Before I gave birth I would have never imagined getting an elective c section, but now I think it is great to have that option available.
I had a horrible tear that I am still not fully healed from. I could barely walk for 2 weeks and couldn't sit for nearly a month, and you can imagine how that affected the bonding I had with my LO as restricted as I was. So damn right I am considering an elective c sec for the next one because I don't want that trauma again. I would rather see how a c section goes. I am terrified of tearing again. What if I tore again? What if I had complications and became incontinent for life? I think that qualifies as "worring what happens to my downstairs", and it is a VALID concern.
But I am in the US, so no NHS here. I pay for my insurance, so I expect to get the service and care I want. It is great to live at a time when so many options are available for women.
But were talking about the NHS here, so its not your money, if i were paying privately for my care id expect comepletly different levels of care. I still wouldnt opt for a section unless needed but that my opioion. But the debate is refering to the NHS, where i think you should be able to have a voice in your care, but its completly different, if i was paying private id have a boob argmentation as well as other "cosmetic" procedures but i wouldnt expect that from the NHS. Not saying that tearing is cosmetic btw.
I had a 3rd degree epistomy with my son, i still have pain there 23 months down the line, i have massive scarring to the area, not only did i have that, it also tore open again and then got infected, yes i was in pain, a lot of pain, but i got on with it as i had a baby who needed me and no one around to help or moan to (family was 500 miles away).
The way i see it if if i have a section i WILL HAVE a massive scar!!! I will have longer healing time! As for not being able to sit properly for a week, i remember that, as i say i can still feel mine now from time to time, but a section WILL be a longer, worse recovery.
Where as if i have the option id rather take the risk that it may not happen or happen as badly, it could happen worse i realise, but so could my section go wrong and be left dead, or infertile etc. I personally feel a section will present the greater risk.
Saying that i know of plenty of people who had circumstances like yours and were given sections on the NHS because of the tramatic factor, i personally dont understand it, but clearly others like yourself, dont have the same fears and issues i have with regards sections.
So even if you were here you would likely be given a section if your so traumatised by your recovery, although im sure you will be told that you need to expect a worse recovery.
Do i worry about my downstairs? yes, its really affected my sex life, but i dont see that as a reason for a section. Esp not one on the NHS, you pay for your care and therefore are entitle to whatever you want, i personally cant why you think a section would be better, but i can understand your pain and fears, and i do have issues with what things look like down there, but id rather my scars be there then on my stomach and i have even looked into having things fixed "down there" but i dont see the point of that until im done having kids.
Not sure if your pregnant now or not, but wishing you all the best with your next delivery however that be.
makes me so sad!
