, blood transfusions etc.

My wound looks good but is still weeping. No idea why or how long it will go on for. I had an infection once but it appears to have cleared up now. But to be honest I've done too much since Max was born and made it ache some days.
I've also lost a lot of the sensation in the area. My mum actually had the same birth when I was born and still 30 years later has a loss of sensation.

The actual experience itself really amazed me. I think I was half high on the gas and air and just relieved the pain was over. I was in awe of the whole procedure.
Luckily I had no staples or stitches and I was off the pain meds after 4 days. I was up and about the same day (born 3am up at 3pm) and had minimal lochia although it still took 5 weeks to dry up completely.

 

[pink23]

i had a c section in december. I wish i had rested like i was told. Do take pain killers before you need them. X i didn't get much pain only when i laughed x i will probably have baby #2 with a c section just hope i go to 38 weeks at the earliest x

 

[SugarKisses]

Did anyone have an infection? I did, was so so painful....I personally think mine was worse than the labour, but saying that, maybe it wouldnt have been as bad if I had my baby here to nurse....my mind would have been pre-occupied rather than thinking of nothing but the pain x x x

 

[tasha41]

Donna, yes I had infections... I agree, they are no treat. I felt like the energy was being sucked right out of me.. couldn't eat or do anything really but sleep and lay down.

Does everyone have a skin fold after their c-sections??

 

[chele]

do you mean like a skin tag or?

Yes I had an infection in a small area of my scar, it was red and sore but not painful just uncomfortable to walk round
Sugarkisses - so sorry to see your signature. I had no idea about Luke xxxx

 

[tasha41]

No, like the little bit of tummy that kinda hangs over your scar!! I can't lose mine

 

[MommyMichele]

No, like the little bit of tummy that kinda hangs over your scar!! I can't lose mine

That's referred to as the 'apron'. Not sure how to get rid of it as I've never had it I don't think.

 

[chele]

"bit of tummy"??!!! Bit...
Loooooooooooooooooooooool, I have a mahooooosive overhang!!!

I've decided I am having an elective c-section with tummy tuck

 

[chuck]

I'm quite lucky as I don't seem to have much of an over hang / tuck my scar is very neat (except its wonky and long) but it doesnt tuck in much iykwim. I did post a pic on another thread somewhere...I'll see if I can find it.

I know what you mean I felt a lot like the baby I was given wasn't mine, I wasn't shown him when he was out or told when he was out, I heard him cry and had to ask if he was ok.

I'm still struggling a bit with it tbh.

I really want to vbac next time but hubby thinks I'm mad for even wanting to try incase it allgoes wrong agian he thinks I want to do it just to prove something to myself...which I guess isnt too far from the truth but unless I have instruments etc then the recovery would be soooo much easier!

 

[pink23]

my scar has healed nicely but have a flabby belly lol x i really want a vbac but i think i due to my diabetes and probably my bp i wont. A vbac does scare me but i'd love to try x

 

[chuck]

The idea of another section scares me more, I was alone last time and the team only spoke to me to ask if I felt sick, it was horrible.

It was a procedure, I didnt give birth I didnt even get a delivery, to me it feels more like I was just on some conveyor belt in out next please.

I am NEVER DTD on my birthday again having to be in hospital around the xmas holidays was ridiculous, there was nothing open so my husband couldn't eat all day, he's squeamish at the best of times and having had nothing to eat he wouldn't come to theatre as he felt sick/faint already after watching me go through torture with a drip turned to max and no pain relief.

Nope siree I'd rather vbac at home, g n a will do fine if the pain builds in a natural way and isn't amplified by a drip, I can move around there'll be no drips/cathetar/tubes coming out of me and he can be there for me this time.

Well we'll see, knowing my luck there'll be some complication whihch forces me into hospital next time I just know it - I sailed through pregnancy this time no sickness nothing so I reckon the next will be worse lol it'll be just my luck!

 

[chuck]

there's this thread in girly sanctuary for those who are interested if you havent already seen it..

https://www.babyandbump.com/girly-sanctuary/271894-c-section-mark-love-pic-pg2-5-6-9-10-16-a.html

it hasnt been used in a while now though.

 

[chele]

Yeah I'm interested in what labour pains are like when you go through natural labour. Mine was induced and was so bloody painful. I am hoping next time I don't get pre-eclampsia again and can try and go into labour naturally if I opt for the VBAC. I've got some time to ponder my choice yet though.

 

[chele]

there's this thread in girly sanctuary for those who are interested if you havent already seen it..

https://www.babyandbump.com/girly-sanctuary/271894-c-section-mark-love-pic-pg2-5-6-9-10-16-a.html

it hasnt been used in a while now though.

oh holy crap I wish I'd not looked at those now. I am sooooooooooooooo jealous. I need a crane to lift up my apron so you can see mine. Mine does look good when you eventually dig deep under my major belly hang

 

[pink23]

i had pre eclampsia at 36 weeks and was induced and hated every min of it. just waiting for nothing to happen.i think my scar is fading now but by time its not as visable i will probably carrying baby #2 xx

 

[chuck]

i had pre eclampsia at 36 weeks and was induced and hated every min of it. just waiting for nothing to happen.i think my scar is fading now but by time its not as visable i will probably carrying baby #2 xx

Same here we're going to TTC the end of this year, we always planned on having 2 close together. although I'm not sure I'm ready mentally to even consider it yet.

The way the delivery went really cut me deeply, I know it could have been a lot worse - I mean I could have been under a general or I could have had instruments needed stitches, I didnt get any infection blah blah blah but I got to 9 and a half cm and didnt get chance to push, I was shown a baby that I didnt experience coming into the world and was treated like cattle - just another person another number in the hospital.

I really don't want to go back to a hospital.

I feel like I missed out on so much I'm still struggling to come to terms with it and feel like it was worth it, I mean yes the pregnancy was worth it and I love my son but the days of labour and everything I had to deal with in hospital certainly werent worth it.

 

[tasha41]

I don't really say I "gave birth" still, but I have come to terms with it, the operation got my baby here safely, and we are both doing well and healthy now.

I still do get a bit upset, 2 of Andrew's cousins just had their babies,

One went natural and was in labour for only a couple of hours,
The other tried natural and had a c-section with no issues, her labour wasn't bad either, she had a c-section because he was a huge baby and that caused her to push before she was 'ready', her cervix was swollen, they wanted her to take the epidural and sleep 5 hours then try again, she just said she'd have the c-section.

But then I begged for a c-section or vacuum or some kind of help when I was in labour and they wouldn't give it to me, they told me I was doing good, then I found out when the OBGYN came in that Elyse wasn't coming down at all

 

[chuck]

Dewi was back to back and has his chin stuck out so I couldnt get to 10 and even try to push. I was stuck at 4/5 cm so went to hospital and I'm sure if I ad stayed in the birth cebtre he would have turned eventually he just wasnt ready.

But no flat on my back on a bed poked with tubes and drips there was no chance of him turning and me with unnatural contractions and a slowed labour because of the epi.

grrr...once they started meddling that was it, I knew I'd end up with a section after arriving in the hospital over 12 hours prior to going to surgery they told me not to eat anything even though I needed to save the energy to push?!!wtf?? contradiction much?!